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I would just be normal around her and ask her to go out somewhere if you get to talking to her one on one. If she likes you she'll probably say yes.

There's been alot of posts on this subject in the past. The situation your in is a no win situation. I would say that 75% of his being close and your best friend, was because he thought something more would come out of it. He's a guy. He wants sex definetley, and maybe possibly a relationship. This was his main motivation. I would say you have to cut it off if your not intrested in him. He will just resent you the more you reject him and are with him. My suggestion is to get more girlfriends as best friends and not guys. Unless attraction is not involved, both guys and girls I think can never be just friends.

The only thing I can see wrong with your situation, is that this girl your with probably can't make an accurate decision about you, at her age. She grew up with you, sinse the age of 9, and is probably all that she really knows. That's why aged gap relationships are so taboo, it seems. It's the experience involved.

Maybe 2 weeks aren't long enough. If you got into a huge fight, maybe it's best to stay away for a bit longer.

hey confused, that's good thinking. Try to keep it going, unless it's not worth it anymore to you. goodluck

Here's the deal, by having a nice image before which you did, you made a mistake by listening to your friends. You went by what they said, cause it sounds like you had a different opinion. By calling it a mistake to hookup with that guy. That same guy, maybe liked you and got hurt now, so he's spreading rumors around in his favor to protect his image. Or he's just gloating and has no respect for you. Either way I would take a close look at this guy you known for 5 years.

I always thought that teaching kids about the different kinds of drugs, make them want to try them more, cause now there educated on them. Being young you think nothing can hurt you, so they say in health class is gives you a great high. Alot of kids, not all I'm sure, being young, could take all that information the opposite way and want to try it.

I would say tell him about that as soon as possible before he thinks it's perfectley fine, too make all the desicions in the relationship. I would suspect, he doesn't trust you then, it's obvious.

How did you find out, he knew your girlfriends parents? During the examination? Are you worried, she gave you one, or the other way around? I see how that could make you very uptight, in that situation, but I agree with the other posters.. Let us know though, if you checked out clean. If you checked out otherwise, tell your girlfriend about it, for sure, have her get tested also. Maybe though by a different doctor. goodluck

Hey pumpkin fairy- , somebody failed you down the line or it's in you wiring to be accustomed to drinking. I think you should let your mom know, what's going on. Your way to young to drink alcahol and know how to control it at a safe level. Let someone you know who's closest to you, the problem. I know it's totally against what you want to hear, but you know it's wrong so that's a good start. Tell your mom. She should know what's going on with her daughter, maybe when she finds out your drinking also, it will make her start to think more about your problems and maybe hers. Goodluck

hey confused, if the love isn't there one your part, there's nothing you can do. Marriage to this girl was a bad choice. It's takes 2 people in a relationship to make it work. Usually the love ends I think when one person gives up on it. It could be mutual, even better then, right? No need to even think about decisions , but I think it's usually one person's fault. Sounds like by what you wrote, it's your wife on that one. She might be making you smoke more and be unhealthy, who knows. but if the love is gone on your part, there's no sense in it then. goodluck

I agree with playbrat, about coming to a final conclusion. Obviously there was a breakup. So something made it happened. You got to figure out if why it happened and if your willing to deal with it again. If it was your fault, then make a contact, but don't expect anything. If it was hers, let her call you if your still intrested.

Hey 15and nervous, I think you did the right thing. You made a good gesture, but sometimes like tsunami said, they won't stop unless they want to. It's none of your business to have to try and do something about it. There are counselors and people out there, that are trained to handle that kinda stuff. It's not new to those people. Talk to them, if you find this bothers you. Goodluck

that's a shame, you call him your ex. I'm sure the car accident was a wakeup call for him in some respect. Maybe his own life, at least for that moment. By calling you, it just shows kinda, the walls that can get built up. , if you want to get back together though, I would let him take the initiative towards it.

Since she brokeup with her boyfriend only a couple of weeks ago, It could be she's just looking for a friend right now to be on her side about the whole mess. Watch the, her being 'evasive' stuff like you said. Somebody that just got out of a relationship, it can be a tough call, goodluck

Hey nottobright, I think that's a good approuch. A girl that kisses you is attracted to you. I don't see how she can, by a few words, all of a sudden lose her liking. But I think it's more of her getting off that you like her now, after you made it sound like you didn't at first. She kissed you also, Sounds like a bit of some teasing on her part, going on there. Goodluck

Hey sarsapolis6, try not worring about it too much. The more you focus on this, it might portray to her that you purposley trying to sound smart or take over conversations. There's no rule book, if you got something to say, say it. If you don't feel like talking, don't.

Hey santa, it's probably mostly water weight flucuations. If your currently overweight, you probably sweat alot. Cut down on your salt and drink more water. Also buy a new scale, your scale may be part of the problem. goodluck

Orange soda, This guy your with needs to be locked up. I'm sure he's got a criminal background already, if he doesn't, - he does now, cause he physically abused you.. You are getting abused on all levels. I can agree with napolian in a way, cause you have to understand that it's your fault as well for taking this abuse, Your hurting yourself in a sense. Your brainwashed by this guy. Some can respect you for loving him. I personally don't respect your decision. I hope you take alot of the advice that was givin - goodluck

I don't agree that your boyfriend is telling you it's okay to be intrested in another guy. That sounds way to passive. Whether he really trusts you like that, I don't know. If that's the case, it's gonna hurt him I imagine, if you act on what your talking about here.

Hey nottoobrightguy, you told her you don't want a relationship right from the beginning. That's telling her, I don't mind you seeing other guys whenever you want, cause I'm afraid to give you a shot- I don't want to get hurt and stuff. She might be all confused now by what you want.

Ray Kay, that's true, I don't read full history's that often obviously. She's to smart is cool, the puke thing though, made me want to post, lol - she's2smart -you can understand, no offense if taken.

If it's really bothering you, than maybe instead of ditching it. Think more about what's going on and if it get's to a point where you really have no faith anymore, or can't handle it cause it hurting your life, instead of making it better, leave it then. Maybe that's how you feel right now, who know's. Goodluck

She's to smart, you talk about your relationship like it's a bad thing. Are you really happy here? or do you find it, maybe you just settled? you got married to a guy who's way younger. You shouldn't have to say, the relationship, would make somebody puke. The only reason I would even ask there.

Hey muneca, cool, but be careful. you mentioned 3 dudes here. I would suggest you avoid juggling if all possible.