Triggered by everything the past few days

[Nearwater]

Been broken up and staying lc/nc as much as I can stand.

 

Lately everything around me is triggering thoughts again of loss,

rejection, abandonment and the sadness of a future without her.

 

Was on Youtube a few nights ago and watched a few Sade videos.

 

I do not recommend this if you don't want to cry a river.

 

Since then I feel as bad as I did a few months ago.

 

Anyone else feeling like this?

[TENNFOLD1974]

Stick close to your friends and stay busy and quit listening to freaking love songs..PLZ!You have to keep your mind occupied or you will never have closure...I wish you well.

[istillluvu06]

yes past week has been horrible, don't understand how someone who supposedly loved me so much, will probobly never talk to or see me again.

I feel emptiness and everything brings up memories.

It is very sad

You are not alone in feeling like this, I'm sure there are alot of people going through this, unfortunatley we feel all alone to go through it and it seems nobody understands.

~~~~HUGS~~~~

[atelis]

i'm in that stuck stage at the moment where i miss her and can't really move forward with clarity. i do stay clear of the love songs though, but it's amazing how vivid her image is in my mind

[browneyedgirl36]

I am finding it easier and easier to get out of these types of slumps lately. I have found it very effective to switch my focus to something else when I feel one of them coming on.

 

I definitely recommend NOT listening to any sad music. Today, in the car, I heard "My Immortal" by Evanscence, and I almost had to change the station. Luckily, something really upbeat came on right after, and I forgot all about it.

 

Do you think, Nearwater, that part of your feeling badly recently MAY have something to do with continuing to think your ex will change her mind and come back? I ask because I know from reading your other posts that this is a hope that you've had, and I wonder if having that hope, even in the back of your mind, helps to trigger these hard times.

 

I have felt less and less bad lately, and I think it has A LOT to do with the fact that I no longer have that hope that he will come back. Now, I admit, on occasion, I start to wish he would, and those are the times I find myself starting to feel down.

[isilv3r]

Your going to go in and out of phases. One day you may be ok but the next you are in shambles. It's ok to cry when you are grieving the loss of someone you love. If you don't allow yourself to go through this, it will never go away. If you fight it and just let anger control you, it will change you into someone you won't like. Allow yourself to cry. Watch the videos. Things will remind you of her and your mood will swing for a while. Trust me when i say time heals. But at the same time, make sure you keep busy. Be with friends, family...go out and try to have fun. When you go home at night, that's when it's going to be the hardest. If being on your computer is what you like doing, find something online, a game or something that will keep your mind occupied.

 

There's 3 things that got me through my break up and to the point i am now 3 months later.

 

Repetition of these 3 songs --> Sad by Our lady peace, Not Enough by Our lady Peace & Better with time by Leona Lewis. Go to youtube and listen to these. CRY your heart out!

 

Hanging out with friends

 

Finding a hobby...mine happened to turn out to be Poker with friends, casino etc.,

 

Either way, it's natural to be up and down like this. One morning you will wake up and realize that you are ok and it's time to move on. You won't ever forget but it will just get easier. Good luck and stay strong! and for gawds sake...do not break the NC!