reallyshyguy

I don't think it's really fear of rejection.. it's how the girl will accept you.. and we all know that feeling of rejection.. and it doesn't feel good emotionally..you feel depressed about it.. that's how i felt when i got rejected.. just recently.

an example or two of any situation would be nice.. thanks

Hey The Morrigan what you said there.. is true.. and i think it's happening to me as well.. Now that i know what a girl's perception is.. your view on this incident.. what is the best solution for that.. how do u know it's OK to have a convo with a girl or even the girl comfortably wants to talk to me.. don't get me wrong though.. i simply feel the same way if i'm not comfortably speaking to a girl in general specially the girl i like.. anyway thanks for that reply.. it probably cleared some things in my head

thanks for your advice S4il.. I knew some of those things you said happens to me a lot from this girl.. i just thought i should give her some distance.. because she did tell me that she had a bf.. my approach was not that good.. i dunno i think i'm giving up on it.. i most likely blew my second chance to get to know her better..

a girl wants you to talk to her?.. is there suppose to be sign or signals that you see towards her? thanks.

i was in the same position as you.. ninjakid. I was turned down as well.. i took it pretty hard but not that i go into depression or anything.. everything for me what i did to that girl i like was the first time.. I'm 22 and i still looking for that someone.. but i dunno.. she still keeps looking at me saying hi and stuff.. but still confuses me.. i dunno what to say..

oh ok.. i know what you mean now.. but i'm willing to wait if anything.. btw, i saw her today... she looked gorgeous as always.. it's so d@mn hard to take my eyes off of her.. she kinda did that routine.. again.. where she passes by just to come and see me.. i kinda gave her the hints to, but in any case.. i smiled at her and she smiled back.. so i dunno.. i guess right now i'm pretty happy about it just to build up confidence in her.. anyway thanks for you input dude. ps.. any other inputs are welcome.. please thanks.

I have posted here before on another topic (dating for shy people) i think.. here's the link: link removed this girl rejected me yes.. and it hit me hard that day.. that i almost cried.. i think she's portueguese or spanish either one.. and i'm filipino/canadian.. no one ever at top of my head gave me her attention the way she does.. it's hard to describe but i guess when you read the my earlier post above.. you'll get my drift.. anyway it was friday when she rejected me her having a bf already.. so a week passed by.. she did not do her routine of her passing by where i am and stuff like that which to me was understable.. i never said hi to her and she did the same.. because i was feeling this awkardness towards her.. it was hard to get over it.. and is still now because i've been waiting for someone like her.. she doesn't smoke, not anything.. so then i asked for advice from a friend.. and he told me my approach was wrong.. I told my friend that I showed how i felt about her(well not really) i almost did, i think she thought i was going to tell her how i feel.. which my friend told me was wrong.. my friend told me to just say hi to her and to never show your feelings towards someone you like because you barely know her.. my friend tells me to make things right.. just keep saying hi to her to build confidence towards her and her having the confidence in me.. So i thought that that's the reason why she told me she does have a bf.. So then 2 weeks now, i've notice she's looking at me and I look back and then 2 days after she said "Hi" to me and I said "Hi" back.. after that week.. now whenever i go to our to stud centre to chill.. she would usually pass by and look at me.. that routine again.. SO Please guys and gals.. help me out.. i'm really confused.. i really don't know what's going on in her head..

i have to agree with you spun874554.. that's the kind of girls i would go for.. but then it's hard to find those kind of girls if you barely go out.

ok you know what.. i think i may have done what the original poster did and i think i made that mistake.. a big mistake.. i don't know how long you were going after this girl.. but i have been at least waiting for like a year when i asked her to "walk with me.. i got to tell you something".. i never intended to ask her out.. at least i never got to say what i was suppose to say to her.. basically i just wanted to tell her that i want to get to know her better as a friend... she told me that "i'm sorry i got a bf already" so i think i made that very big mistake for asking her i think i dunno if that's early.. so my 2 cents. reallyshyguy

hey cid thanks.. i guess i'm the newest member in the club of rejected guys.. LOL.. thanks for your help

hey man i feel you.. girls are somewhat weird, you don't know what's going on in their minds.. basically i had a somewhat relative experience that you have.. i mean if a girl leads you on and you know they want to be talked to but then when you ask them if they want to talk to them they usually would say "oh i'm sorry i have a bf already".. which is pathetic.. like you said why can't they just say no..

to update my current situation.. on friday i talked to her and this is how it went down.. the conversation started like this.. me: "hi".. are you done school"and she said "hi".. i'm waiting for someone...."see ya" as she was going.. so then i said "hey wait..wait" and I told her "i need to tell you something" so the she stops and comes back to me then i said "would you like to take a walk.." then she gives it to me right of the bat.. "i'm waiting for someone" then she says "oh i'm sorry i have a boyfriend" so i'm like "oh" nodding my head.. i was really stunned and speechless.. then i said "alright" nodding my head.. looking at the ground.. i was speechless and i didn't what else to think and say.. then she says "i'm sorry.. see ya" as she was going the other way and me going the opposite way walking out of our school.. man i felt embarrassed right after.. and my heart went down south.. i dunno why this girl is weird.. everytime i see her it's like.. come here and talk to me.. i want you to say hi and talk to me.. she wants to get noticed.. i mean she's got tons of guy friends to make her feel good.. to me it's just pathetic.. and then when i finally did talk to her yesterday friday she just blows me away... was it something i said to her that made her feel uncomfortable.. i'm not really sure.. what i did wrong.. oh well.. i feel like a looser.. reallyshyguy.

to update my current situation.. on friday i talked to her and this is how it went down.. the conversation started like this.. me: "hi".. are you done school"and she said "hi".. i'm waiting for someone...."see ya" as she was going.. so then i said "hey wait..wait" and I told her "i need to tell you something" so the she stops and comes back to me then i said "would you like to take a walk.." then she gives it to me right of the bat.. "i'm waiting for someone" then she says "oh i'm sorry i have a boyfriend" so i'm like "oh" nodding my head.. i was really stunned and speechless.. then i said "alright" nodding my head.. looking at the ground.. i was speechless and i didn't what else to think and say.. then she says "i'm sorry.. see ya" as she was going the other way and me going the opposite way walking out of our school.. man i felt embarrassed right after.. and my heart went down south.. i dunno why this girl is weird.. everytime i see her it's like.. come here and talk to me.. i want you to say hi and talk to me.. she wants to get noticed.. i mean she's got tons of guy friends to make her feel good.. to me it's just pathetic.. and then when i finally did talk to her yesterday friday she just blows me away... was it something i said to her that made her feel uncomfortable.. i'm not really sure.. what i did wrong.. oh well.. i feel like a looser.. reallyshyguy.

thanks guys for your opinions.. but in reality that's how i see it..

obviously i'm not interested at her friend.. LOL..

hi it's me again.. and i wanna know if any of the guys have experienced this situation.. i've been noticing this recently.. this girl i really dig at school has a friend that i think spies on me.. like i would sit somewhere in our stud centre the sofas for example.. and then her friend would make her way and then look at me.. she'd do this every now and then whenever i chill at the stud centre... now i don't know what to make of it.. is it a sign.. bad or good.. thanks. reallyshyguy

hey thanks for your reply cid.. i really wish it was that easy for me to just go up and tell her.. but i almost did try and tell her how i feel on wednesday but then all these nervousness kicked in, i felt numb all over my body.. i just couldn't.. i couldn't because like i said her guy friends intimidate me and i just can't help myself.. that's why i backed up a bit.. i know there's gotta be another way to do this.. but i'm not really sure how.. but i'm still waiting for that best moment where she's alone (i don't know when would that be but, im keeping my eyes open..)

are you sure i should ask that question??.. how sure are you about this?..

i was wondering.. actually i'm really confused... i guess i want to know if anyone can tell if the girl you like has a boyfriend.. i've been observing her and all that stuff at school and she seems to be friends with lots of people particularly guys.. again this girl is very popular.. time and again every time i see her she gives me that special attention by saying Hi and How are you... and then she'd leave towards to her friends... i consider myself a cool guy, i think she knows it as well.. but i dunno in the perspective of other people they might think i'm a nerd or something ...if you read my posting on "i really don't know what to do about this situation..help thread it will make you have an understanding of my situation... anyway that's all i wanted to know..before i tell her my feelings towards her. thanks for listening. reallyshyguy.

to update my situation.. i haven't really asked her out.. but i think that i blew it this time because she hasn't been saying Hi or Hello to me ever since tuesday.. i've been seeing her around school and she's not looking at me anymore i'm sure you know what i mean when you read my original story... yesterday i saw her looking a bit sad and she was with her friends from where i am i can see her accross from me and not turned around..so i think there still a bit of feelings there but, i'm not really sure.. when i came home from school yesterday.. i felt sorry for her.. in any case should i tell her what i really feel about her before i really loose her as oppose to talking to her and being friendly.. and then asking her out.. please help me!!!!..

thanks yahko for your response...i guess i kinda understand it a bit on girls perspective but i know i still got more work to do.. i just want things to be perfect when i talk to her, i don't want to stutter and stuff.. but i know i will.. hopefully she doesn't think i'm pathetic.. maybe i will ask her out to a movie..lol..

thanks for your reply, i could try some of the things you suggested...i guess when everyone is settled in class..i'll do it..too many people i'm getting claustrophobic..lol. anybody else have an advice for me..

i'm new here and i read some of the postings that appeal to me some of them do and some of them don't. Anway here's my situation: I've been single pretty much my whole life, i'm 22 and i think it's the right time to have a relationship with someone. I've gotten to notice/like this chic from the college school im attending, she's really really attractive, everytime i see her i get nervous and i just drool over her (not literally but you get my point) when i see her. Although i never really thought about it, up until my guy friend starting liking her other friend. I noticed her looking but i didn't mind it at all.. i figure people tend to look at you (not that there's anything wrong with that). So, a month past by the summer semester i was getting some good vibes about her, she would often look at me and I would look back at her... 2 months past..I'm getting signals like when i'm sitting down at a table somewhere she'd go around just to see me, she'd do that once a week, she would twirl her hair which is typical sign that this girl's interested in you. So i had the courage to finally to talk to her by my friend giving me some good advice, and i was so happy that day... basically we got introduced to each other and talked a bit about school, we ended up having a short conversation because i knew she had class and she saw her guy friends..so then i figured i had to go.. Ever since then i never had the chance to really talk to her because she's always with her friends..she's a very popular girl, her friends intimidate me as well and i just could not approach her (i really wish i wasn't shy) she's got a lot of friends guys/girls mixed... i could never catch her alone. When i see her around we would always say "Hi", "Hello", "How's it going" she responds to me but tends to shyoff.. maybe my friends around me intimidates her, or she might be on the go for something i'm not really sure.. stuff like that to each other and that would be it, nothing more nothing less.. but we still have that eye contact going on, she never snubbed me yet. One thing i also noticed is that whenever i'd go in to our Stud Centre she'd go right after. Now I know, it's long overdue now and time to talk to her d@mn already. But i still don't know what's keeping me back. Do i feel insecure yes..to some extent..i'm conscious of how i look and present myself, i do have some acne and some scars but what can i do. I know i'm a nice guy and i have so much respect for girls/women that i could never hurt them. I just want things to work out and to finally ask this girl out. PS. maybe it's true the saying "shy guys finish last", "guys who are jerks only get the good looking girls and nice guys don't" I wish i was a psychic to tell what's going on in this girl's mind. Can anyone help me out there with at least similar situation.. thank you. reallyshyguy.