NC ...taken day by day, stronger and stronger

[Caterina]

I think that one good thing to keep in mind for NC is that you should take every day one at a time. I had a calander that I marked with an "x" and congratulated myself for not talking to him. NOw, I don't even check it. Its irrelevant, since he's not in my life and has chosen that. And honestly, in the beggining it might seem like it--- but every day without him is a day you become stronger and stronger.

 

I'm very strong now...I realize how much he caused my low self esteem.

[chopperboy]

Good for you! I'm in the same mode - taking NC day by day, and learning that I can be without her. It's getting easier, though I know that I'll never really be completely over her. The ones we truly love, we never forget.

[exploding head]

keep it up! do things every day that are good for YOU. Ask yourself every day before you do something if it will bering happiness to your life. then do it!

 

(hugs)

[istillluvu06]

I totally screwed up a weeks worth of NC today........now I feel worse than ever. I cried let out my feelings. Feel so stupid. Now I can't sleep, cause I keep going over and over things in my head. I want to be free of loving him. it's like a prison!!

[Caterina]

I realize now that it was a form of abuse. I wanted to be abused, and he was happy to comply. All I ever thought for three years is "why am I not good enough?" and he was happy to keep me like that.

[journogirl]

hey caterina

i am beginning to see that about my own ex he kept me in a kind of relationship purgatory-he was so lovely at times and an amazing boyfriend but at other times he indulged in toxic behaviour-commenting about my weight and i should exercise more and saying things that weren't pleasant

or kind.

i am trying to focus on all of these bad points - i stupidly still miss him like mad tho

xx

[StillSmiling]

I totally screwed up a weeks worth of NC today........now I feel worse than ever. I cried let out my feelings. Feel so stupid. Now I can't sleep, cause I keep going over and over things in my head. I want to be free of loving him. it's like a prison!!

 

 

HUGS! I tell you, every time I broke NC I felt the same way. As the OP said, you have to take it a day at a time, oreven an hour at a time. You are only wounding yourself further by breaking it.

 

I know. I did it twice and know I would be in a better place if I had not.

 

Start over TODAY with Day 1. You CAN do this.

[journogirl]

you can do it!

i have to be in contact with my ex for financial issues but i cant wait for the day when i dont have to be

every time i see his name in my email inbox i feel sick and ill

xx

[istillluvu06]

I also have unresolved financial and other issues, like he still has my stuff, and I worked with him at his store, now I am unemployed, my car broke down, and I have nothing at all!!!!!!!!

I am seriously hating my life so much, feel so alone and no where to turn.

[journogirl]

u are not alone

we are all here for you

 

my mum used to say this when i was younger and i keep saying it to myself

 

"the night is always at its darkest right before the dawn"

also

 

"you have to see an awful lot of rain before you find the rainbow"

 

u WILL be ok and u WILL get through this

we all will xxx