Keeping myself busy

[Fireman Sam]

I read somewhere that you should keep yourself busy with working out, hobbies and spending time with friends to help recover from a major breakup. I also read that you can try doing things that you'r scared of.

 

So.....being a white boy with absolutly no rythum...I have signed up for Salsa classes.

For me this is kinda scary...since I am a really bad dancer and I'm very self consious when it comes to hitting the dance floor. Hopefully..this will also get me into a new circle of people where I can make new friends since almost all my old friends are heavly attached to my ex-wife.

 

I really love being active...so this will allow me to kill about 4 birds with one stone.

Exercise, meeting new friends, learning something new and making myself more attractive to other woman. This is also a skill that will come in handy for many, many years.

[Gratsy]

Good idea. Try LOTS of things...not just salsa...if you mess up, don't be too hard on yourself...its time to treat yourself nicely.

 

What happened between you and your wife if you don't mind my asking?

[Clabs]

Hey Sam

 

Nice one mate - great idea. That'll do no end of good for your confidence - oh - and lots of girls to meet there! It'd be great if you would come back here and let us know how you get on.

 

Mark

[Fireman Sam]

Hey Clabs....why do you call everyone mate. Are you an Aussie????

[Clabs]

Nah - I am in good old UK. It is just a habit I guess!

 

Mark

[Godwin]

Nice one man, if you sit about and do nothing it just makes it worse.

 

I went to the Speed Dating and joined a Dating site(link removed)

 

Have met and am in contact with 5/6 different girls now.

 

Its the last thing I thought I would have done but desperate times call for desperate measures.

 

Starting to feel more positive about life now and am pretty much over my ex although I do think about her.

[Fireman Sam]

My biggest problem now is I am getting bored.

 

I'm so used to doing everything with my ex...and always having her around to chat and hang with (over the last 11 yrs).

 

Now I have a lot of time to myself. I can't fill it all in with activities. There are the evenings when I now have to watch TV by myself, cook and eat by myself (that is the toughest), have breakfast by myself. I am getting bored.

 

There is only so much time you can spend at the gym.

 

Most of everyone I know is a couple and I feel like a third leg hanging around them.

[lostnva]

My biggest problem now is I am getting bored.

 

I'm so used to doing everything with my ex...and always having her around to chat and hang with (over the last 11 yrs).

 

Now I have a lot of time to myself. I can't fill it all in with activities. There are the evenings when I now have to watch TV by myself, cook and eat by myself (that is the toughest), have breakfast by myself. I am getting bored.

 

There is only so much time you can spend at the gym.

 

Most of everyone I know is a couple and I feel like a third leg hanging around them.

 

I know the feeling ....I miss him so much, my house feels so empty, and its very lonely. I hate sleeping in our bed with out him. I hate watching cops with out him. Its so very LONELY!!!!