tara19 Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Im wondering why people cheat on the person they surposing love ? do they get bored or they cant risk temptation or they are bullsy enought to break up with them ? ive never been cheated on and would never cheat.. im just wondering why people do it. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 They're emotionally detached and no longer committed. Hence, the mind wanders free and they follow their minds with their words and then their actions. In some cases, its a lapse, in others, its permanent. Link to comment
jessica911 Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 people that do that are mean people, people that doesnt care about you or love you anymore. if you can't let go of that person, than you have to face him/she cheating on you over and over again. good luck Link to comment
tara19 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Share Posted September 3, 2009 if their no longer committed to the one they love, why not have the heart and break up withthem.. saves the person who got chated on feeling worthless and continousily asking themselves what they did wrong or what they could of done better. i think cheating is possibly the worst thing ever.. cheating as in kissing right threw to sex.. Link to comment
Mia_of_Doom Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 if their no longer committed to the one they love, why not have the heart and break up withthem.. saves the person who got chated on feeling worthless and continousily asking themselves what they did wrong or what they could of done better. i think cheating is possibly the worst thing ever.. cheating as in kissing right threw to sex.. Many cheaters are also cowards. They don't have the balls to just break up with someone and avoid communicating about issues because it means stepping up and challenging yourself to be a better partner. I've been cheated on, it sucks. But I wouldn't call it the worst thing ever. Link to comment
tara19 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Share Posted September 3, 2009 from what one of my best friends has just been threw..it seems the worst thing. it really is cowardly ay. its like u trust that person and everything and then they go do that to u. arghh .. * * * * relationships lol Link to comment
Mia_of_Doom Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Once you're able to heal from it, you realize you're better off without that person and they're not worth your time and feelings. Link to comment
jackie100 Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 People cheat for all sorts of reasons and some don't even feel guilty at all... They feel that the cheating is separate from the love they have with their partner... Some guys see prostitutes on the side because they consider it a "hobby"... So many reasons why people cheat - some men want sexual variety, perhaps the wife or gf is not kinky in bed or perhaps the guy has fetishes he is afraid to tell his partner so he goes and visits prostitutes -to some men it's fun, it validates their ego, it makes them feel good about themselves if other women are attracted to them, they need reassurance - some men cheat cause the wife or gf is not giving them enough sex. some men have very high sex drives and when their not getting it at home they feel they have to release it they'll explode - some people feel that they want to have their cake and eat it too. they feel they are entitled to a steady partner but also want something extra on the side... and not just mean cheat.. plenty of women do too... Link to comment
winegums7 Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 People cheat if they are not 100% happy in their relationship, if theyre not committed anymore or bored of it Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Mainly out of selfishness and cowardness.... Link to comment
karvala Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 People cheat for a variety of reasons - there are different types of cheaters out there - but there is one common theme for all of them: they think they can beat the system and gain something without it costing anyone anything. Very few people that cheat do so in an expectation of being caught; almost all of them that think about it at all (and some don't, believe it or not) convince themselves that what they're doing, if not right, is at least not ultimately going to be harmful to anyone. It's a completely mistaken belief, since cheating invariably harms a relationship even if it's not found out, but this is what people cheating generally believe and how they justify to themselves going ahead with the action. Link to comment
jahur Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 there is another reason why people cheat, egs: boyfriend thinks his girl is cheating, and is not satisfied with her answers, so he goes out and gets in a cheat, to justify his beliefs, finds out she is innocent, oooer! what class of cheating is this? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 there is another reason why people cheat, egs: boyfriend thinks his girl is cheating, and is not satisfied with her answers, so he goes out and gets in a cheat, to justify his beliefs, finds out she is innocent, oooer! what class of cheating is this? That is "misguided revenge cheating". I would hope after doing something like that the person would learn a very important lesson about cheating and about being vengeful. There are many reasons people cheat..unhappiness with the relationship but don't want to split because they are getting certain perks from being in a relationship....unhappiness within themself....the thrill of doing something daring and "dangerous"....the sexual thrill...the thrill of having other people desire them etc. Link to comment
jahur Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 That is "misguided revenge cheating". I would hope after doing something like that the person would learn a very important lesson about cheating and about being vengeful. There are many reasons people cheat..unhappiness with the relationship but don't want to split because they are getting certain perks from being in a relationship....unhappiness within themself....the thrill of doing something daring and "dangerous"....the sexual thrill...the thrill of having other people desire them etc. thanks c.a.d's, will look at my bro in a different light! misguided revenge... god! sounds like a good film title! Link to comment
Mimori Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Hey there, I figured I'd direct you to a past posting of mine: It was an article I wrote on the forum about Cheating (in general). It's sort of long...But you might find it intriguing and it covers a lot of ground about it from my personal view and studies. Link to comment
jahur Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 how about a drug and alcohol fuelled cheating, is this excusable, cocaine in issue here. esp if the cheater is high and drunk and on a misgudied revenge cheating spree... because he thinks is SO is cheating! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 so many reasons people cheat. you can say just about anything, but ultimately it comes down to the person who does it seeing that it's an okay thing to do. plenty of people that don't do it no matter the circumstance. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 What about this other reason some cheat.... They cheat because their SO cheated on them once (or more) and still not getting over it, they see it as payback time. This is called revenge cheating.... I would do revenge cheating if I ever got cheated on but first I imagine myself setting him up for a trap. This means that I would pretend I had forgiven him and will work it out while going with the setup of cheating him back. Go along with that plan for almost 2 till I finally tell him the truth that it was all a set-up and happily smile, telling him I cheated and walked out laughing..... Link to comment
maverick554 Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Cheating in all of its forms is just wrong. Whether its physical or emotional. Like everyone has said there are many reasons why people cheat, but none of those reasons are ever justified. I think people who cheat in any capacity just have no moral compass or reguard for anyone else. Many don't even feel bad about what they did. There was a line I saw in a very bad movie a few years ago about cheating that for some reason really registered with me: "Its never the cheater who goes to hell, its always the one that he/she cheated on." Link to comment
Gnomex Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 It amazes me when one member of the couple cheats on the other. It would be far better to be up front and end the illusion of being a true partner. onesty wwhile sometimes painful, is allways better then the lies and deceptions that come hand and hand with cheating. Link to comment
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