Well, I think my problem is unique and need some support and advice...
I've been married for about 9 months to my highschool sweetheart. I love her more than anything in the world, the only problem is ( and a very big one ) is that she won't have sex with me. What she always tells me is that (scince she's a virgin) it will hurt too much. I am 20 years old and am in the Air Force. I am in excellent shape, and am constantly doing romantic things, thinking always that tonight might be the night. For the last probably 3 months I have given up all hope, telling myself that it's never going to happen. We both believe in never getting divorced, but i'm starting to wonder if this whole marraige thing is right for us. It feels like mabey we should just be best friends, but at the same time I am nothing wothout her... Before we got married, she gave me the impressions that we would be having sex probably 2-3 times a week. I now feel like I married a lie. I'm way too embarrased to tell anyone I know, because I'm positive no one will understand. I feel trapped! We constantly fight over the no sex issue and everytime it ends with her going away to cry to herself in another room, telling herself outloud that she is a bad person. I constantly tell her that she is not, then she promises that all she needs is alittle more time and then it will happen. Well she's been promising this scince our wedding night and its real old, and I even tell her that I don't believe her anymore. I feel like a 90 year old man, because my sex drive and our passion for each other has disappeared completley, because I've given up all hope. I've tried everything that I can do(besides marraige counceling). I'm not going to wait around forever, because this is not fair for me at all, so somthing needs to happen soon. Please help me! (P.S. I am also a virgin)
-ACC
