LittleMissConfused

Hi SurferBabe, I've found myself in a similar situation because with the guy i've been (fairly casually) seeing for a while there are some complications and we've become more like friends with benefits. I know that it's an exclusive relationship tho. If u don't know he wouldn't be seeing other people then i think u should say no straight away. It's a very complicated situation. In your situation you'd see him more often than i see the guy i'm seeing but that could work against you. If you have (or have had) feelings for this guy then maintaining a purely physical relationship could be difficult for you. For many people, including me, it's hard to detatch emotion from physical acts of love. I don't think i can say whether he would like you to get back together or not, although if u offered to become FWB that's what he'll be expecting. How old are you? If you're only young then i don't think you should get into this complicated kind of relationship, you wouldn't want to lose your virginity to a guy in a unstable relationship. If he only wants FWB then don't go into that hoping for more cos the chances are it won't work and you'll end up hurt. From the experience i have it can make u feel very insecure to not know how the other person feels whilst continuing a sexual relationship. Would u be able to talk this through with him? Good luck PM me if u want to, i'll do all i can to help xx

"This is one reason it is dangerous for females to maasterbate, and not males. You see male will continue to produce sperm, but females are set with only so many eggs." That's not true. It is equally safe for females to masturbate as it is for males. It will not affect your fertility in any way. xx

Hey, My first time wasn't as painful as i expected at all. I did feel a little pain but after a few minutes it began to feel pleasurable. So don't worry too much. Make sure that you're not too tense or nervous as, like you said, that will make it more painful for you. Lots of foreplay is good, it will prepare your body for sex and relax you. Make sure you use protection so u don't have to worry about that. It might help if you go on top. I was on top the first time i had sex and it seem to work for me. It means that you have more control over the speed and depth of penetration. Good Luck xx

Don't worry too much, if you're not usually regular then there is very little to worry about at this stage. Even people with clockwork cycles can be late by a couple of days. If you used protection every time then there is only a very small chance you could be pregnant. I know what you're going through - i'm 18 and i had a pregnancy scare a few days ago after my first month of being on the pill (and using no other contraception). When you've got the idea into you're head, especially when you're new to these kind of experience, your mind can play tricks on you and make you think you're noticing signs of pregnancy. If i was you i would try not to worry too much for a few days at least then if you don't get your period and you're getting too worried then get a pregnancy test. Maybe you could consider going on the pill to save this worry in future? (althought it would not prevent STDs/STIs) If you want to talk PM me or my email is email removed. I'll talk anytime Good luck xx

Thankyou! Panic over now, i got my period this morning...thanks again for your help as always xx

Sorry - i meant it's NOW Saturday

I started on the pill after i had a pregnancy scare recently. I took the morning after pill and following that my period came on the 24th March (2 weeks early, it was only due on the 7th April). On the first day of this period i started to take the pill. I took it everyday, however twice i took it slightly late - once by 40 mins, once by an hour. I had sex without a condom on the 6th and 7th of April. I took my last pill on the 13th (Wednesday) and i know i should get my period during the 7 day break but so far i haven't. It's not saturday so i'm getting worried that i could be pregnant. What are the chances of this? xx

I took the morning after pill on the 17th of this month, i was told my next period may be a few days late or early as a result of this. However, today i started my period and i'm not due until the 7th April! Is this normal? Or do i need to see a doctor? Is there still any chance that i could be pregnant? xx

Thankyou everyone for all your help! I went to sexual health clinic today and they advised me to take the morning after pill. So i have and i've had no side effects as yet. Providing i get my next period by the 9th April i have no need to worry. I won't let it happen again that's for sure! Thankyou again xx

Thankyou! That's what i wanted to hear to be honest, just not what i actually expected to hear...does anyone else feel the same about this? Any advice is truly appriciated xx

I know the side effects can be really unpleasant but i'm terrified at the thought of being pregnant. If there was pre-cum then are the chances of me being pregnant not high enough to need the ECP? I don't want to end up having to have an abortion and i'm really not ready to have a child...i realise i may be slightly paranoid here tho xx

Hi, I was with a guy who i am casually dating yesterday & things went too far and we started to have sex before i knew what was happening. I cannot go on the pill for medical reasons and because of this i am usually very careful about contraception however this time i made a mistake. He had been inside me for no more than around 10/15 seconds when we stopped it but i am still concerned that there could be a chance of pregnancy. There is no risk of STDs/STIs as we have both been recently tested. I had my last period from the 7th - 11th of March, if i had sex yesterday (16th) what are the chance i could b pregnant? I know this was a VERY brief period of intercourse and thereforeeee he did not ejaculate inside me but i am aware that there may have been pre-cum containing sperm which could result in pregnancy? I am considering getting the morning after pill tomorrow, is this advisable in my situation? Thankyou, i am very grateful for any help. xx