Liam

Hi, Yes, it's on a personal note. Having trouble letting go...... but there isn't much of a choice.

How much truth is there in this statement exactly? "If u love them, let them go. If it's meant to be they'll come back."

I think by now u would have pretty much read thru the forum for similar situations n advices. Most of them suggests that u should left ur ex alone for a while now. I would agree that's the best option. Let ur ex feel life without u. Let him feel the lost. He can't feel it now cos u r still in contact. He's running now. U r chasing. "Chasing after a running person only makes him run faster". In the mean time, take care of urself. Go out n enjoy urself. He sees u now as someone who's waiting for him. That's not very attractive. Show him that u can live without him. Show him that u can have fun without him too. It'll make u look more appealing to him. Let him go. "If u love somebody enough, let him go. If he comes back, he's urs to keep forever n u'll know it's true love.". I'm fighting a battle myself too. So i understand how u feel now. My ex left me n our nearly 4yrs relationship for another guy 6weeks ago. I kept calling her to come back to me. I was practically begging her. She was annoyed n even changed her number to avoid me. I wanted to die there n then. All these actions made me look dependent on her, can't live without her. Not very attractive eh? So i decided not to contact her anymore. I have more dignity n self respect. I shouldn't humiliate myself like that again. I really know how u feel now Braidy Jones. I wish I could be there to hold ur hands n give u a big hug.

She won't talk to me... she won't even answer my calls, she go to the extend of changing her cell phone number. Her mum doesn't know much. just that she has been hanging out with that guy. i think they might be together by now. People tell me not to contact her anymore. it makes me seems i'm dependent on her. True.

When we were together, I admit there were times when when i wonder if i could really spend the rest of my life with her. Somethimes we couldn't communicate on the same level. Then something i have this feeling I'm meeting her for the sake of meeting her. No i regretted all this feelings. i really do. Before she changed her number, I text msged her taht I was sorry, willing to marry her, learnt my lessons, can't lived without you, etc. all were useless. she didn't response. she totally cut me off. What should I do now?

Hi all, I'm 24 and my ex 22. My ex broke up with me a month n half ago. We were together for 3yrs 7 mths. I was busy with my studies and neglected her. She wanted to get married too and I keep escaping the question with "okie but not now" kind of stuff. i really do want to marry her but it's not the time yet. She broke up with me after enduring the constant neglecting and lack of sense of security from me. I tried to patched things up after a week but she refused. 2 weeks later, I call her, text msg her, wrote letters but she wont pick up or response to any of them. I call her sis and was told that after we broke up, my ex started going out with another guy. going back late and all. I was devastated. I tried to call her again but she refusd to answer the phone. I was so lost. I cried, couldn't concentrate, couldn't eat, lost so much weight. When we were together, my ex put alot of my photos standing in the cabinet on her dressing table. But her sis told me she still has one of my photo standing in the cabinet. confused I decided not to call her anymore. Then a mutual fren told me that my ex has changed her cellphone number to avoid me. Heartless. Last week, I was walking past her workplace in a shopping mall with a classmate(gal). I saw her, i smiled, she saw n smiled back(the way she smile when we were together). The moment i saw her, i felt weak. my classmate saw me n hold(hugged) me to support me. The next day, i called her sis. she told me my ex was very angry thinking that i found a girlfriend so fast. Confused again. The next day i bought something for her mum n brought it her mum's workplace. her mum ask me what happened and i told her the whole story. she called my ex(at home) n let me speak to her. i explained that the gal was not my girlfriend. she ask me"then y is she hugging if if she's not your girlfriend" in a jealous tone. then she further added that it was none of her business. i told her"i wasn't angry when you went out with that guy after we broke up, so y r u angry wif me over this." she kept quiet. i questioned her "if you don't have any feelings for me, y r u feeling upset over this?" she kept quiet, paused, and said it was none of her business, again. I asked her to come out and n talk face to face. she refused. i said i'll go up her hse.she refused. then she put me on 2nd line hold. after that she never got back to me on the line. i called but she won't pick up. her mum suggested that i should go over her house tonite when she'll let me in to talk to my ex. i agreed. Night came, her mum told me she went for a fren's local resort stay. she was suppose to go the next day, but thought i was going up her house so she went earlier by a day. her sis told me she has been going for this resort thing almost every week. i was thinking, when we were together and when she was staying at my house, she told her family that she was going for a reort stay too. It broke my heart hearing this. I wanted to die there n then. Her sis told me my photo is still there in the cabinet.I'm so confused can anyone help and advice. feeling so miserable.....

Thanks all for ur wonderful n encouraging supports! At times like this, it's really assuring to hear concerns from others. Well, times are pretty much up n down. I still think/dream of her....the last dream was a scene were i was lying on her laps,she smile at me n we kissed....(arrrggggghhhhh!!!!!!) There are times when i know i can get thru this... And there are times when i'm fighting not to contact her... I just found out that she has changed her cell phone number. I didn't call her, but a mutual fren told me... How heartless....

N it doesn't help that i can't sleep ,eat, do anything right...... My mind is constantly clouded..always having her in my mind, even in my dreams in watever little sleep i have.... I've been chain smoking n drinking myself silly to sleep.... i know it's bad...but i can't help it... i really can't...............

Thank u very much for ur advices.... Have been trying to block out any thoughts of my ex since... Still have very strong urge to call her to tell her how much i miss her. But i did not of course coz i know she won't pick up..... BUt i still want her back....sigh..... thank u all......

Hi all, I'm 24. My ex(22) broke up with me a mth ago. Reason being that i didn't give her a sense of security. I have to admit that i didn't make time for her.. I was really busy with school and all. She wanted to get married with me. I wanted to but told her not now. Didn't want to lie to her so told her the truth. There were times when i felt that I couldn't communicate with her at the same intellectual level. But she was really nice to me n all. She was very faithful to me. didn't cheat on me (I can swear to that) Then after enduring bottling up these lack of sense of seurity in her, she finally broke up with me. At first I felt nothing much, but still want her back. she said no and i took it well. A week later i tried again but she totally cut me off. She didn't answer my calls, didn't reply to my messages on her cell phone, didn't rerply to my letters, told her frens not to tell me anything..... Then I started to miss her really badly that i tried to call her again last week. no answers. I ended up calling her sis. She told me she has been going out with this guy immedaitely since i broke up with her, going out really late n all. The guy owns a car so is able to pick her up to n from work.... I was devastated!!!.... Her sis told me everyone told my ex not to break up with me. Her mum too (her mum really likes me). but she was still stuborn. I sms her that i was willing to sacrifice anything to be with her now, willing to marry her now,learnt my lesson.....etc all kinds of thing to make her come back to me....but in vain. I actually broke down in front of my parents because of her.... I really hope she will come back to me.....really....i'm still waiting.. I feel like i'm slowly dying away........ I need some advices here.......