crazysexycool23

MYSTERY really gets boring. When will guys EVER get a clue.

What happened with this ex is i gave him one chance on his birthday and the holidays i arranged to hang in a motel room. He gives me some story about he's moving. The 3 years I've known him he's always talking about moving but never did it. Then i find out he hasn't moved yet. I was pissed because he wasted my time I was alone in the motel room and guys left and right were hitting on me but they weren't gentlemen so none for them. His problem is he is terrified of intimacy and apparently sex. He talks like he wants to have sex etc then when you show he's nowhere to be found. Then after I came back here after the holidays he had the nerve to contact me like a month later and be coy again. He's like you really love them don't you (I assume he's talking about men.) I was unaffected and DONE with his stupid one liners that are supposed to leave you wondering. Then he asked if I was ok I said yeah. Then he signs off. Don't care baby. There is only so much BS one can take. He liked games better than sex yet he was the one who first talked about let's move in let's have a baby (scoff) not that I want any babiest. Which brings me to having a baby with any guy is a bad idea because he can't even get the calling part right!! Yet he wants to talk about how you will be an old married couple. WHATEVER!!

your bf sounds alot like this person i was seeing. one minute he is sweet etc and then he says NASTY things and i was so offended and in shock. But the thing is he wasn't a bad person so until I did some reading I couldn't figure it out. They are passive-aggressive. They can't express things like being mad they try to be placid until their rage comes out FORCEFULY. When it does come out it is something very hurtful because it has been simmering for a while. Guy I was seeing he says one thing and does another also he is very stoic. He was mad about something I did 4 days ago. Then he has this outburst that terrifies me. If you try to say you have a problem with communication he is either going to ignore what you say completely. or he will punish you in some way so you stop doing it. tell me does he also like to give you the silent treatment when you do something he doesn't like? My guy he didn't have friends and just wasn't close to anyone. I knew him for like 2 months and even then he was too mysterious so I tried ending it. He used to even ignore me when I went to talk to other people...even females. I think it's a combination of bad social skills plus inabiity to express anger directly.

Yes I was married then. But when we went out I wasn't. I got married because he was being too cheap with me. He insinuated that I was a golddigger. He even resented the fact that he paid for a date (under $10) that HE asked me out on. At the time I thought that he would help me get away from abusive situation at home but I gave up on him and went with someone else... Two months ago I had explained to him why I got married and such when he was ignoring me and 4 days ago he started talking to me. I was surprised and happy. But it was short lived since I felt that he is playing with my feelings. That maybe he thinks me liking him is a weakness. I thought he was angry but he never mentioned anything just went on like everything was ok. Then when I try Iming him he just ignores me. Feels like he likes to reel me in then be distant. It seems like he is always avoiding conflict and confrontations. And when I rock the boat he punishes me with silent treatments. I wish there was a book about how to decode guys.

Ok i went out w/ a guy on a date 2 yrs ago and he was really interested in me coming on very strong. I was very attracted to him too it was magnetic.I felt the same but I was in a bad situation so I ended up going away and marrying someone else to get away from the situation at home. This guy always used to talk to me online for almost two years and he stopped after we had a fight about politics. All this time I made it clear I'm very attracted to him and I want him and I even sent him a classy lingerie pic. When he stopped talking to me this made me think that he was really mad and wouldn't talk to me ever again. Then I made a new screen name and discovered that he had blocked me. I called him a jerk etc and then about a month later I wondered if I had wronged him in some way so I said I didnt mean to offend and I'm sorry and I told him about why I got married and everything and that i'd be back in a few months and gave him my phone number etc. He hasnt blocked my new screen name but he doesn't talk to me. I haven't contacted him since. His past girlfriends have cheated on him so I feared that he put me in the same category and that he really hates me for arguing about the political issue which was his religion etc. I don't know if he is really mad or if he is trying to control me or if he's trying to make me miss him. When I first went out with him I was pulling back I was trying to figure out if he was a jerk or good guy because I am horrified of being abused and I have intimacy issues and I don't like to share myself with anyone or be in situation I can't control. Now looking back I feel that he was a good man so how do I go about getting a second chance? I know where he lives but I'm not about to contact him ever again because I don't want to be a 'stalker'. This would have been my first relationship of my choice. Does this sound like this guy will ever forgive me or should I just move on? Should I bother going back to see him or do you think there's no hope for this?