shiny toaster

hey geecee, i posted a reply to your last thread when i was at my lowest of lows and reading what you guys all said really helped. thank you. me and my ex broke up very early january. unfortunately my ex doesn't want anything at all from me, and it is most puzzling. after two months of texts and e-mails, i gave in to human curiosity and went to see him early march to give him his stuff back (he was insistent on not seeing each other). he avoided eye contact and asked me the same question five times, "so what you been up to?" after a few hugs, i drove home, vision blurred by tears (although i never cried in front of him, proudest moment). at that moment, i said to myself exactly what you have said (by the way, fantastic open to your thread - stick to it!). i said, no more, i can't keep beating myself up. and so i stopped contacting him, as difficult as it was, i knew it had to be done. you have to give yourself the space to grow. before i knew it, a month had passed. it was far from easy. i found writing letters, texts and notes to him but not sending them really helped. tonight i really wanted to text him, but as my mum always says, "sleep on it, see if you feel the same in the morning". so who knows... you need to give yourself this time tho. at least a month, for both of you it will help. stand by your plan, you will feel so proud of yourself when you've gone a month. if it is worth having, it will come back to you, better than it ever was before.

I've been reading over your threads guys and it's good to know that you're not alone. I'm really finding times tough at the moment, and have been contemplating the No Contact rule. I think now, after reading how you guys have been getting on, I do need to have no contact for a while. I was dumped after two and a half years, for the simple reason that he wanted to find out what life's like without me. I foolishly went to see him yesterday after two months of not seeing each other to give him his stuff back and although it wasn't disasterous, it has hurt me today. All i can say to you guys who are meeting up with your ex's, keep it light and chatty, it really is the only way for the first meeting. Who knows what the future holds, but for now, you have to take small steps to loving yourselves all over again. I'm a trying... Please let me know how you get on, and keep smiling, xx

i was with my boyfriend for two and a half years, and it's been two months since we've split. i'm going out of my mind, it's not getting any better. i feel so empty, and i know i'm neglecting my life, how can i move on like he is? he is all i can think about... i know there's the No Contact rule, but i saw him yesterday evening, and he could barely look me in the eye. i just want to tell him how much i love him, but know that it's unreturned and would hurt me a thousand times over again. i realised how much he changed, but what hurts the most is that he made this decision and didn't even talk to me about it. he ended it through text messages and phone calls. i don't want to bore friends and family with my problems all the time. i can't even begin to think about meeting anyone else, he is all that i want. does it get any better? i don't know what to do, i'm so confused....