Jump to content

"Guess how old I am"


Recommended Posts

This isn't really serious at all. Just more of an observation lately.


Since I've opened myself up to giving dating a shot again, it seems that I have encountered a lot more of this question than I ever can remember in the past.


"Guess how old I am". says the man.


Is it only me, or is this a strange and awkward thing to ask?


When someone asks me my age, I simply tell them (if it's appropriate). I don't make it a guessing game, and I don't wait for the other person to answer first every single time. It depends on the flow of the conversation.


It just strikes me as odd. Basically - please just bloody tell me and let me make up my mind on my own. Let's get it out there ; and see if there is a possibility of a date early on. This 'game' sucks!


As a woman, I totally avoid asking a man to guess... I've seen friends do it, and it just feel it leaves the wrong impression.


Ok, don't get me wrong. I don't read a novel into it. But I'm curious what other people have to say about this.


This thread is triggered by my latest experience where the man asked me to guess, I joked around about it , then he said "No, seriously, guess"...so I did..and it was under his age but an honest guess on my part...then he says "No, I'm old. Too old for you I guess". in a half joking, half inquiring look to me way.


Turns out he was 43. He looked, honestly, in his early 30's. So yeah, I was a bit taken aback.


I guess I'm just a wee bit disappointed ..he had asked me out, then pulled back with a "well here's my number if you still want to get together on X"...


?! Well then.


To be honest, didn't really expect this from men. Especially grown ones!- (I know, I know! Welcome to reality. )

Link to comment

Yeah, I think it's cuz they are insecure about their ages or how their age might match with yours. If your guess of their age is/isn't far off, that's some indication about whether your acceptable/unacceptable age gap. Like if you thought he was 43 and since he really is, it doesn't change your expectations of him or you agreeing to the date means you're okay with the age gap. But if you guessed 30, he might be worried that the age gap is too unexpected/unacceptable.


That's happened to me on a date with a 37 year old. He looked around 30 and I look younger than my age. So I think he was a little worried about the age gap.

Link to comment

I have an opposite experience a lot. When people find out i have a grandaughter, and one, i look younger than i am and two, i am yuonger than most grandmas, i always handle the question of " A GRANDCHILD, WHAT? HOW OLD ARE YOU? by saying...


I am 65, and laugh and say see what no smoking and working out does for you?


I like watching their mouths drop when i say I am 65.


I know they are not being mean or rude when they say it, and it is very flattering. I just like to try to shock people on occasion. lol

Link to comment

In my case, the girl first asks, and then I counter it with the question: so how old do you think I am? Yes, it does put her on the spot, but I think most girls I've asked are pretty smart about it.


Many guess 4-5 years younger than my actual age, I don't know if they really think I look younger, or it's their way of trying to make the guy feel good (especially a store clerk!). Then again, when I throw the question and ask how old my friend looks, they think he's older when in fact, younger than I am. So I dunno, maybe they are honest girls after all and I should take it as a compliment

Link to comment


This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

  • Create New...