When meeting a girl; kiss on the cheek?

[shy2cool]

I've noticed that a lot of guys when meeting a female for the first time in a social setting tend to give them a kiss on the cheek.

 

I feel nervous at the thought of doing this, so I tend to just shake hands. I am worried that I may be seen as being rude and insincere.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I actually find the cheek kissing bit very insincere. I know some cultures are big on those cheek kisses (which are generally air kisses anyway) but I am never comfortable and generally only comply if the other person initiates...but I am not a really huggy person (except for my dog!) even with my own family. I mean really, how sincere are those cheek/air kisses done between heads of State from different countries who are at odds with each other!!

[shy2cool]

Yeah, I don't mind if the other person initiates it; but I can't tell when they do?!

[livinginsbi]

I think cheek kisses are fine - but upon a first meeting would be a little apprehensive about it, is more comfortable with someone I know. I also don't have a problem with hand shakes - to me it would be more about how well I know the man. It wouldn't be so good if the kiss felt forced either.

[rocio]

It's cultural (where I'm from, everyone does the cheek kiss, even straight guys with other straight guys!) but what really shows that you're sincere is eye contact and a genuine smile

[Lucy__lou]

It may be considered more normal to do the kissing on the cheek thing, so fair enough for you to be thinking about it, but I personally prefer the hand shake. I think the kiss on the cheek is an affectionate gesture, which should be earned not dished out to everyone you meet. Hand shakes are nice.

[pinkelephant]

hugs are usually how it is for me. breaks the ice!

[livinginsbi]

hugs are usually how it is for me. breaks the ice!

 

I would be slightly concerned regarding the feeling of boobage.

[raffi_FL]

I would just shake her hand. Do what you are comfortable doing. It will look more genuine. The girl (depending on her culture) might be a bit weirded out by a kiss on the cheek.

 

Besides, I hate the hug and kiss thing with people I don't know. I think it is really fake and it feels like a charade.

[JadedStar]

My husband's friends all do the kiss on the cheek thing. It was a bit unnerving to me when i first met them because i am friendly but have a certain area of personal space.

 

it is all a personal preference thing. If you don't feel comfy doing it that means it isn't your personality...thereforeeee don't force it.

[tom1607307597]

I don't think I'd be comfortable with kissing a girl (or anyone) on the cheek unless I was knew them pretty well. usually I just shake hands, but what matters most is a smile!

[pinkelephant]

I would be slightly concerned regarding the feeling of boobage.

 

i dont think most people think about that lol! but sometimes yes, boobs swish i dont mind.

[CandyKins]

Just because they do it, it doesn't mean for you to MUST.

 

Do whatever YOU feel comfortable in.

 

Well personally I wouldn't really like it.

[Sky_Ronin]

I don't see kissing on the cheeks as a sign of insincerity at all. Hand shakes are fine, but I'd much prefer give her a smooch on the cheeks

[Raize]

I don't know anyone in my circle of friends or in general who kiss girls on the cheek, especially if meeting for the first time. In fact I don't make any physical contact with a Girl I have just met, but depending on the social situation we may often hug when farewelling.

 

A couple of people here have mentioned handshakes... Typically handshaking seems more one guy to another when it comes to social, business, whatever. Not that I haven't shaken hands with a girl before.

[ghost69]

i have never done that. i think it's more of an upbringing or cultural thing than anything else. i will never do this i think.