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  1. Rob, it sounds to me like you need to start getting your life in order rather than worrying about girlfriends. Most decent women are not attracted to problems.........only women with problems themselves are attracted to guys with problems. So start fixing some of these issues in your life the best you can and then start worrying about girls. when you meet a girl and she has her life in order, why would you expect her to want to willingly get involved with you if you have numerous problems, particularly if they involve the law? Do the best you can to sort out of your problems and focus your positive energies of that without the distraction that girls and relationships can bring
  2. stay strong, i know it's hard. we all hurt but we need to stay strong and fight the pain
  3. i feel crap at the moment too, and i tried to go out last week and meet women. i did meet a couple, but just felt worse because all the thoughts of the ex came rushing back. i thought it would be good for my self confidence if i met women, but it had the reverse effect and made me feel worse
  4. be easy on yourself rosie. it is a hard time to be dating so soon and you are still very raw. don't feel like you have to heal by next week. you are putting too much pressure on yourself and need to just take your time. i know it;s frustrating because time seems to stand still in these situations, but you need to be strong and wait it out
  5. i broke NC after 25 days yesterday. will now try a combination of LC and maybe NC again and see how i go. we had a nice chat and i asked her if she would like to catch up in a couple of weeks if her schedule allowed it. she said she would and will let me know, but she has said yes and later changed her mind before.
  6. Day 22 doing ok today but the last 2 days have been really tempted to contact her. still running the same scenario's through my head.........is she thinking of me, is she expecting me to call, why doesn't she call, has she decided in her own mind she isn't interested. i have accepted to go on a date tomorrow night. very nervous and aprehensive about it. i have told the person involved about my situation and they are cool with it, they are not at a stage where they want anything serious.
  7. day 14 and i really am fighting with myself. i want to contact her, but i'm just not sure if i can cope with a negative or even neutral response. very tough
  8. just do it one day at a time. each day you wake up, pretend that was the day you went NC and do that each day. you will soon rack up the days of NC and start to at least rationalise things and give your mind a chance to regain some strength. the pain will be there and it will be immense, but do this each day and you will be able to stick to NC........the temptation will be so great to leave NC, but you have to stay strong. I'm in day 11 of NC and although it has been a killer, it has given my mind a chance to regain some control over my own thoughts. the loss and pain are still there, but i am inching forward in my head at least. the problem i have found is that each day seems to take forever.......you lose your sense of time and it feels like you are running out of time to do something to save yourself or the relationship. But in reality, one or two weeks is such a short space of time and the world won't change for you in that time. Try not to panic.
  9. day 11 and i'm probably feeling the calmest i have felt. still think of her every minute, but without the angst and emptiness i have felt. i keep asking myself, 'is she missing me or think of me at all' and 'how will she react if i call her'. i keep asking those questions over and over. it's strange because i know there will be days ahead of me where i wake up and the pain hits me again
  10. Day 10 for me and it's hard. i found the first few days much easier. Now the curiosity is getting to me and i want to contact her, but i'm resisting so hard. each day that passes i wonder why she hasn't contacted me. does she think about me, is she curious as to how i'm doing, has she thought about 'us' etc. when we had the talk and she said she needed time because she wasn't sure how she felt, as i was walking out the door she said 'talk to you soon'. is soon 10 days or 2 months or never? for me each day seems like 2 months, for her it's obviously not that long because she's not the one sweating. it's just damn hard
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