Mizerys_Company

I have an update on my situation, and I would appreciate anyone's thoughts on this...women especially. I went to go pick her up last night from her cousins house. She got in the car, and I didn't feel like driving so I let her drive. When I got out and started my way towards the passenger side, she stopped...said my name, looked at me, and kissed me. This was no ordinary peck, either. It was a kiss. I looked at her and asked why she did that. She said, "I've missed kissing you." So I got in the car, looked at her and asked, "Is it ok for another one?" She nodded her head and we kissed again. After she looked at me and said, "Now this doesn't mean we're back together. I missed kissing you...a lot." I was stumped. Why did she kiss me? Other than she said she missed kissing me. There has to be more to it. Any opinions? Thanks guys.

I called her today, and even though it was only a three minute "How was your day?" convo....just the sound of her voice made me feel so much better. Better than usual. Her and I have a trip to a theme park planned to better our friendship...and hopefully one day she will see that we can be friends, and uphold a friendship as a couple. I dunno...what does anyone else think? Can anyone tell me why I thought her voice sounded more amazing than I had ever thought before? This is too weird...almost tells me something.

You know what, man? That is one of the greatest poems I have ever read. If this girl has any kind of moral decency or wits upon her, she should cry to this poem. I would crumble into pieces if a girl ever wrote something like that to me in an attempt to have me back. Sure, it's just words...but powerful ones. I personally would know that I had lost something very special in my life if I had ever received something like that. I wish you the best, and I hope that poem is the killer you are looking for...and I hope it makes the impact you want to make. Good luck, man.

Does anyone else have some advice for me? I would like to know if she would get back with me after realizing that her and I can be friends in a boyfriend/girfriend relationship. Please refer to my original msg. Thanks a lot.

It's definitely not that I worry about what she is doing. It's the men that hang around with her. I don't trust other guys. She has pushed all three of these guys away when they tried something, but the point is that they did try something with her, knowing full well that I was with her. That's what got me paranoid. It was not her, it was them. But I've gotten over that already.

My girlfriend of a year and three months recently broke up with me. Right now it is understandable for me to be going off the wall with frusteration and torture of thoughts without her. I called her a day after the break up and asked to meet her for coffee so that we could talk some more about her decision. Let me give you a recap of how it got to this state. In the time her and I had together there was nothing but happy times, and of course the occasional argument. As time progressed, so did some bumps in the road. Over a period of time, three different guys put moves on her. (these guys know who I am, two of them "friends" and one an ex-co-worker) (By the way, this was them putting moves on her, and her not agreeing to them in any way) So obviously they knew I was with her, and everyone I met heard about how much she means to me. She told me about each time, and each time I went to confront these guys and they all poured the truth out to me, regreting their mistakes and asking for my appologies. Now understandably after going through that three times, I got a bit paranoid each time she said she was going to hang out with some friends. I developed a protective instinct over her, and shared with her that I was very uncomfortable with her hanging around other guys when I was not present. This went on for quite some time and eventually she began to view me as a controlling and over-protective boyfriend. I explained to her why I feel the way I do when she mentions hanging out with other guys, and that I trust her 100%, just not other men. I began to drop the whole paranoid bid, and eventually did...unfortunately it was too late and she gave me the dreaded phone call that all men fear. "I think we should break up." Those words tore through me like a knife through hot butter. I couldn't bear the thought of losing her, let alone the thought of her with other guys. Now, back to our meeting at coffee. We decided that me being "controlling" was not a factor, and that her and I never really became friends before dating. (which was true) So for now her and I are working on our friendship before jumping back to eachother...but, here's another thing. She told me that she would like to see other people. Wow...what a blow. I'm sorry, but that really made me feel uncomfortable when she told me that. But anyways, right now we hang out and are working on our friendship. I am 20 and she is 18, so I guess maybe at her age she doesn't want to be tied down just yet. But what I really want to know from what I have given you guys is, do you think she will come back to me after realizing that her and I can be friends in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.