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hoppy, she said that too you before or after? Do you have any evidence she's curently with another guy right now?

Hey hoppy, If that's the case,.She likes you apparently. Maybe your doing something where she wants to be single here. Take a closer look what's going on.

I agree with helloladies. There's to many guys in the scenerio on her part. If she really liked you, it should only be about you. So probably games are being played there.

I agree, I don't think you should purposley try to steal her away from her boyfriend . helloladies you are evil man, lol . the only way to really do it, is to be in the picture, and if you feel she's not happy with her boyfriend or there's problems, then go for it. But don't hurt a good relationship unless she tells you she's having problems with it.

Hey happy, that sucks, . I would say leave her alone for now. If there was anything there, she'll return that voice message in the future. Don't call her though. The balls in her court. and if you find out then things you don't want to hear, if she does ever calls back. Dump her and like brando said, date other girls. Easier said than done sometimes, I know. goodluck

hey chrissy67, I'm not trying in anyway to agree with your daughters boyfriend. I think your daughter is brainwashed though by him. However, maybe she's lashing out at you guys for possibly being overprotective? You said you looking through all her stuff and are spying. Treat this like any relationship. When you bark alot of orders most people will lose intrest in you if that's the case. . Why not just sit her down, tell her how you guys really feel and see what happens. You are the parents here, and she is totally under your wing right now. I think when stuff like this happens, she's not being educated enough by her parents. goodluck

That is very long but yet intresting. I didn't read the whole thing. I honestly was very confused after you contradict yourself like hope75 said. I saw where it was going from then. I would say for 3 years you guys both were two different people. There is some hate for this girl you definatley have in you. But don't ever hit a girl first off, no matter how many problems you may have. It sounds like you and her need to stop thinking it's all about you. Maybe you did that, and she doesn't see it for whatever reasons. Possibly cause of your being paranoid issues. Or she's very greedy. obviously though it wasn't working. . Can't speak for her obviously cause you wrote it. I would look into working on yourself though first before trying to fix her. goodluck

I agree with kurodashi, He's not a sleeze if he finds you attracive, but as long as you tell him early on, he'll go for another girl and not waste his time unless you know from him he wants only friendship.

I agree, If you know somebody who's got it, you got to ask the question. Most likely I will get it probably also if I continue, and why didnt't they take any measure not to get it either in the past?

Good for you for recognizing. Don't put up with any crap like that. If you met him in march, it's onlt been a few months. He sounds like he's got a lot of probelms, probably from his life in general and he's taking it out on you. Don't get caught up in his problems that I'm sure have been going on for years now, he's a few years older. . You want to have a healthy relationship and this guy is not helping any matters. Goodluck

I agree with annie, Don't worry about a thing unless she really wants him back. Asking more questions about her past relationship to this guy serves no purpose. She's with you now.

I agree with that. You need to say it straight up how you feel. If you seriously don't like this guy. This type of guy sounds like he wont leave you alone unless he knows your really not intrested. Hopefully you'll get out of it, and won't have a stalker on your hands in the future. Goodluck

Hey shysoul, first off I don't want to make it seem like there's any problem with how you are, cause I think you got the right idea. I think both parties in a relationship constantly try to protect themselves, cause nobody wants a broken heart. It takes a busted heart or in kyo's case maybe a let down to be stronger the next time. All that I can disagree with you is when you said I need to be friends with a girl first. I tried that also in the past. and it didn't work for me. And this is just in my own experience. I've seen both sides of the fence in relationships. Personally, I know when a girl is attracted to me and I know when she's not. So I feel good that I know this. We all have different experiences but I know we can agree that you at least have to try to give it a shot.

I agree with helloladies, she currently is with you. Why bother bringing up her exe's. In my opinion, it just brings up maybe bad memories for her or just plain memories in general. She shouldnt really talk about her exe's either if she's with you.

The problem with this scenerio, is you want him to be in a relationship with you now.. The truth is he's probably got a couple other girls he's seeing currently and your just in the mix of things. He doesn't want to lose a good lay, and you really shouldn't of told him nothing more than what your relationship is. Friends with benefits. He know knows you care about him and he's gonna take advantage of that most likely. Because it was friends with benefits thing in his mind from the start. Your gonna get your heart broken eventually if you really expect anything more from this guy, goodluck

hey shysoul, there's been countless debates on here in the past over bad guys vs. the good guys. All I can see is there's different levels of confidence. A good guy and a bad guy with the same level of confidence, I think the results are the same. They will both meet girls. A good guy but said in a bad way from a woman, is a guy who's kinda like kyo in this situation. No offense to you here kyo, I'm just making a point. He's afraid in this situation, to approuch her for feeling ugly. Not giving her the chance to meet him to let her make up her mind. And if she says no. If confidence is lacking he will think it must be all about him and not maybe her. A guy who would have more confidence thinks, okay at least I gave it a shot and too bad then for her. I don't know her where I got any feelings so on to the next girl. I think I wrote before that to save yourself pain, it's best to ask a girl out before you get to know her too much. Shy you never post about this kind of confidence, you have women in your life. I think your extrodinarly nice to them, and you might possibly put them before you which makes them put the, he's way to nice to me, why is he going so much out of his way for me? is he needy, overprotective, jeleous? That's how I think girls think. I don't think they're used to the treatment so right away they think it's unusual and somethings wrong. But as long as she knows your doing it cause you know you don't have too. I think she wont have a problem with a so called, ' nice guy'. Back to kyo, you automatically just assume some stuff, and that thinking is the worst thinking. If it's not experienced you will always just assume the same thing for sure. I'm sure you already have reasons a mile long. But if you think it's a problem, try to do what you can to solve it. goodluck

Melrich, good point, It all depends I guess how you look at it. The facts do state, hutring her sister by pulling her hair and almost drowning her sister means she's a good candiidate for thearopy none the less.

Melrich, yeah that's a little extreme there i won't disagree. I guess I just disagree though only, cause we don't know sometimes what's going on. It's very easy to say someone needs proffesional help right away. More of waht I'm getting at.

Hey qtpie87, you really seem like a cool girl. Your on and off though sometimes when I happen to read. But I don't think you need any help. I think your strong and your a sweet girl. Some people like to think automatically you must need major help. It's okay to be angry sometimes. Don't ever feel though there's a problem with you unless you feel it's a problem. Goodluck

Shysoul, it's lack of confidence if you worry weather she likes bad boys or not. . Cause your just proving then, your underestimating yourself right there.

What is the question exactly? Very confusing. are you worried cause your friends father is an alcaholic, and she's currently married to an alcaholic? Or are you worried about the kid 'suzy'?? Liike Dn said don't expect miracles, she's been making her own desicions for awhile. I would tell her your worried about the kid and see what her take is on it. She may have to try to take care of this girl on her own if at all possible.

That's the problem with NC It's supposed to be played for leaving someone for good, but most people play it the opposite way thinking that person is gonna come back and miss them more. It can work everytime, but the longer and more times it gets played, you have to start to think seriously why NC is happening. It could be a sign of a bad relationship.

Hey tynock, I feel kinda bad for you. First off, it sounds she stubborn cus it's all about her and her feelings obviously. . Where as your looking out for her sake and being more mature. She's does sound kind of immature, and you said you had that feeling when you met her. I wouldn't ever get upset with her about it, it will just make her dislike you. Too bad, if she misses talking to you. She clearly says she want's something different. She wants you to except that fact of being with other guys. That would be a big NO, in my book. I would have to leave her alone until she grows up. Or actually really examine why that's going on before I could make any drastic choices. But that's a really bold statement coming out of her, and wether it's immiturity or something else there is going on. She's clearly on a different page than you.

Hey kyoshiro, I remember one time I read something from you about this girl you like on the bus. The longer you wait and build her up in fantasy land, that is your own head, if she says no, after you ask her, your gonna be more hurt. The sooner you ask her, the better. It's better to be rejected by a girl you have no real feelings for, than to get to know her and then make a move and be rejected. You have to make a move if you like her. You have to watch out for yourself first and stop catering to other woman that you don't even really know. If you thought like this, you would of asked her already. Your feelings have to come first. The more time you spend debating about this girl, she might get a boyfriend most likely in the meantime .Get your foot in the door at least with her now, and then go from there. She might actually like you. How will you ever know though if you keep downgrading yourself and saying it automatically can't happen. Your analizing is beating you up. Everybody has what you have in their head, it's common. But I think your just focusing on that one aspect of it way too much. Try to focus on asking her out first- Goodluck

I have to agree with lady00, I didn't read your history. But he's on the rebound if he just broke up first off. It's good you feel not jumping so fast into things like he wants. But make sure he's over this other girl before you get to too involved. He'll drop you most likely , like yesterdays news, if he still wants his ex back. Goodluck