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  1. HopefulNessie
    Day 10 Beautiful day today! Have fun plans with my mom that I've been looking forward to all week I have several final essays to write over the next few days and then a few tests coming up and I will finally be done with this semester. I am so excited I'm getting my new gym membership next week (when I'm done with most of te finals essays) and I can't wait!!! and my first fitness class is on the 27th! A week from now woot woot. I set a challenge for myself two days ago. I not post a single thing on FB until May. I wrote "get off FB and deal" on a sticky note a long time ago and I'm finally following that advice! ....this has been a strange few days for me. I feel like I'm turning into a new person. A better person and I'm excited about it. I feel like I just barely scratched the surface though. Like this is the beginning of something that will take several months. It's funny how comfortable we get in our situations and with our habits, not because that's who we really want to be but because it's what we're used to a what we know. Then life slaps you in the face and makes you take a look in the mirror. I wonder if anyone else feels this way... But I really want to share these changes with my ex. I feel like our breakup is what triggered them and made me get out of my box and start the journey of me becoming a better me and what I really wanna be. I feel like even though the breakup left me devastated something good came from it and I wanna show him that good. I'm not quite sure how to explain it. But I don't feel attracted to any other guys yet and Everytime I think of going out with someone (no shortage of male attention) I can't. I just compare them to him and they don't live up. Plus I feel like I have more to offer now, and after a few more months of me going down this road I will finally be who I've wanted to be for years now but never had the courage and motivation to become. I don't want to "waste" that on a new guy. I think my ex deserves it. Can anyone relate to this? It's difficult to explain
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    Day 8 Today is your birthday. I hope you have a great day. I don't consider this breakin NC because I'm not expecting a response, but I did write him a happy birthday message on Facebook. Just said happy birthday and that I wish him all the best and happiness. I dreamt about him last night. It was bittersweet. I hope I will be seeing again in the flesh and not just in my dreams.
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    Day 7. His birthday is tomorrow. I set aside some money to buy him an iPad 3. Since that's no longer applicable I used the money to buy myself some clothes and a new purse and wallet. I know most advise against this but I will wish him a happy birthday tomorrow. Not expecting anything back, but it's te right thing to do. Hoping that today will be a good day. I'm in the mood to write and may do that after work...
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    Day 6 Rainy day today. Busy at work and with school. I hope he's going to have a good day. Miss sharing things with him. I feel like a lot has happened. His birthday is in a couple of days I had his present all planned for him. I'm sad that I can't get it for him anymore. He would have loved it. Lots of thoughts going through my head. As usual....
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    Have mixed feelings today. I am positive yet nostalgic at the same time. Signed up for 5 fitness classes, about to get a new gym membership, did a lot of thinking about how I will find time to do my hobbies again I'm very excited for May because this semester will end and I will get a chance to relax and get into a new routine. A routine that will keep me happy and balanced
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    I agree with you. I'm 23 and my dumper is 30. He knew what he wanted a lot sooner than I did and I've really found my identity during NC and I'm sad that it took this to make me open my eyes. But it is what it is. I hope he realizes the changes I've made and decides he wants to give it another go and communicate better with me.
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    I miss him a lot right now. Im with the family, having a good day together. It makes me wish I could share it with him. I hope he's enjoying his Sunday.
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    I miss him right now. No particular reason, no cool news to share like before, I'd just like to hear the sound of his voice. I wondered again if he ever thinks of me. I also wondered about how his (used to be our) puppy is doing. I bet she is getting big I hope work is going well for him. Does he wonder about my school or work? Who knows...
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    I miss him as usual but I'm trying to stay positive and have had a pretty good day so far Of course I keep wondering what he's thinking and if I ever cross his mind. I feel as though I more clearly understand myself and who I want to be since the break up. I'm just saddened that I didn't see that until now, because if I saw it sooner then this would not have happened. But lesson learned. I will continue changing and growing as a person and if it's meant to be God will let our paths cross when the time is right.
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    Day 1. He broke NC. My ex broke NC and sent me a text message which I replied to yesterday, no response from him. Yesterday was a very hard day for me. Today is a new beginning. I have to stay positive and keep moving forward.
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    link removed And a really good ending to this one
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    link removed Here are some
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    I posted a link to the Sarajevo Romeo and Juliet story on FB that led to me sobbing...and he has not liked or commented on anything of mine since our breakup and all of our contact (besides the contact the day after he broke up with me and had regrets) was initiated by me....I was hoping he'd remember that he told me the story of Sarajevo's Romeo and Juliet....now that he liked it, I'm left to wonder, does he remember when he told me the story? Why did he like it? Does it bring back some emotion for him too?
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    I'm so tempted to reach out to the mutual friend (more his friend than time) through whom we met...but I know that is stupid. It will bring me nothing but grief....
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    Today is the anniversary of a tragic event from our native country...I want to talk to him so badly...I know he's thinking about it. I ran accross a story on CNN that gutted me. It was an update on a story he first told me about regarding Sarajevo's Romeo and Juliet...he said I was his Juliet and he was my Romeo....I'm sobbing both because of the sad story and for him....
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    Day 3 of NC (after slight break)... Been at work for 11 hours now and still have stuff to do. Long day. Stressful. Usually I'd call him on my way home From work and we'd talk about our day. Now I can't. I wish so badly he'd send me a cute text like he used to or that we'd chat and talk about life and go out for some frozen yogurt. I also miss te puppy we got....FML
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    I really don't think he's gonna come around as fast as your guy did but I am so happy for you I wish that my story will have an ending like yours. Good luck with your relationship! I am so glad that your paths led back to being together. I know how you must feel now ( a lot wiser) and it can only help you in the future!
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    Thats what everyone is telling me as well. Reconciliation is the furthest thing from their minds but hope dies last for those in a situation like this. We broke up on March 1st and I 100% knew in my heart he'd text or call and take it back and on te evening of the 2nd he did just that and he "tried to make sure" how he feels and it turned into a "break" until March 8th and then he said he made up his mind and the feelings were gone but the entire time he didn't tell me what was wrong and I just got a feeling he'd take a few months and reach out to me. I'm hoping I'm right again and that it's not just wishful thinking.
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    Thanks for all the advice and feedback! It's comforting to hear someone in a very similar situation! It gives me hope that he in fact have that "aha!" moment and open himself up to reconciliation.
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    Sarosec- last time we talked I tried to reassure him that all these issues he saw were fixable and I told Him all I saw wrong with things and my own short comings and the only thing he said that was hopeful was that he could have done things better as well and he didn't know if we could ever be together again in the future or not. We ended the covo with him saying "we'll hear from each other" or "we'll keep in touch" ( we were speaking a different language so Can't translate directly) but then I texted him a few days later and asked if he wanted NC and that I'd do what was best for us and he said there is no us and NC would be best. At one point he also told me it was too late and I already had my chance (argument right after the break up) and I told him that was BS because I didn't get anything and he didn't even honestly tell me what bothered him until after the break up. He said he never BSed me and he's not ready to talk and has a lot of stuff goig on (this was prior to our last conversation that I metioned). It's all very confusing. Every situation is unique. I know him and I know we can reconcile but only if he has an "aha!" moment. He's had many "aha!" moments that were slow to come In the past and I guess I'm worried tat he won't have an "aha" moment. Stupid worry really! LOL. It's only worth my time if he DOES.
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    Thanks for the feedback Saroec! I see what you are saying and I know he has to realize his short comings I'm just worried that hell be too stubborn haha. But if your stubborn guy did, hopefully my ex will too Time heals all wounds and makes us all wiser, either way I know we will both be ok in the end.
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    Just bumping this positive thread For those who reconciled, did any of you have a stubborn partner who bottled things up? My ex is strong headed (which I loved actually because he always stood up for his beliefs) but we never communicated properly and honestly about what bothered him until AFTER the break up at which point he had already emotionally distanced himself. I let go off him and am focusing on bettering myself but I'm curious if he's likely to come around given his stubborn tendencies. He is set in his ways and has to make a mistake 2 or 3 times before learning from it but when he does he's 1000% committed to the change.
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    The longer I'm at work, the more I wish I could reach out to you. It's not a good day at the office and we always texted each other cute things throughout the day. I really miss that. I miss the cute MMS you'd send and hearing about your day. I miss sharing my things with you. I miss telling you updates and news. I miss us laughing together at some of the silly stuff your friends post on FB. I miss our nicknames. I have let go of you as best as I can and I respect your decision and will keep NC like you requested. It is hard, I hurt, but I will stay strong for me and for you. But most of all for me. I know you hurt too, even though you're not showing it as much as me. I wish you happiness and love and joy and I hope you have a great weekend and that you spend some time at the park with Diesel
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    I've decided that I should join the NC challenge I think it would be good for me We had NC for two weeks and had a positive talk on Thursday and today I sent him a funny MMS that I got which I thought he'd like and I wish I hadn't. He didn't reply and i know he received it so I'm left thinking it was a bad idea. NC it is again for me for two and a half weeks. I will wish him a happy birthday later this month but I will not contact him other than that.
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