Taking The Lead Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 It looks like she wants a pericing. On one hand, im alright with it.. on the other, i'm not sure. At least she's asking me right? Ultimately she's leaving it to me. But, I think it's important to let her have her freedom. Maybe I should let her get it ... if she really, really wants it. Would you let your girlfriend/boyfriend get a pericing? -She wants it on her eyebrow... Honestly it's a turn off... it doesnt do anything for me and it's just... ughh... tough call.. -clarify- (GIRLFRIEND) Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 I thought you were talking about your daughter getting one! Should you "let" her get one? Shouldn't she be allowed to do as she wishes? Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 You dont really have any say over it. Let her do what she wants. Link to comment
lovecrazy Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 umm no offense but its her body, if she wants a piercing it should be her decision, not yours... rather its a turn off or not, you should value her for who she is not what is on her skin, or not. I think its a nice thing she is doing, asking you. But like I said you dont own her. Not saying you are acting like that. But "letting" her getting a piercing, your not her father, so I think it should be her decision alone.... Link to comment
charliebrown Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 interesting topic. i can compare this to when someone i'm dating suddenly wants to shave off their goatee (i happen to love facial hair on guys)... i can't really stop him, but i can whine. if it's something that she really wants and will make her feel better about herself, i don't really see the harm. why is it such a turn off in the first place?? it's just a hole, it will close up. it could be something more permanent like a tattoo accross her forehead, so try to be accepting of her desires. Link to comment
novaseeker Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 It's her choice. You also have a right to think it's unattractive and tell her so, but it's her choice in the end. Link to comment
Taking The Lead Posted June 4, 2008 Author Share Posted June 4, 2008 I was going to support her decision no matter what, however, I just don't care for pericingings.. or tats.. Link to comment
gcollier2002 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 It sounds like to me she's not asking IF she can get one, but rather what your reaction to one is. I'd say, tell the truth, now, rather than lying and saying "yeah, sweetie, go ahead, I'm sure I'll like it" and then 2 weeks go by and you're like "yeah... that bolt in your head makes you look like a freak" Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 I thought you were talking about your daughter getting one! Should you "let" her get one? Shouldn't she be allowed to do as she wishes? I thought the same exact thing. Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 She is your girlfriend. Not your 10 year old daughter. If she wants it, that is HER decision-not yours. Link to comment
novaseeker Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 So then you should be honest with her and just tell her that you don't like the way piercings look on the body -- that it's unattractive for you. You're allowed to find piercings and tats unattractive (I do as well), but she's allowed to take that info into account and get one anyway if she wants. Link to comment
Suzanne1281 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 She doesn't need permission to get a piercing if she wants one. Nothing wrong with letting her know your opinion, but if it makes her happy and it's not hurting anyone, she doesn't need to be "let" to do it. Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 I was going to support her decision no matter what, however, I just don't care for pericingings.. or tats.. If you love her, you love her for her-not a piercing she may or may not have. My boyfriend has tattoos I hate. But I don't love him any less for it. It's his body. A Piercing is removable, anyway..If that is what she wants, and if you love her, you should be supportive, and be happy if she is happy. Link to comment
Taking The Lead Posted June 4, 2008 Author Share Posted June 4, 2008 How's this? It's your body you can do whatever you want with it. I'll support whatever decision you make. It might be kinda hott.. Personally I don't like pericings though Link to comment
EQD Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 yeah.. little too parental there... Link to comment
ryan123 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Ladies he's not saying he told her what to do...SHE ASKED HIM what he thought about it. So in instances where the SO asks then yeah you can tell them what to do. Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 How's this? It's your body you can do whatever you want with it. I'll support whatever decision you make. It might be kinda hott.. Personally I don't like pericings though How about, "I don't like piercings on any woman. It's your decision though. if you want a piercing, I'll support you, and I'll still think you are the most beautiful girl in the world!" Link to comment
CandyKins Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Say that I would be happy if you're happy to do it, but don't just say it as that say it in a way you're not too bothered by it and with a friendly smile. Don't worry too much about it, it's only a matter of time for you to get used to it. Link to comment
flgirl777 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 I thought you were talking about your daughter as well. I would let her do as she pleases. She's a grown woman and can think for herself, but it was nice of her to let you know she was thinking of getting it in advance. Link to comment
Mavh25 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 I don't need to tell you to leave her to it, cos I think others covered that one However, it is'nt permanent right? you might like it, and even if you don't she might, and if she does'nt thats upto her... Link to comment
thejigsup Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Do you guys always play the father/daughter game? If you do, this is just normal for you and no harm done. If not, why was she asking you if she 'could' get a piercing. Neither I, nor my bf likes piercings or tats at all, but if we wanted one, we would get it without asking permission. And the other would keep their mouth shut about it at that point. Link to comment
Taking The Lead Posted June 4, 2008 Author Share Posted June 4, 2008 It's a rather new relationship, and we're still learning about each other. We are very comfortable with each other and everything in the relationship is well... Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 It's a rather new relationship, and we're still learning about each other. We are very comfortable with each other and everything in the relationship is well... if this is a new relationship..then you definitely have no say in this. Just be honest and say you aren't fond of them, but you will still think she is beautiful, and it's her decision.... Link to comment
novaseeker Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 I agree, but the thing is he may *not* find her as attractive with the piercing. She has the right to get the piercing anyway, and also the right to know that. Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted June 4, 2008 Share Posted June 4, 2008 Just be honest and say you aren't fond of them, but you will still think she is beautiful, and it's her decision.... Exactly. Let her know how you feel but make sure she knows it is her decision, not yours. Link to comment
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