ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 Mugshots? Why am I not surprised? Was your picture on the wall? Maybe that's what the problem was. It was accross the street from a old building that used to be a prison. That was her suggestion not mine Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 I am starting to get a feeling that may be she did not want to see CD again for the second date because he wanted to split the bill for the first one... especially for something purchased at a coffee place.... CD.. bro please man.... next time foot the bill I don't think it was that big of a deal since she contacted after the date Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 why is this thread still going? she's gone. CD is moving on. Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I don't think it was that big of a deal since she contacted after the date yea... that's a bit puzzling i should say..... women are very puzzling man.... the only woman i can understand fully is may_it_be Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 why is this thread still going? she's gone. CD is moving on. This feedback is very helpful to CD. He is still learning. CD, you asked her to split the bill for coffee? COME ON MAN! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I like to pay for myself during a first meet/date. Yea, but on that first date the man offering is really a good thing. I am a firm believer of that. Now if she declined and paid, that is different. I would decline to when i had a first date. But he should have offered. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 This feedback is very helpful to CD. He is still learning. CD, you asked her to split the bill for coffee? COME ON MAN! No it wasn't a typical Cafe, they didn't wait on you, you had to get up and go inside yourself. So while were outside sitting down she said I can go in first and get what I want so we could save our table. Then when I came back she went in while I sat outside and waited for her. So that's how we both paid for our own stuff Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 No it wasn't a typical Cafe, they didn't wait on you, you had to get up and go inside yourself. So while were outside sitting down she said I can go in first and get what I want so we could save our table. Then when I came back she went in while I sat outside and waited for her. So that's how we both paid for our own stuff you should have told her to save the table and gone in and get both of yours or give her enough money to get both. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 you should have told her to save the table and gone in and get both of yours or give her enough money to get both. Yeah I guess so Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 No it wasn't a typical Cafe, they didn't wait on you, you had to get up and go inside yourself. So while were outside sitting down she said I can go in first and get what I want so we could save our table. Then when I came back she went in while I sat outside and waited for her. So that's how we both paid for our own stuff Yea, you should have asked what she wanted and got it for her. It's okay. Lessons learned for next time. You are in learning mode right now. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 Yea, you should have asked what she wanted and got it for her. It's okay. Lessons learned for next time. You are in learning mode right now. But do you really think that was a factor 5 days later? Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 But do you really think that was a factor 5 days later? I'm not sure. It is doubtful. EVen after this date she seemed enthused. I personally think she found someone else on the site she liked better. It might have been an ex she has gone back and forth with, but probably more like another date worked out really well and she used the other excuse as it sounds better and maybe not as hurtful as saying "i found somenoe i like better". But don't let this get you down. It is par for the course with internet dating. You have to keep going. You get a lot of hits, you are bound to find one that sticks. Keep on going. Plough ahead. Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 No it wasn't a typical Cafe, they didn't wait on you, you had to get up and go inside yourself. So while were outside sitting down she said I can go in first and get what I want so we could save our table. Then when I came back she went in while I sat outside and waited for her. So that's how we both paid for our own stuff the more details you are providing the more it looks like she just wanted to have a cup of coffee in mugshots with you... not a date. at least that's the idea i am getting here.... see... she is also saying in her email "I know you're looking for more than a platonic relationship".. that sounds very unusual to me... why would a girl going on a date use the word plutonic? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 the more details you are providing the more it looks like she just wanted to have a cup of coffee in mugshots with you... not a date. at least that's the idea i am getting here.... see... she is also saying in her email "I know you're looking for more than a platonic relationship".. that sounds very unusual to me... why would a girl going on a date use the word plutonic? I would hope and pray she is not that retarded. Why would a woman get dress and get in car to go and just have a cup of coffee? Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I would hope and pray she is not that retarded. Why would a woman get dress and get in car to go and just have a cup of coffee? i don't know man........ to me it doesn't look like a date... did you kiss her after the first date? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 i don't know man........ to me it doesn't look like a date... did you kiss her after the first date? I don't kiss on the first date, and she used the word platonic because that's the only thing that she can be at this time since she is dealing with some other guy. Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I don't kiss on the first date, and she used the word platonic because that's the only thing that she can be at this time since she is dealing with some other guy. ok.. whatever... next time you decide which coffee shop to go, pay for the date, and kiss her. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I don't kiss on the first date, and she used the word platonic because that's the only thing that she can be at this time since she is dealing with some other guy. NOw is this some other rigid CD plan here to not kiss on the first date? What is the reasoning behind that? I am not talking about a full out kiss with tongues but a kiss on the lips if she seems she really enjoyed the evening wouldn't kill anybody. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 ok.. whatever... next time you decide which coffee shop to go, pay for the date, and kiss her. I don't have those type of skills Link to comment
hers Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Don't kiss your next date if you're not feeling each other. Gry, kissing after does not make it officially a date. Don't give advice like that man Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 NOw is this some other rigid CD plan here to not kiss on the first date? What is the reasoning behind that? I am not talking about a full out kiss with tongues but a kiss on the lips if she seems she really enjoyed the evening wouldn't kill anybody. My confidence level is not that high to start going in for a kiss on a 1st or 2nd date. Damm, you have to crawl before you can walk Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Don't kiss your next date if you're not feeling each other. Gry, kissing after does not make it officially a date. Don't give advice like that man he says she chose the coffee place... they split the bill... and no kiss... to me it does not look like a date... so i am asking him to do the things that typically happens in a first date... how is that bad advice? Link to comment
grymoire Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I don't have those type of skills what?!?!?!?! what do you mean by that? Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Don't kiss your next date if you're not feeling each other. Gry, kissing after does not make it officially a date. Don't give advice like that man I think it goes without saying that the mentioning of a kiss on the lips is ONLY if they are feeling it. That is what I meant in my post and mentioned that...that if the date felt like it went very well and she was enthusiastic a peck on the lips is nice to let her know there was interest. I know when i was dating if there was no movement at all made to lean in for a goodnight kiss i would feel he wasn't into me. A lot of women are like that. I;'m not talking a full out french kiss or anything. A peck on the lips. Hell i even kiss my friends when i leave when we go out. Just a friendly peck on lips or cheek. NOw i know everyone doesn't do that but a peck on the lips after a very nice first date lets her know there is interest. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 what?!?!?!?! what do you mean by that? I just started making it to a 2nd date this year since 2000 and I'm in not in any position to go in for a kiss. Plus I not that smooth, if I was i wouldn't be on this board asking for help Link to comment
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