snow

You are really lucky actually, most women don't make a sound while having sex. I was under the impression that guy's liked it when a girl responded, showed how excited they were. The thing is, straight forward here, women want clitoral stimulation, so they grind and move around like that to get it. That is really normal. I personally think that it's a guys job to move with her, not just jammnig the damn thing in over and over. She sounds to me like a very normal women, and maybe talking to her about how she likes to move is a good idea.

You are definitely in a tricky situation. The thing is, you could be wrong. so what do you do? My advice would have been to talk to her, but since you already have, maybe seeing a therapist isn't a bad idea. You could tell her that you want to go together because you feel like you want to give her more attention but don't know how. And this may be true, as least she will think she's not being attackted, and you have an opportunity to disuss things. Therapists have a way of getting people to say more then they want to. It sounds like she is not going to tell you, and you can't live like that, you deserve honesty and love. If you really feel like the evidence is there, don't ignore it. Snow

I really appreciate the response, I haven't talked about this to anyone. When he told me about looking at Porn, I like to think that I handled it pretty well. I realize people make mistakes, we have to in order to learn. My husband has OCD, he has a tendency to cling onto things for his emotions, and it's really difficult to be patient. We actually went to counciling about all this, he goes anyways to deal with his OCD. I recommend this to anyone who feels angry or hurt by porn like in this situation. It can't hurt, and it can help to understand things a little more. But my issue isn't that he looked at naked girls, it's that he lied numerous times and we just go married for crying out loud. It worries me that this is just the beginning and I can't trust him. I just don't know how to deal with this. I've been really gentle with him, trying to understand. But like I said I just don't.

My husband and I have been married for one year almost exactly. A few months ago he told me he was addicted to porn. I was totally shocked, we had talked about it before, and he said he wasn't interested in that stuff. He said he promised and I believed him. I have had some terrible experiences in the past with my ex-boyfriend and porn, so I am really sensitive about it. I am so angry, not because he has a sexual drive and just wanted some stimulation, but because he lied. He says he was bored and depressed, and that there was no sexual interest in it, he just couldn't help himself. Well that may be, but I still think there is more to it then just depression. I feel like I am not good enough, fat, ugly, and am am so pissed at him now. He gets furious when I ask him questions about it, and I know he's embarrassed so I'm trying to be uderstanding, but I don't understand. What am I supposed to do? Our sex life is very active and he seems very happy, really, we seem happy all around in a very realistic way. I have to add that I really believe it is o.k. to be mad, that as a women I have a right to expect certain things in a relationship, to be respected. That's the crux of the problem, I don't feel respected. Can anyone shed some light on all this for me?