Pinkbunny Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 Okay I was wondering if it would be considered rude to not return a phone call from an ex who has left you a "happy bday" voice message, that didn't say call me back? All he said was happy bday I hope you have a good day. What happened was I got really tied up and didn't have time to return the call. I didn't return some other messages from some of my other friends also since I was so tied up. Am I rude? Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 I wouldn't think of it as rude. If you're not going through NC, a quick text back to say "Thanks for the well-wishes" would be appropriate on the next day. Link to comment
Pinkbunny Posted February 9, 2008 Author Share Posted February 9, 2008 Well weve been in LC but I should add too that he was singing the bday song on my voicemail. It was nice of him since his singing voice is not the best of the best. lol. Link to comment
greensleeves Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 My ex emailed me a birthday greeting about a week after he dumped me...I didn't respond and don't care if I was being rude Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 I wouldn't think of it as rude. If you're not going through NC, a quick text back to say "Thanks for the well-wishes" would be appropriate on the next day. Yeah, I'd agree with that. Not rude, but just send a quick text that doesn't invite further responses. Link to comment
lizer Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 my ex said happy birthday to me as well.. and we havent spoken for 5 months! i emailed back a super super brief thank you so much blablabla. and that was it. give them about as much as they give you. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 If your breakup wasn't that bad, then yes, I would send him some thanks for sending you the bday wishes. I thought that was nice of your ex to do that. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 My ex emailed me a birthday greeting about a week after he dumped me...I didn't respond and don't care if I was being rude that is the proper attitude IMO Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 Why is everybody so against the OP from responding to the ex that sent her a nice birthday greeting. It seems that forgiveness is never suggested, only that we revile and ignore, and demonize our ex's. Link to comment
greensleeves Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 In my case my ex wasn't at all caring about my feelings during our breakup and his birthday greeting a week later was simply a way for him to receive reassurance that I was okay with everything. I wasn't, so didn't respond. I'm a polite person under normal circumstances, but didn't the need to be "nice" to him after he dragged my heart through the gutter. It depends on how things ended in each individual relationship. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 Yeah it all depends on whether or not the break-up was amicable and the circumstances. Link to comment
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