confused_001

i hate these games. but, it all appears so true. I want my girl back SO bad, the only way I know how to do so as of now is to NOT call her. She doesn't want to be with me all of a sudden. I know she has interest in another guy. I went through the pleading to salvage our relationship, but it did no good. In fact, I believe it pushed us farther apart. So I haven't heard from her in two weeks, nor have I called. But just yesterday I got an email from her. She didn't say anything about us. Just said she was saying hi. And she is starting school and needing to be preoccupied for a while. (whatever that means?) Sounds to me like a "Don't get any ideas about me emailing you" type of comment. I haven't responded yet, hoping that she will wonder why and develop interest to know what I have been doing, and overall get her to start thinking about me again. All the while I am almost suffering, but doing everything I can to not think about her, so in her time, maybe she will reconsider us again. Damn i miss her.

If you and a girl were together for one year, thought things were going great. A few minor dissappointments here and there, nothing abnormal. Infact, this was one of the most pleasant relationships I've had. She says she loves you, and tells you that you are possibly the one. I never told her I loved her back, but I wasn't sure and didn't want to lie. During that whole year she never shared any concerns of dissappointment with me other than she'd like to see me a little more. I am busy with 2 jobs and school. I still try and see her when I can. She goes away with some friends who happen to be male. I trust her, because we've talked about how we give each other freedom to do things. Well, I get a little jealous over the few days she is gone, and realize how much I want her to get back and actually am realizing I do love her. I tell her. She thinks its too much all of a sudden. Anyway, she likes another guy. I even asked her if there was someone of interest. She said no. Not at all. So my telling her how much I care for her and would hate to lose her, did nothing but end our relationship in 3 days flat. I am messed up over this like never before. Next night after our on the fly break up, she is in bed with dude. I go to his house because he was my friend. I am mad. I express that. I also express I still care for her, all she has for me is she is not "in love" with me. 2 days later she says she is not with him, didn't do anthing with him but sleep, and does care for me. So, this makes hope in my head. I talk to her days later, and express I want to try and make us work. She says she can't right now. Maybe some day. But she is attracted to dude, but not necessarily going to be with him. Well I know she wants to be. What does this mean? I still imagine and hope for us to be together. Am I stupid? Isn't that cold of her? Is this normal? Can things be ok if I forgive her and pursue her back???? She hasn't even called me in almost 2 weeks. How can someone transform like that? I never used to put up with this type of crap.

was there stretch of time neither of you called each other? just a bunch of wondering if they even think about you anymore?

Nice to see someone my age feeling the same way... Not that I am glad you are hurt too.. Just someone I can relate to I guess. I too am almost 25 and hurt over a girl wanting to "act her age" at 22. I am exercising alot more, trying to keep busy, so I don't have to think about how much I want what we had, and how much better it could be if I had a second chance. She is with another guy already though... stab. Ouch my heart.

well i can relate actually... What will happen with you and your friends friendship will change. He will want whats best for his sister, reguardless who the guy is. So plan things to never be the same. It doesn't neccessarily mean it will be bad. If you are true to this girl, and are there for her no matter what.. He will have respect for you. But, if not, your friendship will sufffer. Then you lost the girl and your friend.

thanks OCS|virus.. I still haven't heard nothing from her.. but I remain persistent in keeping from contacting her. (damn its hard). I think she is content in spending time with another guy. What a painful thought.

So me and my girl were together for over a year. She pursued me. I kinda felt like I really didn't want a relationship with her at first.. but, she really pursued me. She got me. I loved her kiss. We have been sexually active since day 1. Well, during that year, I was working a M-F job, going to school, and getting prepared to do my own business. I told her I had these priorities to attend to, and she was in complete support. (So I thought.) Throughout the whole year, things felt to have only slowly progressed, other than the fact she expressed the word "love" to me, and asked if I ever thought about our future together in marriage. I said no, that is too far in the future for me to think about. Anyway.. to the point. Come to find out, she was not happy with the little time I spent with her. Never came out and told me she was feeling this way to a degree that it would hinder our relationship. Well last week she went on a 3 day trip with a friend of mine and hers who happens to be male. Well, I felt jealous, and realized that I care for her more than I had admitted to myself and really was beginning to desire her at a rediculous degree. So when she came back I shared my feelings after all this time. I was expecting her to be happy.. but instead she said that it was too much all at once. What!? Then rapidly she talked us down our relationship until we were completely separated in 3 days. I am crushed. I can't get a grip. I cry to her and beg to hold on to our relationship. It seemed this only made things worse. The night after our break up I decide to call her.. she dont answer. I call the guy she was with to ask him if he knows what happened with us. He don't call back either. I am now thinking... um.. oh no. They are together right now. I drive to (my so called friends house) at 3 am. to prove to myself her car is not there. But, it is. I go numb, walk around to his window, look in his room, there they are in bed. I make my presense known. I dont do nothing drastic, but she tells me she is not "In love" with me. She calls 2 days later, and tells me they are not together, and she does care for me. But needs time for herself. I talked to her in person days later expressing that I care for her still and will forgive all, just give us a chance again, and things will be greater than ever before. She says she needs time, and she is attracted to dude. I left after that and haven't called her back. A little over a week has gone by, and I have not heard from her.. I want her to call me. I can't call her, I have done everything I know how to try to get her back. Are we done for?? Am I crazy to hold on to her after this??

well, what seems to work in these stupid relationship issues is acting or being unintrested in your particular person. I have been with a girl for a year and was unsure about staying with her for a majority of the time. Well, as soon as she wanted to break us off, I find myself in agony wishing we could at the very least, be what we were. Now I want her so much more than I did before. She hasn't called me in over a week. Im hurt. I miss her. I done all I knew how to get her back. I think I pushed her away farther because of my lack of confidence in myself and begging for her back. She is now interested in some other guy. I now realize what I didn't want to lose. But obviously Im no relationship expert, I lost my girl. Make him feel like he can't have you that easy. He will want you all the more.