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Hey Lilllady, it's up to you. Crying is pretty sad kinda for a guy to do. lol But then again, of course, shows he must really like you alot. I would give him a break. He probably really likes you, but then again if you feel so against being with this guy, why stay with him then.

Hey there, was reading your post, I picked out "I never told her how I feel" That's your problem I think. Don't worry too much, depending on your personality, alot a guys, it's just foreign to them to show alot of affection and love. But try not to be very stone cold. Depending on your situation, give her some attention and affection once in awhile. Meaning don't suck up, just be there and take advantage of those times, when you feel you should show a little emotion. goodluck

Hey guys and girls, How many people here hate feeling second best sometimes with the person they care about? Like the person you care about, maybe knowing it or not makes you feel like there's someone better than you on occasions. And without seeming jeleous you take it, with the hopes that the bad things your obviously thinking in that situation aren't true. But there's really no way of telling without getting into a fight or causing drama is there? cause I believe it would just result in leaving paranoid and jeleous and ultimatley making things worse. Cause that person will just deny it if it was true, if it was brought up to them. LOL, It's a no win situation, and I think that's the number #1 worst part about dating and relationships game.

Spirits away, I feel like you do. I smoke also and I hate when people are pretencious and look so hard on it these days- get a life these people or at best stay out of mine then. lol Question to the poster? If you have a strong personality and are well spoken. Why would you let your wife walk all over you then? It might be a simple question you should probably ask yourself. Goodluck

My opinion is that if your dads marriage is down the tubes, don't let it effect yours or any possible future relationships you might have in the future. He confides in you possibly, cause he might see his own marriage deteriorating and doesn't want the same thing with you. That might sound crazy but a good possiblility. It sounds like you want to make this marriage work. I think that's a good thing. I still think your wife though needs to take a good look at herself. She might be the problem here. Goodluck

I remember reading your post and was gonna reply, but I thought I'd hold off just in case I was wrong. I was was right, was gonna tell you that your wife needs more counseling it seems, than you. Especially if the kids and co-workers notice the same thing. I don't agree with you though telling your dad off like that, that was a cheap shot to his marriage. Even if it was meant as a joke. Like Dn said about putting up with her behavior, I agree. She sounds like a real piece of work this woman. Very complex and domineering it sounds.

Well that's cool, just being on a break if that's what it feels like means just that. Go with the flow now and see how it plays out.

6 years is a long time. If you thought everything was cool it's kinda a mystery there. Also, obviously there's always an answer for it all. That I'm sure. I'm guessing you'll be now spending alot of time trying to figure it out. But it sounds like you love her, no doubt from what you wrote. Goodluck with it all.

Hey mrcactus. I think it can be done. The only problem is nobody can read a persons mind. What looks to be very shady looking sometimes can actually be very innocent. I think I said somewhere you can't really blame if there's nothing concrete. I believe relationships go south the minute one or the other starts questioning. And when your innocent it looks really lame to you when that comes out of the other person. But just trying to be honest about things hopefully work in your favor in the longrun.

hey phrecklesrsexy, that's understood. If you went up to your husband say, and said, Do you mind not talking so much and getting so personal with her, it kinda makes me uncomfortable. No problem he should understand that and back off then. There's so many levels to a friendship sometimes. I was going on the lines of something more simple. But yeah, for that scenerio, I agree.

Question here? When did it become wrong for someone in a marriage to talk to a person of the opposite sex without being labeled as a cheater? Or it being wrong? That's like walking on eggshells constantly with the person who is supposed to be the ultimate keeper of your trust.

I know alot of guys who look and talk too girls, who are married guys. Would they ever act on it, maybe, but most just like to look and talk. Reality is usually when they come home. goodluck

that would would work also, I agree. The problem with that is why would she want to mess with a husband that might have good intentions? Only mess with people like that who really deserve it, is what I say.

If the bad outweighs the good, forget about it. Reason, the same stuff will happen eventually again. Some people just don't mix together. Try to think about it like that. This really applies if say this kinda stuff happened alot. If it only happened one time then maybe there's hope goodluck

I would the last thing you would want to do is seem jeleous in this situation. Yes, it's possible she has different intentions here, but you have to give him the benefit of the doubt until you would have something more concrete. He may be clueless to this and thing she is just simply a friend at work. But definatley if he had ever cheated on you in the past, I would think twice. Goodluck

you can tell really by your current shoe size, if your wearing 11 or 12's at 5'8 , chances are you'll definatley be over 6 ft in the future. Also, take a look at your hands. Short guys usually have a smaller hand than tall guys, like in a glove size. If you have a larger hand at 5'8 you'll probably be over 6'ft also. goodluck

Wow, sounds like something out of a action movie. Being a daughter of an ex state trooper, It's funny to me you would get involved with this dude.

I want to add that, I think most guys out there will only marry a girl, if it's serious, and she's the right one. I don't know your your situation, but if this guy took the time to marry you, he must of loved you at one point. Whatever happened after that I don't know?

I think that ego's are the main reason sometimes for breakups. I mean how can 2 people at one time love each other, get married, then just lose all the love? Either ego, greed, or who knows how many reasons for a marriage to breakup are. It's upseting to me when people, cause of their selfishness and ego can't communicate with one another. A marriage is supposed to be sacred and it's a shame these days so many end up with divorce. Jetta, without getting involved, it's probably one of those reasons. Goodluck to you.

The only good thing about alcohol is that it's natural. It burns like the food you eat. Drugs are a whole different story. They will linger in your body for long periods of time. If your worried solely about the time span involved, then I suggest you would limit the amount. Normally it wouldn't be detected, if it's kept at a respectuful level. If you crack a beer open at say 6:00 in the morning and have an alcohol test at 7:30. you might fail. Use common sense always if you drink alcohol.

Hey, your welcome. Wish you the best. I'm sure alot of your problems are probably just based on age difference. Goodluck

It could work both ways. The way you write it, yeah, he sounds like he is pretty selfish. More so if he knew you really wanted that cruise. Meaning, If he knew totally how you felt, he's full of himself in my opinion. If you just expected a cruise though, and he got his car done instead, it's a little different then. He might of figured it wasn't such a big deal, or maybe wasn't sensing you really wanted to go. But In any rate, if he promised it and it didn't happen. Along with you working 3 jobs. Doesn't look that good. goodluck

quitting a former job is alot better than getting fired from a job obviously. I wouldn't worry to much about that. Remember, most people at the dealership, probably have this as their career, including the guy who's hiring. If they see someone applying for the job who might act like he wouldn't take working their seriously in the future, your chances probably are slimmer. Goodluck

He sounds, from his message. he's tired of , I guess dealing with you, and is finding someone better. With the poice involved that's a whole different story all together. Goodluck