chezzel

I'm not really in a position to give advice since I am having relationship problems myself. But it sounds like your girlfriend wants everything - she wants the single life but she also wants you to be there hanging around for her when she's had her fun. It seems like she wants to play around but doesn't want you to. If she wants you, she shouldn't be kissing other guys or looking on internet sites for guys. It shouldn't be that way. I certainly wouldn't do that to someone I thought a lot of.

This sometimes happens to me on a 'big day'. I think it could be stress cause you want to look good tonight. The worst thing you can do is stress out about it all day as you might be tempted to mess with your skin and just make things worse. Also, the rash could be because of the worry. I get itchy and get a rash when I am nervous or worried. Try to relax and forget about it and maybe your skin will start to settle. Sometimes I'll do something like read a good book, have a nice cup of tea or talk with friends to take my mind off it. Perhaps take an an antihistimine tablet for the rash also. Later, when your skin calms and you're not so stressed you'll find that covering the blemishes will be fine. I use concealer and powder. Once you're all made up and dressed up and you've done your hair, I'm sure you'll feel fine. I hope that helps in some way.

I asked him if going to Iraq was bothering him but he said it wasn't. He said it was 'this house'. And then when I tried to talk to him about it, he got annoyed and told me to stop bothering him. I don't know what's going on with him because we're hardly together - he is always going away - either on exercise or back to his hometown whenever he has time off. He seems quite happy when he's in his hometown. Last weekend, he went out with his friends and a group of girls (one of which tried to kiss him last year) and he gets mad when I ask him about that. He also had bite marks on his chest but insists it was his friend that did it. I really don't question him cause he just snaps all the time lately.

I'm having a bad time at the moment. It's been like this for a few months now. I am not happy in the relationship I am in. I started losing interest a while ago because my boyfriend acts as if the world revolves around him and since I started losing interest, I haven't been able to get it back. So it just feels awkward being together. I think my boyfriend probably feels the same because he's always shouting at my children and I and complaining about everything. I don't know. But the whole atmosphere here just isn't a happy one. I think I should break up with him but then I just feel guilty about it and can't do it. I mean we've been together almost 4 years and he's not a bad person at all (he's just a little too wrapped up in himself) and he's going to Iraq in November for 6 1/2 months. I think we'd all be happier if we split up but I don't feel like I have a 'valid' reason to leave. I really don't know what to do.

Thank you all for your advice and feedback. It is much appreciated. You've helped me see things a bit clearer.

I have been with my partner for over 3 and a half years now and I have completely lost interest in the relationship. I have never really felt that I was that important to him. For example, last year, he went away for 6 months due to his work. When the 6 months were up, he came back to me for 3 days and then went back to his hometown and went on a lad's holiday for a week. Before that, he went to Amsterdam for a long weekend without me. We have never been away. He seems to have more fun without me. Anyway, I let that all go. But then, about 6 months ago, he got relocated and wanted me to move with him, which I did. Where we live now, it is a small village and there are no jobs, I can't drive, I have 2 children - one of which has behavioural problems so I can't find childcare for him. So I have no job or friends here. I am learning to drive but I just feel that all my support is back where I was before, near my family and friends. Anyway, since we have lived here, my partner has been away a lot with work and now he's started working on a business in his hometown and has been going back there every weekend. When he is here, he is often spending time with his workmate. I have told him many times that I am feeling left out and I would like him to spend more time with me, but he always invites all of his friends whenever we go out. Then a few weeks back he had a long weekend off work and went back to his hometown to work on his business. He said that he would come home early on the Monday to spend time with me. But when the Monday came, he rang at 4pm and said he was having dinner at his sister's then he'd drive back, which meant he wouldn't be back until 9pm. so i got mad because I was fed up of him always letting me down like that and I told him I was losing interest. He came back earlier than he was going to before I said that, but still got home quite late and took what I had said about losing interest as a joke. But I meant it. Then he knew he was going away for 4 weeks and on our last weekend, he spent half of the time with his work mate. Now he has been away for 2 weeks and I am not even bothered if he comes back or not. I am ready to move back to my hometown because I am so lonely and depressed here. I told him I was considering moving home, but he said that it would mean we would be finished and he got quite upset and said I knew his job involved him gong away a lot and I knew he would be working on the other business for a while. This is true, I did know all this, but I didn't know I would get to feel like this. He is still away and I think he realises I have lost interest because he is starting to plan a holiday for us when he gets back. But I just don't want it any more.