kookie2004

i understand how you feel chip i would never go out when i knew he was coming round for the kids. he would stay in the house it was if he had never had all the affairs i was just kidding my self.i think i just did not want to admit to all the crap he put mr through.i feel empty right now my eyes feel like they have been washed in sand, but i will be ok every day it gets better.

i have been married for 18+ years my husband has critised me and cheated for most of it, i stayed true to my vows and hoped i could make it work,instead i feel lonley worthless and unloved.we have sepeated many times but i always end up feeling sorry for him so i let him work from the house whilst separated. it was in fact like we were still married the only difference he went home at 6.in my heart i thought we were building bridges but i have found that he has been seeing someone for two years that he loves her and she wants babies.i am devastated by this latest turn of events. in these two years he has said he loves me,slept with me then went home to her. i do not know why i cant let go after all that he has done to me.i still feel like the faliure. perhaps someone can advise me how to let go without feeling so empty.

what about the tears your wife has cried over you,she has no clue to your cheating,your right you are weak you want it all. the bit of fun and your loyal wife,wait till you have another child it wont all be roses when your up all night with feeding etc.you need to get in the real world tell the truth your wife deserves it after all the years she has given you and your children.

what you should have done is not lie to your wife, whos only fault was loving a lying selfish creep like you. do you not realise your behaviour has an impact on your children. wake up grow up

i have just joined this site and found out my husband has been having a two year affair, he says he loves this girl but she wants babies(he doesnt)he has been having affairs throughout our marriage evey time i found out he would beg fogivness cry and i suppose say the things i wanted to hear.i took him back time after time and when i asked him why, he would say that i had put on weight and was not attractive,he would critisise me on a daily basis but i still loved him supported him and remained faithfull. when i am with him. i feel fat ugly and worthless,he goes for days without speaking to me but still i carried on trying to smile whilst inside i was crying. now i find out through his posts that he is thinking of having a baby with this women. we have two beautifull young children (he has 20yr old)i have put all my energy into them and not worried about me. seeing it written down that he loves her and basically should he stay for the kids and wonder what could have been(NO WAY)i cant seem to stop crying i ask him to talk about it he just got angry. and said he is not talking about it i asked him to leave without a fuss(he never has in the past) he said he will. i have my doubts as he has said it is his house why should he go.(he has never walked out i have always thrown him out) where do i go from here i feel so sad. i know now my marriage is finally over.