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Chris, If she has given you her number of free will. Give her some benefit of doubt.. There maybe something why she hasn't been able to call.. I assume that if a girl gives away her number, she is ok with the guy calling her. Unless she realizes later that she wouldnt like to get nething started with that guy and changes her mind. I like your 3-day rule.. Follow it.. And I wish u the very best.. Take Care

Dear Chris Well, I am not that kinda girl who likes to play waiting games.. If you look at one of my today's previous posting.. Thats what I was trying to find out if guys like girls who play hard to get.. I have seen that most of the girls and my friends are like that.. Not that they do it on purpose.. Its just that they are cautious about things.. Even though there are few who play such games on purpose. I don't know this girl you are trying to contact. So either she may be playing games or she is not interested. So I would suggest you that call her again after a few days and if you get to talk to her, you will know from your talk if she wants to talk to you. But if you happen to encounter the ANSWERING MACHINE again, then wait few days for her to call back.. If she doesn't, MOVE ON.. She probably is not interested and doesn't know how to say you NO that she doesn't want to talk to you. GOOD LUCK !!!

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Hi Firstly, please don't assume that your gf isn't interested in you anymore. Go and ask her rather than trying to figure out from the signals she is giving and just assuming things and as a result making yourself go thru pain and hurt. It is not worth it. And if you feel that she is doing things to make you angry. Don't take it from her. Go and talk to her and stop hurting yourself like this. Good Luck to you!!!

Is it true that guys like girls who are hard to get. And also they like woman who act mysterious. And an honest, straight forward woman can't keep a man attracted for long. Am I wrong in thinking that man like woman who know how to play games and who are a hard catch.

Thank you Sabrina for posting a reply .. I guess u are right.. Dancing was something which made me forget all about the worries in my life and I used to lose my own self in it. I guess I should realize one thing that he doesn't respect my feelings and so should get him out of my system. Thanks Sabrina.. Wish Best For You ..

I know my story is reallllllllll long.. Please friends, be patient and read it thru and please help me understand this other person and the way things work in relationship in this country. I am not from USA.. I was raised in Asia. I used to like this Afghan guy who worked at a store which I went to regularly.. He too liked me.. For over a year, we used to say our nice HI's n Hello's.. Then we started talking a little more than HI's n Hello's in JAN 2003.. Then in March end 2003, finally he asked for my phone number and I gave it to him without any 2nd thoughts.. He called me the very same evening and wanted to see me then itself. I said we could meet the next day for a cup of coffee. I really had a huge crush on him. And then when we met the next day, he kept saying all the time that he had been hurt in love year back.. And so he doesn't want to get hurt again.. I was kinda confused with such a statement on the very first date.. And then he kept on repeating that he knows what he wants in life and how his wife should be. I actually told him that don't u think this is too weird to talk on the very first date. He said "YES". But he wanted me to let him know that when he should fall in love with me. That was kinda weird for me.. I thought that how can someone tell someone that you can now fall in love with me and I won't hurt you. Neways, after that we met almost every evening for almost 5-6 hours together for 8 days.. And we also spent one whole day together when we went to the city.. And that day, he talked to one of my friend and said that he would like to meet her as my friends had doubts about me going out with this Afghan guy. And he said repeatedly that why don't we run away somewhere. And in all this, I really had fallen for him. I know it was really stupid and immature of me to do in such a short time.. But i did.. He even told on the 8th day after we spent the whole day together, that I should let him know that when would I be ready to meet his mom. I am not a drinker.. but i take alcohol when go to social outings which is once in 2 months or so.. I had fallen so bad for him, that I left that for him (I know I am stupid). Neways, the next day I had gone to a party.. I was there but I wasnt cause I wanted to be with him. But this party, I had to go to with my family. He called me during the party and I told him that it hurts to be away from him as I miss him so much. But I don't want to miss him so much cause that may hurt me later. He told that he told his mother about me. When I asked what he talked, he said he would tell it later. We were generally talking. Dancing is my passion in life. I told him that would he sometimes go for dancing with me. N he just got pissed off real bad. He didnt call me the whole next day. I kinda begged him to see me the next day and he said that that he was really really mad at me. He said that that he didn't want to come home tired from work on Friday evening to a wife who is all dressed up to go for dancing. First of all, I didnt mean it the way he was making it sound as if I am a teenagerish bad kinda woman. He made me fall so bad in my own eyes that I liked something really below standards. He told that that I should really think about this. He never called me the next day. Finally I called him and asked him that would he like to meet. He said that nope as he had other plans and at that time he was in a rush and he would call me. He never called for more than 2 days and again I called as one of my friends said that in America when someone says I will call that means that they dont want to talk nemore. When I called and asked him if he wants to talk to me. He said that he didnt want to see me. I said that means that it was over what we had. He said we had nothing going on as we never slept together and didnt do anything and so how can something which never started have ended. And also he has standards for his wife. So he sees no future for us. I was really hurt and humiliated to hear this. But I had fallen for him and fell more n asked him that why doesnt he give me one chance to prove that we can be good together. He said NO Well, we didnt talk to each other for 2 months. I went thru such a bad time and heartbreak. It was humiliating. I hated myself. I don't like dancing anymore. My self-esteem hit its rock bottom. Then few days back I couldnt control myself and I called him n he returned my call real late at night when I was asleep. So we talked generaly about how we both doing. N then we said good bye. I finally managed to delete his number from my phone directory so that I dont ever call him again. But he called me after 2 days and wanted to find out WHY HAD I CALLED HIM? I was taken by surprise n didnt know what to say. He said how about we meet.. I said we could do it whenever he wants. He said how about rt now. I couldnt as it was real real late at night. Neways, we agreed to meet the next day. When we met, I told him that I had felt really humiliated about what he had told 2 months back and my self-esteem had gone real low and what made him say that. I told him that I was angry at him. but couldnt stop loving him in all this. I had not stopped thinkin about him even for a single moment. He said that is not good. He said that I had misunderstood about that standards he has for his wife. What he meant that that my liking to go for dancing is real childish n immaturish. I am a grown up woman n I should realize that. And about how stupid I was to assume that we both had something goin on between us in those 8 days. He said lot of people meet each other this way n things dont work out. N I shouldnt have assumed that there was something. I wanted to shout n tell him that that maybe I am naive about all this but I think in any country no1 tells their parents about the girl or boy in their life unless they are serious about him or her.. But I couldnt say it. I wanted to cry but I have this problem, i can never cry in front of anyone. N then when parting from him. I like a stupid person asked him if we could be friends n i could call him. He said YES. He also told that last 2 months he has been keeping himself real real busy.. he is doing 2 jobs n he is hardly sleeping for 4-5 hrs. When I asked why he is doing this, he said that he wants to keep out of trouble. And also he mentioned that he had gone for 2 weeks in between to Europe to see his extended family. Why I am mentioning this is cause he had told me that when a girl broke his heart last year, he had gone to Europe to heal. What I want to know is: 1] Was I really stupid to assume that something was goin on between us? 2] Why did he do what he did? 3] Did he ever feel nething for me? 4] Why did he agree to see me after 2 months? 5] And does my liking to dance once in a while such a low standard thing or what? Please guys help me.. Cause all these things are making me think so lowly of myself and I hate my very existence and I dont want to lose more self respect and go after him. I don't want to, but I am afraid that I dont end up calling him again. Please helpppppppppppp..

Good Luck