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Maybe it's not exactly wrong to ask her what she thinks of you, but it's a bit iffy. I don't think it'll make her like you anymore, and she might even like you less for asking that sort of question, especially this early. This kind of question is a very revealing question - reveals the asker's insecurities and such. Now, showing a softer, weaker, insecure side when there's already a very strong connection is just fine. But showing it after such a short time (you met her a week ago, right?), that sounds a bit like "too much, too soon"-kind of thing. Ideally, you shouldn't even have to ask this question - just see the answer for yourself from the way she acts towards you. So if, for example, you want to know if she'd like to meet you again, I think it better to just ask, using a single text message "Hey, wanna meet again, say next Sunday?" rather than sending a number of messages, asking "So, you weren't too disturbed by me?" (and, honestly, it would frighten my hair white if a girl would send me a message like that after our first meeting) and telling her she seems nice. It's much more direct, simpler, and you'll just as easily get your answer.

Isn't this fairly clear? You didn't do something he didn't ask you to do in the first place - and decides to "teach you a lesson"? Come on - even if you just don't remember him asking, I don't think a fairly healthy person's response to that is to teach someone a lesson. Normally, when people don't do something you ask them to do, you remind them - you don't try to get revenge or teach them a lesson. That, coupled with things like mentioning breaking up every time you argue (btw - how often do you argue, and what's the reason for them? Does he bring up a break-up to end the fights?), is, I think, a very good reason to end this. Try to get back in touch with those friends you mentioned, the ones you don't talk to anymore (and - why don't you talk to them anymore?), and then get out.

Yes, she probably is bored. I'd be bored in a relationship where there wasn't any closeness anymore. If there isn't closeness, what is there? Sex? Really - if you barely even talk these days, it's not much of a relationship, is it? I mean, what do you do when you're together? I don't think it's possible for one person to fix a relationship, so the first thing you could (or should) do is to just talk to her. Tell her how you feel about all this, suggest you spend more time doing non-sexual "couple-y" things, share some hobbies - that sort of thing. Something that actually involves you both doing something, being active - not just going to movies or watching DVDs at home. On the other hand - she wants more space. You can't force her to be with you any more than she wants to be. Maybe it is time to end the relationship - it's not the end of the world, you know. It'll hurt and all, and it won't be pleasant, but sometimes that's the only thing to do.

So do both, then. Sometimes you go by yourself to do whatever you want, and sometimes invite other people to come along. And in any case - if you know you're not being insecure and unable to go wherever by yourself, it shouldn't really matter that much what it looks like.

Well, obviously Dallan, one thing you could do is go see a psychologist or psychiatrist. I'm not sure if anything actually beats professional help - after all, if you had a broken leg, say, or chronic headaches, seeing a doctor is probably more productive than talking about it on an internet forum. Not that forums aren't helpful - very good for venting, getting general advice and such. Of course, that may be a bit too expensive right now - and then internet forums like this ones are a good second-best. Anyway - at 18, it's a bit too early to start thinking that life ain't worth living, that you'll never get a girlfriend, etc. Sure, if you keep telling yourself these things, they'll probably end up coming true - so maybe you could try telling yourself something else? For example, you could make up some affirmation-type things that you'd repeat to yourself every day. Like just write them down on a little piece of paper, maybe only ten or so of them, and look at it once a while. Or make a bunch of them, the size of a playing card, one affirmation on each, and when you're feeling down, you pull one out and read it (aloud or quietly, I guess it doesn't matter). A friend of mine did a similar thing to stop smoking (among other things) and he claims this helped a lot with that. Well, it's an option - and there's an awful lot more of those lying around, waiting for you to pick one (like the many that have already been suggested above). The main thing is to get rid of all this negativity (preferably without drugs, unless a doctor has prescribed them) - it really does have a tendency to turn into some kind of nasty self-fulfilling prophecy. It might also help to get rid of this "I'm a kind of person who needs someone to love and be loved by" idea. I mean, of course, we all (or most of us, at least) need other people around us to love and touch and all that. They make life better. An old analogy may be appropriate: These other people may bring spices (like pepper or cinnamon or whatever), but we gotta supply the meat and potatoes ourselves.