confused.fallen

ok so heres the situation, im 16 years old turning 17 next month, ive been talkking to this girl tht i like alot, on the computer and on the phone, shes amazing shes everything ive ever wanted, soo cute, so funny, weird like me, cares about everyone like me, and has the best body, the physical just is a shadow compared to her personality i mean its utterly staggering... the problem is shes three years younger shes in grade 8 now i know later like in college or something this wouldnt matter, but now when im in grade 12 shell be in grade nine, i really like her alot but is the age difference too much at this point in our life? i mean she makes me happy and apperently she likes me alot too, what do you guys think? i could really use some help here itd be much appericiated. Thanks a bunch!

Hello,well. I have this girl, and I have made, at least by my standards startling progress this year. I never used to be able to talk to people let alone girls in the eye, I'd have to look away from them. Now i can look at their eyes and really get a feel for the person and its made life so much eaiser.Now i find it easy to talk to girls where as before it was merely a pipe dream. My problem is, theres a girl who im crazy about. I know her decently well but nothing major, im at the stage where I can tell what kind of person she is and jsut like, shes smart and funny, caring and loyal friendwise and relationship wise I assume. She dosnt know it but she helped me through a really rough time, like I knew of her before, but it wasnt until my friend took his life that i saw her myspace page and read a poem and realized i kinda liked her. Im not goingn to lie and say im madly in love becasue im not, i dont believe in love at first sight because love is made out of memories in my opinion. But i do care for her plenty and lover her in a plutonic way ( I love all my friends). The main problem i have now thouhg is becasue I like her so much I get flustered sometimes. I never have liked somone so much before that i forced myself out of my shell. I think recently she may have read something,( my friend who commited wrote me a letter, i sent this letter to a friend of mine who i think in turn sent it to her) that might have sparked some,feelings or at the very least interest in me. I dont know what to do, how do you know if someone likes you? How can i pursue her or at least talk to her, its not that big a deal to her, im just a friend but i dont want to be just that, I need help badly becasue ive never felt this way before. on top of that there are girls interested in me now that ive come out of my shell that wouldnt have gave me the light of day before. i dont want to shut them down but how do i react to all this changing scenery?

Well, im 16 ive fallen for a girl hard. she is very popular but not typical, shes gorgeous, but nice to everyone even the ones she dislikes. everything about her is incredible and theirs nothing i want more then to just be able to hold her.... I am tall good looking(Cute appaerently) in good shape funny sweet caring, loyal, on paper the ideal guy correct? but the problem i have is im deadly afraid to talk to her, im so ridiculously shy its not even funny. ive been told by more then one person that if i were to be myslef(like i am with my friends and faimly) that id be a moajor player and could get loads of girls. this is encouraging but im not that kind of guy at all, all ive ever wanted was a girl who i could care for and who cared for me.now something has happened that kind of gives us common ground, we have something to talk about, but i dont know how to im so shy so im torn, on the one hand there isnt anything id want more then to talk to her and be around her and even if i didnt get her just make her feel my friendship would be great. then on the other hand im desperatly shy. so what i was wondering was, is it rite for a guy to change himself to make a girl to liek them, im in good enough shape but their is a person at my gym who wants me to get into this body building thing which would make me look better, but should i force myself to be unshy? in generall is their anything wrong with changing your personality for a girl? i dont think id be willing to change my personality but do you guys think i should force myself to be outgoing like i am with my friends?

hi well i have noticed how helpful people can be on here so i was wondering if you guys could help me, theirs this girl, i like her alot and i dont think she knows, recently we found out we had a mutual friend and we have been talking a little on msn, everyday at school she now trys to talk to me but i find myself freezing up alot and whats worse is just how bad i want to talk, dose anyone know how to beat the stage fright you get when you first start to really talk to people, i really liek this girl and i think shes starting to liek me i dont want her to lose what little intrest she has so please tell me how to beat it,

kay thanks i will try it but this si the first time ive encountered stuttering im usually fluent and always have a retort she just gets me red faced and happy and then i cant speak but thanks ill try to slow it down anymore suggestions?

Kay so ive posted before about my situatin, now i ahve come out of my shell enough that i can be myself most of the time, just one problem, i cant talk top the girl i have feelings for. i would give anything to but everytime i go to say something my throat gets causght and i stutter something thats barley audible and then i jsut pass it off as a grunt. i can talk to girls no problem now which is way different then the start of the year but this gril just takes my breath away and also anywords i might say. i am finding this weird becasue even when i was to shy to talk i never had a shortage of words but with her i can never quite spit it out, ive been told she thinks im average to good looking and im funny when i do talk but i can never talk to her she alwasy ove3rhears me, when she sometimes says something to me ill mutter a yes or something and just smile stupidly, i need to know whats wrong why cant i talk to her and also is their anyway i can or girls what would you do if their was someone lik eme ?

im 16 years old and in a relativley small highschool. im tall and broad sholdered in good shape, have brown shortish hair and blue green eyes. i am quiet thoug. i am not normal in the sense that i dont like things tht most people my age do, i dont really like seeing nude girls or at least thats not my main goal when i like a girl im more about the connection and want someone whos deep like i developed faster and got bored with just the random sexuality of it. i was a sensitive and deep kid my whole life and theirs this girl ive fallen for . i dont talk to her much becasue im to shy. i always know what to say, on more then one occasion ive played the role of scerino and told my friends what to say to get their girl, everyone tells me im funny and yet i freeze around girls in genereal but her in paticular.if anyone has any stories of a similar situation or has any ideas of how to talk to her. shes popular and talks to everyone, im well off in that depot and talk to all the groups of people but am to shy when shes around to be outgoing. i have a sense of humour so i smile lots now and its not like im a creepy guy i dont think or the tourtured soul in dark im just a guy who likes a girl and have never wanted anything as bad as to just talk to her and just take a shot i know ill regret it if i dont but i need some advice or inspiration, please dont hesitate to reply or send me a personal messag eif you dont want to post it here just any help would be amazing for me.]

hi well ill tell you about me first im about 6'4 i am in very good athletic shape and i have a blue eyes and ligh brown hair. long eyelashes and not huge but little bigger then average lips but apparently ive been told their very nice and kissable and what not. my hair is short and i dont have the best fashion sense bt its not horrible its about average, white teeth with a bit of a gap in the front again not huge but im getting braces soon anyways. but i cant seem to get a girl to even say as much as hi to me. ive been incredubly shy im in grade 11 and since grade two i reverted into a shell and talked to no one but one of my friends that i made before that. he was always super popular and it wasnt till i was in grade six that i had more friends. now i get along with all the guys and am regarded as weird but funny by almost all of them and i dont not get along with anyone just im incredibly shy with girls and if their around i almost never talk if i do at all. i was wondering if shyness was a super big turn off or what becasue i have a girl who ive fallen super hard for and i need to talk to her but i was wondering if this is why girls dont approach me, i have one or two friends that are girls and they say that they wouldnt talk to me if they didnt know me cause i appear creepy cause i never talk around girls, if thats how you feel can you give me some advice on how to get rid of the shyness or something or just what is it about me do you think thats holding me back?

thanks for the support and yes i would love advice for what to put in the messages but your right i need to talk to ehr and establish a friendship first or else what i want to do which is be theri for her and make her feel special and see her smile wont work so im going to find sumthign in the next couple weeks and even if it kills me im going to start a dialoge and go from their but i dont plan on doing the secret admirer note thing till after weve established a frienship cause i know i might change the way i feel or maybe she might feel that way without the big elaborate plot to try ad woo her but id still lvoe your help and anyone else who is willing! thanks

well like i know i am talking to more girls and getting to be more outgoing and im trying to work up the nerve just this girl she deserves so much like she deserves something romantic like a little bit of a mystery im going to establish a good friendship first and the note isnt going to be creepy or stalkerish im just going to say that hi ive liked you for a long time and we hangout witht he same people and were friends ive just never worked up the nerve to really tell you how i feel anywyas heres an email account i dont really use anymore maybe we can talk about it if you want if not then thats okay to. then if she dosnt add me i wont keep pestering her with it i just want to make her feel so special and i just thought htatd be a good way to do it. im not sure maybe some more ffedback ?

Well, im super shy as ive mentioned in my other posts and i leasd somewhat of a double life which can be really tough seeing as how im still in highschool. but i cant take not talking to this girl and not haveing her know how i feel. i have made a far to complex plan kinda like a modern day version of secret admirer leaving notes in the locker. waht im thiniking i should do is to go slow like leave a note addresed to her in her mail just describing how ive felt and for how long and sign it your pal and then give her an email that i will make to talk to her and see if she adds then go from their and slowly give her things like c.ds that describe my feelings and just little girfts that are from the heart and gradually tie my two lifes together. in time tell her who i am and see how it goes from theri of course i need help with this so if their are people who wouldnt ind playing a little bit of sereno and help me get the gril just by like suggesting heart felt songs that i might use or things to say and just general stuff liek that but i need to get this off my chest not just for me but she is suffering she has so many aquaitances and no true friends and it breaks m heart a little each time i have to see her hurt, please tell me what you think of this and feedback is welcome and greatly appreciated.

Hi well i dont really know how to say it but im inredibly awkard around girls in perosn . ive met peopel on the internet and i talk to them and am myself and i can make jokes and be myself and help them with their problems like i do my guy friends in real life but in person when i see a girl dosnt matter if i like her or not i get terrified and freeze im a big guy (tall) and ive been told am good looking so me being quite makes me seem snobbish but im really down to earth like i worked some wher in the summer and for the first four weeks their everyone just thought i was a snob when really im just super shy i dont know how to over come it and now its getting worse cause their is a girl ive fallen for hard everything about her is beutiful and i hate how i cant talk to her any suggestions on how? shes rather popular and our school is relativly small shes in my grade but only is in one of my classes im not going for the cheerleader im going for the deep conversations cause she is so incredible liek that i know cause shes in my english class but yeah with the dudes i crack all kinds of jokes and get along great but i dont do anythign outside of school hardly cause im nervous afround girls but seeing as how shes popular i know she knows, i know her name so i cant ask her her name to break the ice and she knows my name jsut i never talk to her. she is just getting out of a bad relationship and i really want to comfort her and make her feel better and maybe in time take it farther but i want to be a friend to her first so can someone out their please help me? i know this is a really helpfull community so thank you.

Hi well i dont really know how to say it but im inredibly awkard around girls in perosn . ive met peopel on the internet and i talk to them and am myself and i can make jokes and be myself and help them with their problems like i do my guy friends in real life but in person when i see a girl dosnt matter if i like her or not i get terrified and freeze im a big guy (tall) and ive been told am good looking so me being quite makes me seem snobbish but im really down to earth like i worked some wher in the summer and for the first four weeks their everyone just thought i was a snob when really im just super shy i dont know how to over come it and now its getting worse cause their is a girl ive fallen for hard everything about her is beutiful and i hate how i cant talk to her any suggestions on how? shes rather popular and our school is relativly small shes in my grade but only is in one of my classes im not going for the cheerleader im going for the deep conversations cause she is so incredible liek that i know cause shes in my english class but yeah with the dudes i crack all kinds of jokes and get along great but i dont do anythign outside of school hardly cause im nervous afround girls but seeing as how shes popular i know she knows, i know her name so i cant ask her her name to break the ice and she knows my name jsut i never talk to her. she is just getting out of a bad relationship and i really want to comfort her and make her feel better and maybe in time take it farther but i want to be a friend to her first so can someone out their please help me? i know this is a really helpfull community so thank you.

no not really i know her to say hi to passing by in school but i know her so much better from just talking to her and yeah i dont know i want to tell her but i dont know how to go about it cause shes way more outgoing then me any suggestions on how to talk to her without sounding weire like some guy uve seen before who never talks to you just starts chatting im not sure how thatd work. but if i can talk to her in person i can tell her im the other guy.

well i added her along time ago just to get to know her kinda thing and it didnt escalate till my friend took his life and i barley talked to her before that but now i havnt a clue what to do cause i want to tell her but dont have any idea how to and plus id stil have to live with her reaction for like 2 more years if she reacts badly not that id blame her but yeah i havnt a clue what to do.