Ivory_Tower Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Its been around four months since our split. My ex dumped me when I had a tumor, said he never wanted to marry me, and that if I were to ever get pregnant I would have to have an abortion. Those seem like reasons enough to block him. Up until this point I have kept him and everyone else on there to appear neutral. I know that sounds weird, but I want him to think that I don't care. At the beginning of the break up I put up really nice pictures of myself. A lot of guys complimented them, I feel silly now. Please help me find the courage to rid myself of him completely. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Do it. You know its for the best, and you know it will help you. Take this step. Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted September 16, 2009 Author Share Posted September 16, 2009 Do it. You know its for the best, and you know it will help you. Take this step. There are a ton of people that need to be deleted, should I do it? Even his friends... Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Do it! You can do it! I believe in you, honey! Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Oh yes! get rid of every last trace of him!! unless their really good friends you need/talk too, then whats the point of having him/them on there? Link to comment
baxxter Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 I've read your story before, and you don't need this guy in your life. He even put up a face to hide what he did to you from his friend. You could have just gone ballistic and told everyone what he did, but you kept civil. I see why you shouldn't get rid of him now. You are clearly very attractive woman, and can easily move on with a better choice, who would need anything that holds you back? Just take them down. Do it, do it! Good luck! Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted September 16, 2009 Author Share Posted September 16, 2009 I've read your story before, and you don't need this guy in your life. He even put up a face to hide what he did to you from his friend. You could have just gone ballistic and told everyone what he did, but you kept civil. I see why you shouldn't get rid of him now. You are clearly very attractive woman, and can easily move on with a better choice, who would need anything that holds you back? Just take them down. Do it, do it! Good luck! Thank you, I just deleted him. I'm not sure who to delete next! Clearly, when he said that he wanted to be friends that was BS, right? I haven't heard from him in four months Link to comment
baxxter Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Well done! Maybe he said so because he didn't want to be the bad guy! But doesn't matter, you don't need this one! Link to comment
Bella20 Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 OMG , he is a jerk! delete him now!!! Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted September 16, 2009 Author Share Posted September 16, 2009 What do I do with all of these other random people that are his friends...his siblings...stepsiblings? Link to comment
dangletsbang Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Keeping him..and everyone who reminds you of him...is just going to make everything absolutely worse. It's hard - but you can do it.. Be strong! Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 its very EMPOWERING to remove people who you find toxic from your life! its so easy .. just hit the little X next to their name! its the best thing you can do for yourself! Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 now delete his family and friends!! you can do it!! lol Link to comment
TheBeef Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 It felt good when I removed all of my ex's friends.... I ALMOST kept the ONE friend of hers that is single, and who I had met first. My ex was always worrisome that I had always wanted her friend instead, and just settled. She was wrong, but I thought that would be a bit of a lark to leave her on as my friend, while removing the rest. *LOL* Link to comment
atlanticstar Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 I wouldn't stop until I'd deleted all of them. As the others have pointed out, this will make you feel so much better. Unless they are REAL friends, there is no point in them being there. Do it! Click away and feel the power! Link to comment
erks Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Or you could just delete your own profile and stay away from Facebook.... it might make things a whole lot easier not looking at anyone or anything that reminds you of him.... Link to comment
Iamarock Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 I highly recommend that you go through and delete everyone and everything (untag photos) that reminds you of him. I am at the three month point as of yesterday and I am very happy that unfriending my ex and her sister was one of the first things that I did. Untagging myself from photos also proved to be a good thing, as just looking at them was enough to send me spiraling. There are plenty of other issues that I am still having in my breakup, but at least the temptation afforded by facebook is gone. You will thank yourself for doing it. I promise. Bottom Line: Go nuts! Delete all that reminds you of him, aside from real friends (as many people have already suggested). Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 Just do it and don't look back! You'll feel so much better when you do it! Be strong and firm on this. What do you really have to lose? Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted September 16, 2009 Author Share Posted September 16, 2009 Will this make me look like an angry person? I mean, its been four months and I haven't heard a word from him... Link to comment
baxxter Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 They will think you are a noble as you kept your cool for 4 months. It is dignified to delete them at this point. They will accept the reason for you to be doing this as the sufficient time has passed. Link to comment
SnowFox Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 It doesn't matter what they think of you. Focus on yourself and what is best for you. Eliminating someone from Facebook is really not that big of a deal in the overall scheme of life. Anyone who is a true, close friend or family member can easily pick up the phone or send you an email if they need to reach you. Link to comment
indian Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Sooner you do it...better it is going to be for you.......I deleted my ex and all her friends in a jiffy and even blocked them from facebook so that even by mistake I don't land in their terittory or vice versa... If something is hurting you get rid of it....Imagine it this way...If something is harmful for your body and health you will avoid it all costs similarly if something is bad for your emotional and mental well being...avoid it. Block her immediately Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted September 17, 2009 Author Share Posted September 17, 2009 Sooner you do it...better it is going to be for you.......I deleted my ex and all her friends in a jiffy and even blocked them from facebook so that even by mistake I don't land in their terittory or vice versa... If something is hurting you get rid of it....Imagine it this way...If something is harmful for your body and health you will avoid it all costs similarly if something is bad for your emotional and mental well being...avoid it. Block her immediately I already blocked him and I have slowly been weeding out the toxic friends. One problem---his former best friend is my neighbor. Link to comment
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