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That's not cool, if it's not in a playful way. If he's throwing you around and you want to break up cause of it, then you should. Cause I would think he's doing it for real. It's one thing to lie, but it's another thing to actually use force against you in a serious way over that reason.

Explain though your reasons for ''away mode' like you said. That's really all I can see how communication might of went sour right away. If he was trying to get in touch with you after the date, you said you got his emails and stuff much later.

I agree, the letter is very long and it's all about how you screwed up. 1 month is two quick to go from what you wrote in that letter to how you actually treated him 1 month ago. 1 month isn't that long to put it all out there either like that. I would wait awhile, there's a chance he might still contact you. I would wait another month, and then decide what you want to do.

Hey caldus, hang in there. When I was a little younger, I was just like you. I lost touch with friends after highschool and was all alone. I went straight to work and I've met people here and there over the years. Some I'd call friends and some I wouldn't. As you get a little older you'll meet more people down the line. It sounds good that your studying and acing your classes. You got a whole future ahead of you, your schooling as you know is top priority. You might disagree but you'll meet alot of people, either at your college or when you start workiing. goodluck

Hey xmrth, you really like this guy I can tell obviously just by reading. I think your therapist is telling you wrong things. If I had any good advice to telly you, I really think you should get a close friend or family's opinion about this.

hey xmryth, I noticed on enotalone, there's alot of posts that are big on advising counseling, therapists, shrinks etc. There's nothing wrong with that. But I read your post and you kept saying my therapist told me this and that. Your therapist doesn't know anything about you. I would go to family or friends really first when you got a problem. If there's really no one that can help you then yes, go see a therapist, Just a suggestion.

It seems right away you thought your dad was cheating. You know I'm sure pretty much how your parents lifestyles are. . Were they like high heels, hooker boots, gymshoes, old lady shoes? Before you go telling anyone I would investigate and play really stupid until you find a bit more proof. If it was true he was cheating, and like someone else said, was careless to do this in his own home. I would think it would happen again and you would have more proof. Maybe she was a neighbor, maybe a real estate agent, maybe another family member dropping buy for a few minutes. Who knows really

Your husband sounds a little bit on the tightass side. Like he's all into church going and stuff. I think you both should spend some time together, I think you shouldn't be going out to clubs and this and that looking for satisfaction though . On the other hand you said you explained this to him, hopefully he's not clueless and taking this as it means nothing, when clearly your clubbing with other guys on the weekends and going to church on sundays. It's an odd mix

I agree with the above. Also We don't know anything though about your family. Remember your parents were divorced and why your probably having problems now. Your dad calls your mom a crazy . To the person reading this , what makes him any better? They're both divorced so who knows who's right here? I had a couple friends growing up that were messed up in life over a divorced parent situation. I think you should move out regardles. There's no reason for a dad to say in front of his 18 year old daghter, your mom's a crazy . Goodluck

Hey ysitsohard, If your not on the best of terms now and all this is going on. Don't know the reasons for that. But I would give her space and let her deal with it on her own. If she wanted too, she would of informed you what's up personally about her situation, she wants to be left alone. Leave her alone.

Did she mention any of this to you personally about the problems she's having? . It sounds you had to read it all online in her journal. She sounds she feels it's not right for you to get in her business by knowing what's going on. . Leave her alone then until she get's her stuff straight

Metallicachica- 5'7 150 lbs, sounds a lot lighter than 5'3 195 lbs - keep the faith and losing 20lbs is no big deal and I wouldn't say that's obese at all. goodluck

I agree with the above, the answer, like you said, right in front of your face. It sucks you had kids with this girl. You gotta figure out a way to get you life back and get rid of her.

Hey teacup, do you always answer his phonecalls by chance? Dou you always abide by his 2 ring rule? If you do, like I said your headed for trouble. There's alot of ways you can counteract it , but it's not worth it if you feel your getting jerked around. goodluck

Hey teacup. I wouldn't confront him. It shows him it bothers you. And he will do it more. He's a player no doubt. For my own sake, if you called me back after I phoned you, it would show me you care enough, and vice versa. I personally, think as a guy, telling you, you have to answer in 2 rings is nonsense and childish.

Ktdog143, I'm so happy this guy is behind bars. I'm sorry you had to get hurt like that before he got locked up. I hope you heal and take care and hopefully he'll be locked up for a long time- goodluck

Yeah I agree there's a pretty good chance he's jerking you around. The ony thing I noticed was you said, If you don't call, I don't have to go right? That totally sounds like your not wanting to go. Maybe he took that the wrong way, if you said that in those words. As for the phone thing. Phone games are easy to spot. If you even questioned that , why don't you just let it ring. The next time he hangs up on 2 rings, you know he's playing now. He's aware now. Already your relatioship is headed for doom. Give the benefit of the doubt though until you know for sure. goodluck

I agree with annie about the money thing. It's a fact though she does have way more information from the beginning, than say, any other stranger girl you'd meet off the street. I can see part of your question. The money thing, if it is at all, shouldn't be a problem though. goodluck

The answer is, they do have acsess to all your income and spending. Your statements you receive by mail, are in front of them at their computer at any time. Oviously giving this teller your check, means she would know your income right then and there.

Hey mysterious girl, I believe he's taking you for granted. He's not that into you for sure. Anyone in a relationship giving you ultimatums, like I want my money back for the cell phone and stuff like that. Especially, after a breakup. , That's not a good sign at all . You pretty much answered your own question about this guy. goodluck

Ask yourself who's fault is it? You admit your shallow. Misery loves company, your attracted to a shallow guy also currently. Becareful with this guy then that you like. Volutiion said it best.

She dumped her boyfriend to go with you, so you say. What's the problem then? This is silly dude. If you feel she likes you, go to homecoming with her then. Be careful though cause of the ex thing.. The reason why she's being a brat and avoiding you now. Goodluck

Hey philip. That sounds very strange. Do you have any mental problems by chance? The most logical thing sounds like you were bugged and recorded. It's sounds like a movie though in my opinion. If this is real to you, I would go to the police then. Goodluck

Hey spicy, this guy doesn't care about you. He knows he's your superior and he's probably used to getting what he wants, or he's done this with other girls he's worked with in the past. . I know it probably sounds attractive to you right know. Everyone said keep the business out of it if possible. Plus he's got another girl. What makes you special to him? Find someone else if possible. Read all of the posts that people wrote. It makes complete sense,

I agree with some of the other posters that testing ruins trust in a relationship. If you think about it, testing means to the person being tested, your playing major games. Like randy said, when the relationship gets to a certain level things might change. But I really don't think it's possible to get to that level if all you do is test your partner. It's just a form of munipulation, and some people fall for it, others are wise and completley lose trust, when that happens. Randy your girlfriend is one of those, that falls for it. That's the only reason you still have a relationship. A smart chick I hope wouldn't deal with that stuff. Just like some guys are dumb and fall for that obvious bs, when it's so obvious. I think it's normal for both sides in the beginning. But there will come a point in the relationship where it will end, or it will end the relationship.