tulipsfav Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Hi all, just wondering what your opinions are on people who feel the need to dump their bf/gf by text message???????????? Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 Sorry not sure what you mean? Link to comment
rosephase Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Only someone who is very immature, would not face there partner if they have that option. Or in another word: LAME Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Chicken... Be man or woman enough to do it in person, or, at the very LEAST on the phone. Link to comment
l9grl Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 coward unless the person is abusive and it would be dangerous to break up in person Link to comment
Stereohead Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 Getting electronically broken up with isn't easy...cause you can't receive the closure and you never know what the other persons real feelings for doing it are... They're detached ways to get it said. In my opinion, it doesn't necessarily make you a coward completely. If you really cared for that person, and really liked them...but realized you weren't working out...its easier to say whats really on their mind. Instead of looking at you or hearing your tears and how upset you are... Which just hurts more in the end-on the person who did it... they may care about you enough that they don't want to know they made you cry... but what "had to be done" had to be done... and instead of seeing you upset...they tell you so you can move on and find someone whose better off. Course, it's immature and very high school ish. But there's a real reason why people do it...not just because they're cowardly... Think about it, have you ever had to break up with someone you didn't want to make upset because they were more into you then you were to them? It's not easy to see them upset...even if you didn't share the same feelings... you cared about them, perhaps even loved them... A lot of times breaking up in person makes them rethink their actions...cause they can see how much they cared about them. So it's like a pressure moment to stay in the relationship to keep the other person happy, and not themselves... It all really goes down to their own insecurities and strength in being able to focus on what the plan was... but I have a few guy friends who felt that was the only way they could get their exs to stop talking them into the relationship... For a girl, we would rather they "grew some balls" and faced us. But we also have to remember they, at some point, cared about us too. However they decided to break up with you, is what they knew they could handle...so that they themselves can begin the healing process of a failed relationship. In my opinion, take it for what it is. We all don't have the courage or strength to do what we need to do in person...thats where technology took its place...to hide how we feel and say what we want to say... Link to comment
Bad Wolf Posted March 14, 2009 Share Posted March 14, 2009 Lame... very lame, my ex 2.5 years broke up with me over an email!!!!!! her was cause she couldn't get me on MSN LOL! Link to comment
The_411 Posted March 14, 2009 Share Posted March 14, 2009 Be very thankful you've just eliminated someone who would fold when things got tough. Link to comment
villie Posted March 14, 2009 Share Posted March 14, 2009 i think it depends on the situation. How long you were together - if you were actually 'together' - then its low. Or if the other person could get abuse and voilent. I admit ive done this. But to me it was in the 'dating' stages. It was 2 weeks. Met up a bit, hanged out as friends, then a few dates. To me anyways, but after 1 kiss i was his gf and i found out randomly. He was very strange and people around me - and even here, gave me advice and thought he was poessive, clingy, etc etc and text might be the ony way because when i couldn't do something of a plan (just part not all), i was intregated 4 an hour. then he started to beg. Then he thought i was 'breaking up with him' and was nearly about to cry. I just couldnt stay over due to a family thing and this is how he behaved. if i was in a relationship - bf/gf, offical/exclusive etc, i could never. Link to comment
jul-els Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Yeah, he wasn't your boyfriend, you were just dating. That's different. It sounds like you were being nice by even sending him a text! Link to comment
metallica19 Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 i dared my friend to text her b/f and break up with him through a text when he was outside of a fast food joint we were at. It was priceless to see his face, I gave her 5 cigs to do it and laughted so hard b/c I hated his guts but yes it was immature. Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 Yes it is very immature. He obviously didnt mean very much to your friend that she could be talked into doing something so inconsiderate! Link to comment
metallica19 Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 yeah he was a real piece of s*** and it was hilariouse Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Rude, inconsiderate, disrespectful and anything else that is negative you can think of. I've had it done to me and it ISN'T nice. Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 theshoefairy, i absolutely 100% agree with you. It is not nice to be on the other end of the phone and receiving a text to say you have been dumped. People who are immature would take this approach. Link to comment
metallica19 Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 no it's not nice but when it happen's to bad people it just funny Link to comment
odile Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 It's cheap, low, and cruel. Doing it makes the dumper look like all of the above. Link to comment
Hopenfaith72 Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Writing from experience. I am a person that broke up with my boyfriend through text message. I regretted sending the text right after I sent it. It was New Years Day 07...a day I will never forget. My advice to anyone ever thinking of using this method...don't. It was cowardly on my part and it was also very low of me. Link to comment
Sadly Mistaken Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 I agree its such a low act, plus what happens if you want to get bck together later on, goodluck if you think their going to give you a second chance. Totally Lame! Link to comment
jennamajig Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 It is lame if you are in a relationship. Texting is an easy way out. However, in the dating stages, I have ended it via e-mail, but both times I met the guy online and went out on a total of like 4 dates. When you're not bf/gf yet, it's slightly different I think. Link to comment
tin_tin Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 Its just cruel. Have the guts to do it face to face. Link to comment
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