BronzedSkin123 Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 These guys were telling me that they can tell if a woman is promiscuous within a few minutes of having a conversation with her...is this true guys? Ladies how do you feel about this? isnt this a bit sexist? Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 These guys were telling me that they can tell if a woman is promiscuous within a few minutes of having a conversation with her...is this true guys? Ladies how do you feel about this? isnt this a bit sexist? well.. if she stuff like: "this one guy i had sex with" or "this guy i met at a party and went home with" or if you make alot of sexual comments.. your sort of giving off the vibe that you think about it alot... if your single and talk about it alot, they may also associate it with being promiscious. sometimes it's the way she dresses.. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 Well, can they tell the same thing about a man? ;-) It's not really a matter of "sexist" but just a generalization and a silly one at that. I don't think it's true other than I suppose people make presumptions if a person is dressed ultra-sexy or makes sexual remarks to strangers. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 The way a woman dresses can be a tip off..although I have known some promiscuous women who dress very understated. Usually it is the way they look, they way they act...little subtleties they do with their eyes or how they interact with men. When a man is looking to get laid, he knows exactly what kind of woman would put out for him. Also, the promiscuous women tend to be pretty obvious, even other women figure it out fairly quickly. I don't think it is sexist at all...it is just fact. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 Can you please explain into detail what they do with their eyes and other subteties?? i'm curious.. because i have make guys think that i was promiscuous even when i wasn't..just teasing them.. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 and a lot of promiscuous women don't dress sexy at all..maybe it's because they tend to stand out more that makes you think that way Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Let me guess. "These guys" are out to get laid, so they are hoping they have learned some cool tricks for picking out the bicycles and not. I agree with Batya. Ok, sometimes generalizations and gut feelings are right. Some people wear outrageous on their sleeves and are PROUD to be promiscuous. Male or female, it doesn't matter. But what is your opinion on it? Can a guy spend a few minutes with you and know much about you at all? Would you care about the opinions of someone who was so quick to judge over some little thing he's got in his head? I'd say for most people, it takes a little longer than that to get a sense of who they are and what their sexual preferences are. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 I don't know how to describe it...all I can say is that the eyes speak volumes and they have this "come hither" look. I am not a guy so I can't explain it well...but maybe a guy would be better able to describe the look. Better yet, just look at any Hollywood movie that has scenes with a woman who is out to get laid...you will find that in real life, the promiscuous women have the same look. I have been to enough singles dos to see those kind of women and the men who flock around them. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 Let me guess. "These guys" are out to get laid, so they are hoping they have learned some cool tricks for picking out the bicycles and not. I agree with Batya. Ok, sometimes generalizations and gut feelings are right. Some people wear outrageous on their sleeves and are PROUD to be promiscuous. Male or female, it doesn't matter. But what is your opinion on it? Can a guy spend a few minutes with you and know much about you at all? Would you care about the opinions of someone who was so quick to judge over some little thing he's got in his head? I'd say for most people, it takes a little longer than that to get a sense of who they are and what their sexual preferences are. They're older guys who are looking for serious relationships, and tend to look for cues of a possibly promiscuous woman because they dont' want to be involved with someone who has been with a lot of men. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Can you please explain into detail what they do with their eyes and other subteties?? i'm curious.. because i have make guys think that i was promiscuous even when i wasn't..just teasing them.. What do you mean "just teasing them"? Are you a big flirt? Do you take it too far? Maybe you are presenting yourself in a way that isn't working for you. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 What do you mean "just teasing them"? Are you a big flirt? Do you take it too far? Maybe you are presenting yourself in a way that isn't working for you. It's not a habit. But I have done it in the past to a guy here and there before. There was this guy in particular whose interested I greatly questioned, so one day I called him up and boldly insinuated that he was going to get sex from me over the weekend. When Sat came, he called my cell phone repeatedly the entire day. I never picked up, I just sat there and watched my phone ring. Before then, he wouldn't really call me that much. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 I don't think that's flirting - that's more blatant sexual teasing. He was right to presume you were promiscuous if you would tell a guy that he would get laid if he called you. Not saying you are promiscuous but that sort of behavior is going to give that impression. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 I agree. What motivated you to do that? I'm curious. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 You're right. but I really liked this guy and wanted to know if he was just out for sex from me. because before he never called me that much until i made him think that we were going to have sex at my house over the weekend. when i did that, he was calling me all day. I waited a few days later to call him back, and he was very bitter and I never heard from him again. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 I agree. What motivated you to do that? I'm curious. I did it to get his attention. it seems the only way to really keep a guy interested is by luring him with sex. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 I did it to get his attention. it seems the only way to really keep a guy interested is by luring him with sex. Well, maybe a lot of guys are like that, but why would you want to be someone you are not...and if you are not that type, why would you want to attract a guy like that? Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 Well, maybe a lot of guys are like that, but why would you want to be someone you are not...and if you are not that type, why would you want to attract a guy like that? It's hard to find a guy who is interested in me for me. Sometimes I wonder maybe I am lacking something. It just seems easier to put out though. Link to comment
KG Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Bronze... IMHO, that vibe will get you laid, but heartbroken every time! I had wild younger days, surrounded myself with loose women, had lots of sex, but nothing else! Couldn't find a serious relationship at all...then one day it dawned on me, all my friends were one nighters, nothing more! And everyone looked at me as the same... I changed to just being casual, no heavy moves, just letting it come naturally...not as many dates, but the ones I had were more satisfying, even without the sex! It's like a balancing act! I hope this helps... Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 It's hard to find a guy who is interested in me for me. Sometimes I wonder maybe I am lacking something. It just seems easier to put out though. Sure, plenty of women who put out end up getting married...I guess it is a matter of self-respect and what kind of man you value. Do you want a man who thinks with his brain or do you want a man who thinks with his genitals? Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 It's funny. You are worried they only want sex, so you set it up to knock them down before they have a chance to do it to you. Maybe time to get out of that game of tease and run. It's horrible for your self esteem. Try the alternate route. Which requires courage. That is to give someone a chance to like or not without sexual teasing in the mix. You might find out that you are ok after all: whether a guy wants you or not. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Even if he was just out for sex, you were just out to be manipulative. Nothing wrong with him just wanting to get laid - he was honest about it. You were dishonest about your intentions, however. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Bronzedskin i have read a lot of your posts and threads and I just don't get your logic with how you look at relationships. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Share Posted January 1, 2008 Bronzedskin i have read a lot of your posts and threads and I just don't get your logic with how you look at relationships. what do you mean? Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 what do you mean? Luring guys with sex as you say that is the only way to keep them, then when they come forth for it bailing on them....and your other posts where you are seemingly more concerned about your orgasms than the person you are with...I dunno, just seems like you are setting yourself up for relationship problems for quite sometime unless you adjust strategy. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 if she is looking at me wit bedroom eyes and sucking on a cherry all sexy like, id' think she is. or if she just took her clothes off for me in the middle of the bar. pretty good chance she is. Link to comment
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