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honestly i dont know. we was ok one day then the next she said she was staying at her mums for the week and that she wanted some time to think. thats how i became close with her mum. her mum likes me alot she even asked me the weekend before we broke up "how is my futur son in law doing" whilst my g/f (sorry now ex g/f) was in the room. i looked at her and she didnt batter an eyelid and i jus said yer everythings cool xen
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no you make some sense but to throw another spanner in the works we had a big bust up about 6 weeks before we split (7 weeks ago) about something or other not wuite sure really. think we jus needed a week away to clear our heads but yet she still came back to me. the 7 weeks later its over. if she was thinking about this for weeks before hand surely she must of had some sort of inclination when we had a week apart ("break") ideas???? xen
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cheers i will remember that. we broke up last week. we had our whole lives worked out even down the minute detail. where getting married what colour our lounge would be etc. tell me this how can some one say that she loves you and want to marry you and have your kids at 12 midday and yet by 12 midnight the same day (12 hours later) "its not working" i cant see how someone can change their feelings for someone so quickly help xen
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yer i am in the uk. no i am not drunk but i have had a couple and i heard "OUR" song in the pub and brought everything back. i will still feel this way tomorro morning. i honestly dont know where all this has come from. i know she has been texting a bloke from the pub she works in but if she is now seeing him why not just tell me instead of saying one of the most unexplainable reasons i could think of "its not working" what sort of reason is that. REALLY?!?!?! xen
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yer i have thought about it. i have thought about nothing else. everything was ok. well as far as i was concerned and she backed it up with promises etc. we was talking about all the marriage stuff and our future together not 3 days before we broke up. surely if she was already half out the door she would have said something or not led me down the garden pathby bringing up all the marriage and our future stuff. thats what i dont understand, xen
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cheers people. jus got back from the pub and i heard some songs and {mod edit} that brought everything back. all i want to do is sit down and talk to her about what went wrong. its not much to ask but now i can see that is a lot to ask. i did actually propose to her. (i am 20 she 18) and we had everything arranged as in marriage, house to live in, childrens names, pet dog names, bridemaids dress colours etc. everything went from one extreme to the other in the space of 12 hours and SHE was the one bringing all this stuff up and yet SHE was the one who broke it off 12 hours after saying everything was cool etc i am lost. i dont understand any of it and thats whats making it so hard xen
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but the thing is i know it sounds desperate etc but i know she wont meet me and i dont think i can get over her fully without talking to her and finding out the absolute truth even tho i have said i was over her in previous threads i am {mod edit} really aren't i xen
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i know i jus want closure to exactly where i stand. she told me the reason of breaking up with me was "things wasnt working" even tho that morning she told me she still loved me and wanted to marry me. is there anything else i can do xen
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yer but what if she soesnt answer my calls or respond to my text messages. i am close to her mum should i send her the letter and ask her to give it to her xen
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should i send this as a text message??? {mod edi} i know things have been {mod edit} recently. can we not meet up to depart on friendly terms. i know we aint getting ack together i jus want to know what went wrong so i can fix it in future relationships xen
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cheers bella you have helped me see things from a different light. another thing i now know that my ex is seeing someone already. it is the same bloke that she was textin in the past couple of weeks of our relationship. y didnt she just tell me she had foun someone else instead of telling me it wasnt working. would it not have been easier??? xen
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i will post the text messages sent and received: ME: **** Sorry to bug you again. Tell **** that she is gonna get all her stuff back inc psp at the weekend sometime. i dont want anymore fighting. she has blocked my phone so have to use this till name gets changed over. she has been a bit out of order today. shame it had to come to fighting. really thought we was both better that that. sounds cheesy but i really thought we could be friends. i do still care about her. make sure she looks after herself and get what she wants in life. i believe she has potential we all know it. jus got to put her mind to it. anyway. look after her and yourself and girls, hopefully speak soon. Dan x HER: you know i am always here 4 u, i will pass on the message. this crap will pass dan trust me, please look after yourself x ME: i will try ****. i really will. got myself some job intervies and getting car at the end of month. gotta sort my life out jus make sure she does well for herself. she is better than the pub and she knows it. mayb in time might be able to talk like adults. we'll see. i will let you know the outcome of hospital if you still want to know. dan x HER: Good 4 u, of course i still want to know how u get on, good luck with the interviews keep me posted.x she hasnt said that she would keep it secret only pass on the message bout her stuff. but she hasnt said she wouldnt keep it secret. i dunno ideas??? xen
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yer i am not going to talk to her about the break up or the ex. i have told her to look after her self and make sure my ex keeps well. thing is what happens if my ex finds out. do i cut all contact then if we are still in contact that is? i dont want my ex to think i am trying to get to her. i know that we wont get back and i doubt she even wants to talk to me xen
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no worries i feel like i can talk to my mum about certain things but the things i cant talk to her about i used to be able to talk about to my g/f and her mum. don't get me wrong i am not stayin in contact purely because i think i might be able to get to my ex via her mum. its jus that i feel that they both are my friends but i have now lost one due to the split up and i kinda dont want to lose her too. prob sounds pathetic. i dont know jus really close and dont know if it would be wrong or not. she is critical of her daughter and helped us through when we had a bad patch. dunno. what do you think. xen
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good at times. mainly close but we have our off days. why do you ask xen
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we was together a 15 months but we were engaged to be married. i am really really close to her mother in particular. i was close to her father too (hey have separated a long time) but he has turned a bit sour towards me since the break up cause she is his only child. i dont know what to do cause i still wanna keep in contact cause real close to her. xen
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heres the deal broke up with g/f on friday. she has been well over past few days about tieing up loose ends with belongings etc. i now know that i dont want her back, and i know we cant be friends. i still love her and want to be friends but i jus have a feeling that i know she wont want any of it. i am prepared for that. i feel that i am over her (even tho its only been a few days). thing is tho i am really close with her mum. have spoken to her over the past few days about the break up etc and she says " u know i will always be here for you" and that she wants me to keep her posted with upcoming job interviews and hospital visits (need a heart moniter for a few days (only 20 )). do you think this is right or wrong. should i keep in contact or cut it off alltogether advice needed xen
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we were together a year and 3 months. we broke up friday night i dont understand we talked about marriage kids etc all through last week. had a little argument during the week on wednes day but everything was sorted thursday evening/ friday morning xen
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Hey all Brief question when me and my g/f split up she said the reason was because it wasnt working. what does this actually mean answers from men and women applicable xen
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her dad jus collected her stuff. i actually truly feel great. it is like a great burden. i am not gonna talk to her, be her friend or even wonder if she still thinks of me and wants to get back. I REALLY DONT CARE i feel great a am talking to an old girl friend who i wasnt allowed to talk to and i feel much better. this site really helped me and i know her true colours now love ya all xen
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have jus been speakin to my ex. she has become so petty and now i actually jus dont care. my heart says i want her back still but i think now it is not because of her. its because i miss being with someone and someone to hold. my head says dont take her back cause she has now shown her true colours and to be honest i dont want her back. thanks everyone for the advice. i will keep you posted if anything changes. xen
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yer thanks ice. do you think i should tell her the outcome of my heartmoniter on 22nd. or should i keep NC till she contacts me. if she does contact me will it not make her feel guilty or something if i do tell her. xen
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cheers yer i know. think i reading too much into it (deosnt everyone at first) broke nc cause need to arrange pick up time for her stuff. she has lied to me about the phone. said cant change name till 27th can change it this week i checked. should i give her the love letters we wrote each other. i want to keep them as a keepsake in a box in the loft but dont know if i should give them to her instead xen
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heres my story why is she doing this. she keeps texting me saysing stuff like dont forget my psp which was a gift by the way, keeps askin for insignificant things back some which have been some not. she also keeps telling me that she is not gonna be taken for a mug by me anymore cause she borrowed money and cant give it back. she isnt the only one to get herself into debt cause of this relationship. why do people do this. turn so bitter about such silly things. Broke NC cause i text her back about this but starting again today. hopefully she wont text cause her dad is picking up her stuff today. i got a heart moniter on 22nd and she knows i am real scared about it. she was gonna come with me but obviously she wont now. but do i tell her the outcome. her b'day comes up on 20th october. shall i send a card. i know its a long way off and the situation can change but what if NC since then. but will that mean there is no chance of getting back together. any advice would be great cheers xen
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Dont know whats happened. Is there any chance??
xentez replied to xentez's topic in Getting Back Together
thanks icemotoboy its makes sense. i have to pack all her stuff up today. do i pack all the gifts that i have brought her and the love letters we have sent each other over the months. she has asked for the psp she got free with her phone back even though it was a gift to me. do i give it back. i accidently broke NC today. i lost my phone and out of habit i phoned her number off my landline. she answered tho. whats that about cheers xen