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  1. Your friend probably doesn't want to be friends anymore. That is not even CLOSE to abuse. Your friend is not "obligated" to talk to you. Sounds like she just doesn't want to be your friend which is NOT abuse. The concept you are talking about refers to couples where one partner ignores the other one during a fight. Sounds like you're friend just doesn't want anything to do with you, which is NOT abuse.
  2. i kinda feel like this too.... I think this is a part of it too. I just always thought I was the only one, I never thought of the fact that there could be others after me. My mom is celibate and doesn't even associate with men so I knew nothing could come from her. I think she also passed menopause a long time ago. I never expected anything from my dad because he is just so old. Come to think of it, I now wonder if I have any other half-siblings who are around my age that I never knew about. The scary thing is that I think it's possible. I have some suspicion that I may have some other
  3. I thought more people would think it's selfish for a man to have a child at 67 because he won't LIVE long enough to watch the child grow. Yes, the gf is young, but most likely the baby won't have her dad watch her turn 18. No one thinks its selfish to have kids that age?
  4. Why would you have preferred a 70 year old father? Of course , I would never punish the child. I completely understand that she's innocent. I don't have a need to "punish" anyone, not even my dad. He sounds happy and I guess a baby will keep him feeling young and busy with something to do.... How do you personally feel about having a half-sister with a different mom than yours though? Isn't it kind of weird? I mean weird in the fact that your moms are different... I don't know if I love her. I don't think I do. Why should I love someone I never met just because we have the same fath
  5. This is not a joke but serious... yes, a 30 year difference . You probably thought it wasn't possible but it is. I am 31. My parents are divorced. My dad is around 67 now... His gf has got to be around 25-26 years old now. (Yes, she is younger than me). She gave birth and I now have a "half-sister", I don't consider her my real sister because I never even met his gf (the mom) and am not really interested in doing so; they live VERY far away (in another country, thousands of miles away) so I don't have to deal with them. Have you ever heard of such a big difference in age between one
  6. You're right, I think the main thing is that the possibility of her taking it at as some type of acknowledgment is something that will affect ME and not her, lol It will affect me because I will think : "Darn, she thinks I actually listen to her and that she has power over me, aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarggggg"... I think the behavior that I exhibit which triggers her patronizing is me not having had any contact with her (except for a few e-mails and visits throughout the years). There were periods where I didn't talk to her for years and she didn't know if I was dead or alive and she probably im
  7. But if I say "ok mom" will she think that I'm actually doing the things she suggested or not? If I say "ok mom" I will still do whatever it is that I want to do and not follow her directions. Eventually the choices in my life are still my decision. If I don't want to take a vitamin I won't. People always say that you have to follow your parents rule as long as you live under their roof. That's why I left as soon as it was legal for me to do. Now I only have to follow the government's law but not my mothers... lol
  8. Actually, when I was a child my mom was very nurturing, I think she kind of overprotected me and that affected me negatively as well. I think I may have phrased it wrong. During my teenage years she didn't really know how to communicate with me effectively, due to her ignorance she didn't know when I was supposed to send in applications to college, she didn't ask me about college etc. This is what I meant, I don't know if that falls under "nurturing" or not, but I have to admit that during my teenage years I sort of hated my mom so I probably would have ignored her anyways if she even tried ta
  9. Because if my mother irritates me by nagging me to wear warm clothes it will make me feel like wearing a tank top in the cold just to spite her for irritating me. We have a stormy relationship and I think love is a strong word, I don't now if I even love her but I try to tolerate her. I want to be treated as an adult, being talked to as a child makes me feel less powerful and helpless, it makes me feel like I am regressing towards childhood. It is just very important to me to be recognized as an adult. If I am not recognized now then when, do I have to wait until I am 60 and have wrinkles
  10. No, I have an only child plus my mom is divorced and doesn't date or even associate with men, has no friends, doesn't work, and doesn't have any hobbies. This makes it worse because she has no life of her own and makes her obsessed with me. She probably thinks about me all day because she has nothing better to do. I wish I had brothers and sisters so that the "mothering" would be diffused through everyone a bit but sadly I'm an only child so I get the brunt of it.
  11. Once I have and she replied with this : "-I care a lot about you and keep reminding you to do things that you don’t like, if you don’t like what I wrote don’t read them but don’t get upset , it’s just little things an old mother like to write! like not to forget to take calcium + vitamine D for the growing bones, to eat fruits and vegetables to avoid constipation, to eat three time a day to have enough energy for the day, to wear a jacket in the chilling evening…!!! I’m not going to write them again.but don’t be angry at your old mother." but then the next e-mails she wrote the exact s
  12. I don't want kids, I am not a maternal person and don't really like kids but IF I ever had kids I would never be patronizing like that. I would have my own life and once my kids were grown I would realize they were adults and let them be.
  13. I would hope not because I'm one of those women who actually don't want to get married or kids. Or have a relationship. I just like to be alone. And even if I was interested in a relationship, I think I still feel so rebellious towards my mom that I would automatically disqualify and dislike ever person that she approved of just because she liked them.
  14. Well, I don't think me and my mother ever really had an adult relationship because we barely have a relationship. The patronizing was done through e-mail but when I did see her several years ago she was still patronizing me as well. I never call my mom for advise or for anything at all actually. I am extremely independent and never ever do I rely on her for advise, financial help (if anyone were to help anyone financially it would be me helping her since she doesn't have any money to begin with). I am a very independent person and yet she still babies me. I think it makes me upset beca
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