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Woah. Well, at least you have sorted out your feelings, gotten them all out and really know where your heart. I commend you for going here and getting it ALL out. I do believe that she was hurt, probably deeply, by your "drunken" actions with those other females. That isn't something that is easy for a girl to forget, or forgive. Maybe that pushed her into thinking about the relationship and how strong or true it is. As you said, it's a long relationship, and you feel as though she is your "soul-mate" but you must be honest that if she doesn't love you as you have once loved her, it is over. And sometimes, "just being best friends" is painful, angonizing and impossible. One expects one thing, the other gets annoyed or jealous. Though, I know how you feel, regarding the texting and constant contacting or wanting to call her, it does seem to push some people further away. When you step back and show her that you can live without her (even for a day) then maybe she will see you stronger and more mature and will respect that, come back to you honestly. I understand how hard all of this must be for you. You really shouldn't have fooled around or kissed others, if you did indeed find your life-match. But, I'm not one to say how one should act. Try not to drink too much, aye? It seems when there is alcohol around, trouble is a few steps away. Talk to her, but don't bombard her with emails and phone calls. Don't stalk, though some may seem this to be oddly romantic, most find this to be psychotic. Stay int ouch, give her space, tell her how you feel and wait. See what happens. If it was meant to be, she will be in your arms in no time. Maybe this singer-infatuation she has is just a girlish passing thing, and could have something to do with the fact that you weren't all that faithful in the past? I'm glad you know that what you did was wrong. Good luck, be honest, keep your distance but don't give up.

GRRR. Reading what is happening to you over and over and OVER makes me angry! Sweetie, he is a cheater regardless of how much he says he loves you and begs for your forgiveness, he goes out and repeats the offense. He is untrustworthy and a liar and you don't deserve such torment and heartbreak (again and again). He could possibily love *you* but of course, has no urge to commit to one girl right now in his life. How old is he? He may not feel a thing for those girls he sleeps with, many guys use that excuse when caught cheating, and many times it's true, but that doesn't allow for what he has done to you to be okay. He could feel you are the one he wants a relationship with but the way you described his actions, he doesn't sound like he is ready to be in a mature partnership. If he is constantly arguing with you, then why are you still with him? I know, it's hard to say good-bye. Don't get walked on like this, anymore. Stand up for yourself. In order for him to be with you, he must be with YOU ONLY and quit with this sleeping around and phone calls with girls all of the time. Tell him how you feel, then tell him to hit the road. You deserve MUCH better. Good luck!

I understand how you feel. He has you as his girlfriend, committed, I assume, for four years now. There is no reason for him to be flirting with every female that comes his way. If it was something you both agreed upon, for a little spice or something, that's another story but it clearly bothers you and is ruing a potential happy, comfortable union. I would sit him down, talk to him, eye to eye, ask him why he does it. And tell him how it truly makes you feel inside. I've been with men (boys) who have said they love me and only me but it's "natural" to look at a pretty woman or strike up a converstaion with her. Of course, none of those relationships lasted long. I got real sick real qucikly of that "it's only natural" excuse. Not only were those men, not mature but along with there constant swiviling heads, they lied and lied and lied some more. It goes with the behaviour. If he learns how much his inappropriate actions hurt you so, and he does truly love you then he will stop or at least clean up a bit, keep it to a minimun when he's just "with the guys" or at one of his center of attention parties. Communicate with him. Tell him straight, how it makes you feel. What if you were doing what he was doing? All of the time, non-stop? Then again, talking his personality, maybe he would like it? Good luck and remember, there are all types of guys out there. Maybe this personality type is not for you. You know, the 'oh but it's natural to look'........flirt........lie......... then cheat?

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through but it's best that you found out when you did - not later on in your relationship. I agree with both talk2me & friendindeed's replies. This is probably only the beginning. Once a liar, always a liar. Trust yourself, your feelings and examine what you get out of being with this guy. You are a smart woman and deserve a loyal, respectful partner. Take care of yourself and good luck...