Caterina Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 Background story: I had a friend I fell for, wanted a relationship, ended the friendship when I discovered it wasn't mutual. While in a friendship with him, I dated his roomate to make him jealous, was successful, but not in my ultimate goal. I ended the friendship where we were hanging out, but still kept him on my buddy list. Now: Its been NC four months and I've been doing fairly well. I had a large backslide recently when the roomate contacted me b/c I was wondering if the one I actually wanted was in the background, perhaps listening. It screwed me over for a few days. During those days I put up a fake away message about loving a boyfriend to make him jealous, again. All stupid, I know- but for the love of all that is, I don't want to hear lectures. Anyways, he has permanently signed off since then. Perhaps he has blocked me, and forever. He's blocked me for a few days before-- but I have a feeling this one is forever. Its for the better---- this way I can't imagine him caring when he obviously never did. I met someone recently, not saying anything- but I met someone who was kind. Link to comment
Helena2011 Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 is the only contact between you two the interet? Link to comment
Caterina Posted September 15, 2008 Author Share Posted September 15, 2008 is the only contact between you two the interet? Absolutely no contact whatsoever. I merely kept him on my buddy list. Link to comment
Helena2011 Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 so your relationship was an online relationship...am i understanding this correctly?? Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 I am a bit confused as well. Did you never meet him in person? Was it strictly on line? Link to comment
Caterina Posted September 15, 2008 Author Share Posted September 15, 2008 so your relationship was an online relationship...am i understanding this correctly?? No, it was a friendship in both the online world and the real world. When I said goodbye to him, I kept him on my buddy list, but never spoke to him. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 Oh, well............. Time to move on. Be glad he blocked you and now you don't have to be the one to feel guilty. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 No, it was a friendship in both the online world and the real world. When I said goodbye to him, I kept him on my buddy list, but never spoke to him. Is there ANY way to get a hold of him in the real world? Phone call? Text? Link to comment
Helena2011 Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 i think having a talk would be good...maybe having a friendship Link to comment
Caterina Posted September 15, 2008 Author Share Posted September 15, 2008 Yes, we used to hang out all the time. I could call him or visit his house. I can't do that though. Link to comment
Helena2011 Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 have you tried calling him? Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 Yes, we used to hang out all the time. I could call him or visit his house. I can't do that though. Why not?... Link to comment
Caterina Posted September 15, 2008 Author Share Posted September 15, 2008 Because I decided that if he didn't love me, I didn't want to be around him. It became too hard--- he was always sabatoging the relationships I got into. It is indeed for the best. I used to want him to call, but he never does. I always had to be the one to call. Its for the best, but I still mourn it. Link to comment
Helena2011 Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 well it is for the best...most definitely...if there isn't love correspondence then there is o point in trying to be with him. i know there is someone out there for you...just give it time! Link to comment
Weeblie Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 So what's your communication like with this guy? If he was always sabotaging your relationships, why didn't you just say look! We're friends, stop butting into my love life, unless you want to date me!! Or did you? Anyway, that's pretty messed up that you dated his roommate. You really need to stop with these games because it seems like you don't really love him. I mean honestly, did you ever try to look at the situation from his perspective? Link to comment
Caterina Posted September 15, 2008 Author Share Posted September 15, 2008 I told him I wanted a relationship. He didn't. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 15, 2008 Share Posted September 15, 2008 I think this is the best thing that could have happened to you because if he didn't make it permanent you would have kept clinging to this and i don't need to say again it was unhealthy as you already know that. Sometimes it takes the other person doing something drastic to force us to move on. I can't see any negatives about him permanently going offline. Maybe after some time has passed you can finally think about other people and move on completely. Link to comment
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