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if it was just aone night stand then why are you worried about it?

My father passed away a little over 2 yrs ago. My mother was the same way. As a mother and wife she knew she had to keep it together for her children. I'm sure there's lots of family around right now and friends and things to do with the funeral arragements and that's keeping her so busy...The hardest part is about a month down the road when everythings been done, the family is gone home and the friends have given you some space. Thats when she'll cry. Just be there for each other.

Men are creatures of the moment. He may have honestly thought he felt that way at first, but changed his mind. He should have told you he changed his mind instead of disappearing, but that would have been doin it the hard way. Ask yourself, do you really want to be w/someone that would leave you hanging like that? Write him off and move on.

Welcome to ENA....well, what happens in the 1st yr of a relationship, compared what happens in the 5th yr-well its kinda hard to compare. But I think honesty is important here. You don't want her to find out from someone else-and these things always have a way of resurfacing. Tell her the truth-expect her to be upset & probably not trust you to hang out with your cousin and drink.

Definitely in person, in a place where the dumpee won't feel uncomfortable if they need to cry. Be completely honest, don't give them false hope of working things out if there isn't any. Keeping their feelings in mind, be firm.

Welcome to ENA.

It is normal to feel so much pain when healing from a breakup. "healing" is a process, and it takes time. And much like a rollercoaster ride. One day you'll be fine, the next day in pieces, and back to being ok again. Give yourself time, go through the motions. Cry when you need to, yell when you need to....but just try to keep moving forward. Having NO CONTACT with him will help the pain. Stay strong.

And this forum is full of wonderful people that will always listen.

let it go. Don't hang on. If she really likes you, and if she's really that great-she'd of broken up with him when she first had the idea. Its not fair to string either one of you along. Have more pride, you're better then to just be waiting in the wings

Even though he's busy you must not be the only one making the effort. Try to pull away some. You will feel more secure about your relationship if you aren't always the only one making the effort.

I agree, not all men are that way..........I know how you feel. I was seeing this guy for a while, then one day he became distant, and the next he never called me again. That's what hurts the most-makes you feel like you weren't even worth the breakup to him. He's a coward, and it will take a little while, but you'll get over it-but trust me, you'll look back and realize that it was only his loss. You are too good for that.

Be careful of asking questions about things that don't pertain to the future........... But I wouldn't worry about it. Sounds like he really cares about you. But please listen..................I wouldn't move in w/him, not yet. Way too soon in my opinion.

You said you and Dan are friends....does he not know how you feel about her? It sounds like you have given so much here, there really isn't anything else you can "do". You're right, she does need to make a decision. But try to look at it from this angle-if she "loved" you, would she be having feelings for your BEST FRIEND? and what about him?

Let her keep them, don't break NC. Hoodies, a shirt and some shorts aren't worth the months of healing you've been through. Don't give that up.....she's trying to keep you on the back burner, don't allow it.

You need to make sure you are getting adequate vitamins. Try keeping your calorie intake at 1500 but increasing your cardio to 45-50 minutes at a moderate intensity. Cardio is best before breakfast on an empty stomach. Working out in the am also speeds up your metabolism for the day. Make your biggest meal breakfast, try eating 5 small meals a day. Make your last meal of the day strickly a lean protein and veggies, and at least 3 1/2 hours before you go to bed.

As for just the oatmeal and soup, not a good idea.

Oh, real important, drink at least 9, 8 oz glasses of water a day, stay off the caffine.

Well, if he knows you're seeing someone else that's probably why he was short and rude. Esp if you cheated on your b/f with this guy. There is never an excuse for cheating, if the 2 of you had problems with him not being there for you or putting in effort, you should have worked that out w/him or broke up with him b4 you started anything w/the new guy.

Might I add, the grass may appear to be greener on the other side of the fence (meaing the new guy) but keep in mind, you don't have a past with the new guy, you have nothing negative to think about him b/c he is NEW.

All relationships go through communication problems, but if you can't work that out between the 2 of you then you're not relationship ready.

If I was cared enough about him I'd support his decisions & morals & wait on him

I understand your concern, hun. Coincidental circumstances like this always send up a red flag for me. The way I look at it is there is ALWAYS goin to be someone who's prettier, smarter, richer, better dressed......the question is do you trust your husband? I think if I were you I'd trust him until he gave me a reason not to (if they're gonna cheat-they're gonna cheat & worrying yourself to death won't change a thing), but at the same time-don't be blind. Try to find the difference between your insecurities and your gut-go with your gut.

Good luck hun

Hey honey, he's playing with you. Sounds like he doesn't really know what he wants, but if he's hiding your from his friends he's not that into you. And, HE'S NOT WORTH YOUR TIME. The HE causes you to feel insecure b/c he's not building you up in any way. He's not scared of getting hurt, that's a bunch of bull. If I were you I'd drop him.

Don't read so much into him putting his hand on your shoulder. The two of you were at a funeral, you both shared the loss of a friend, it was an emotional place-that's all. Don't blame yourself for giving him the "cold shoulder", he's moved on. He may feel a little guilty b/c he told you he wasn't ready for a commitment and now he's w/someone new, but that's probably it.

Try to move on honey, I know its hard, but he has.

Truth? He just wants to be friends with benefits....its up to you if you want to continue or not.

Annie is right, he's NOT good b/f potential right now

I think its normal to have these emotional set-backs. I'm only on my 5th wk of healing, but I know how you're feeling. We go through different stages through out the healing process: one minute crying thinking its hopeless, the next telling yourself you're gonna be ok, then back to crying again...its an emotional roller coaster.

Try to keep positive, take it a day at a time. This too will pass.

He's not that into you honey...forget him. He didn't have the decency to call to cancel w/a reason, he's not worth your time.

I wouldn't give him a 2nd chance, but that's just me. It hurts alot to be blown off like you don't matter enough to even get a phone call. I wouldn't even respond to him. But again, this is the opinion of a scorned woman.

I'd been eyeing this guy at a bar one night. I'd seen him looking at me too. After a few drinks I decided my g/f & I would casually walk by & I'd "acidentally" bump into him. Well, my "bump" was a little too big, & I knocked him into a waitress carrying a tray full of drinks that spilled all over his shirt. He stumbled into a really big biker guy, who got really mad & tried to fight him!!!

I quickly snuck out of there, but he knew it was me!

He's just not that into you.... I know it sounds a little harsh, but I wish I would have had someone tell me that about the last guy I was seeing. Same situation. Don't take it as something you did, its not you, its him.

You've given him the opportunity to be honest with you & a way out if he's looking for one. He may not ever respond, don't expect him to.

Move on honey. He's not a real man if he can't be honest with you.

You're better then him.