Very lengthy read, Pt. 2 (Not so "lengthy" anymore!)

[LE DHUY NHUT]

Yeah man just send it.This is the only way to know for sure since you seem dead set on this one girl.But just be prepared for any outcome.Did you ever get a phone number so you can call her instead?

[MattW]

I found her number by accident a while back, but I've never asked her about "officially" exchanging numbers.

[LE DHUY NHUT]

I found her number by accident a while back, but I've never asked her about "officially" exchanging numbers.

 

Wow you are the King of inaction...ha ha ha.Well send her an e mail or use MSN and ask for her phone number.If a girl does not give you her number then you are dead in the water.Do this now so you can get your answer as soon as possible.

[MattW]

Well, then that'll be my next "goal", here. But right now, shouldn't I just try to break the ice, after that last message I sent, first? THEN try for that?

[LE DHUY NHUT]

Well you have to ask for her number and if she doesn't give it to you then she ain't interested.And that's just the beginning if you get it you gotta ask her out.

[MattW]

Yeah... Alright, so I just sent her a light little message just saying "hey, how you doing? haven't heard from ya in a little while just to sort of see where she stands. Before I wrote her that, though, I took a look back at the last message I sent her, and after rereading it, I guess I was kind of hard to interpret; I guess it could've sounded like I was flat out asking her out on a date, but at the same time, I wasn't clear on it. Maybe that's a possible reason for her lack of response; maybe she thinks it'd be too awkward to ask me to clear that up for her, because if I WAS asking her out straight away, that'd be a little creepy, but if I wasn't and I specifically had to tell her that, that'd be like egg on her face. Ah well, I won't bother playing this guessing game. I'll just have to see if/ how she responds, now.

[LE DHUY NHUT]

I hope you didn't use the phone number that she didn't give you to send that message.

[MattW]

No, I'm not crazy enough to do that, lol. I just made note of the number, but I'd never use it without her "officially" giving it to me. At least I'd know if she were to give me a fake number, I guess...

[pianoguy]

So, out of curiosity, what are you going to do if she doesn't respond to this message?

[MattW]

I dunno, I guess leave it alone for a while, then. If anything, I'll either wait a while, then try to stay in contact, or just back off completely, and maybe try to revisit this in a few years, if I haven't found some one new. If that's an option, I mean; I don't know whether or not I'm in so deep now that even in a few years it'll be too awkward to try again.

[jenny_mcs]

Heh, I dunno... I guess because there's already some familiarity there, and that makes me feel a little more comfortable thinking about interacting with her.

 

I think this is the crux of the matter- you somehow thought that since you already "knew" this girl that this was a way around facing your fears about interacting with girls.

 

Either way, if she replies to this new message or not, I hope you concentrate on meeting some new people when you start college in the fall.

[MattW]

I think this is the crux of the matter- you somehow thought that since you already "knew" this girl that this was a way around facing your fears about interacting with girls.

 

*Shrugs* Maybe, but to be fair, I don't really have a whole lot of trouble interacting with girls in general. I had a few female friends back in high school, and I got along fine with them. 'Course, I wasn't interested in them "romantically" (nor were they in me), but still. Anyway, with this girl I've been writing about, yeah, I don't know much about what she's like now just yet, but she's not a total stranger to me, and I think that'd make it easier for me to overcome that initial "shyness" I feel around some one new.

[MattW]

lol So, I'm actually going to be in this girl's town quite a bit, today. I'm a little nervous that I might run into her, or something. I'll also be taking my placement tests for college (which actually happens to be in her city; heh, she even told me she was taking a class there this summer), and maybe student orientation.