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I would appreciate any more opinions or suggestions on my situation. I'm still fighting with myself about the whole thing. Thanks for the help.

Basically, if i can put it that way... we haven't had a lot of time to spend together. Seems like one of us is always too tired or has a headache etc etc. Before stuff like that existed of course, but didn't get the way of us hanging out and being together. Things have changed, and in a lot of ways, its my fault. Every weekend, for the last months or so i've had to help my dad out with building a boathouse. She's been patient, but you could tell that it caused us both to be distant from each other. We would go out here and there and do things, but have yet to get back to things. When i wanted to talk about things like this, she was always too tired or had a headache. How can two people have a loving relationship and not talk? I decided to let it be and see how things went for awhile. Same stuff happened. She seemed so distant to me that i felt like she was seeing someone else or didn't love me anymore. I have been really insecure and that not normal for me. When we finally got a chance to talk somewhat, i didn't feel like what i said "took" to her. Like she just blew it off. She said she still loved me and that nothing else was going on. Deep down inside, i didn't believe her. I feel like i've lost my trust for her, but she hasn't done anything to my knowledge. Seems like my insecurities have eaten me alive here lately. I said some pretty foul things afterward, which i did appologize for. But, we both decided to take a few days to decide on our future. From the way i've been treating her and along with my love for her i have decided to end the relationship when we have our talk. Its definetly going to be a hard thing to do. She means the world to me, but i know i could find someone else just like she could. Half of me wants to end the madness the other half wants to keep trying. I feel like i'm losing my mind. Plus i have a feeling anyway that she may decide for things to end as well, especially since she'll be going to college in August, nearby. Thanks for the help.

No i "think" we should break up. But i feel like i should stay with her. She doesn't know yet. We've decided to take a few days away from each other, then decide if we still want to stay together. I still love her, but i realize it would be best if we went our separate ways.

My GF and i have been dating for over 2 years. I feel its time to end the relationship and move on. We've given each other a few days and then we're suppose to meet and figure out want we want to do. I already know what i want to do, but i have this feeling that i can't leave, like i love her too much. We were pretty serious, looking at getting married and other things. I mean, do i need to just say its over and give it time, or is something deep down telling me i should stay. Its like my brain and heart are fighting with each other. I know i can do better, but i'm so damn inclined to stay. I'd appreciate any word of wisdom. Thanks.

This new girl is his "rebound" girl. Thats what we do sometimes to deal with a breakup is find another girl to help up forget about the last one. 9 times out of ten, we're just confused - moved too fast - do things we regret later with the rebound girl. And believe me, the rebound relationship looks all shiny and new, but eventually he'll move on from her too. He probably did mean the things he said to you, but he's dealing with his pain in his own way. It sucks i know. Try to use "his" new relationship as a stepping stool for you to move on. Now with checking his email, you are shooting yourself in the foot on that one. You've got to stop doing that. Its a hard thing to do when you're in pain over the situation. But obviously, you understand that its not helping you any. Sure its a great insight into whats up with him, but do you really want to continue feeling like crap every time you read. Give it up. It will only set you back on getting over him.