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  1. hopelessxnow
    but i dont get how she can just .. forget about the friendship we had..
  2. hopelessxnow
    someone please help my ex and i have gone back to speaking terms last week after 7 months of no contact and its always me starting a conversation so i started talkin to her about why not and about being friends and stuff and here are some things she has said throughout the whole discussion 'i wudnt mind being a friend, but not all at once' and 'im really sorry to say this, but either be friendly or normal or dont talk to me i actually have too much other stuff to do to have this convo' and 'i wdnt mind being friends wiht u, but i dnt wana b ur friend like i was before' and i asked why and she responded with 'because that was a year ago' and so i said 'no but ur sayin u wouldnt ever wanna be friends like we were before' and she said 'im sayin im not gna decide wether or not to be' and here is another thing she said to me.. after tellin her that i missed bein her friend 'yeh, i do get it, but i dnt really understand y, u have lots of other friends now' i dont no what to do because i really do miss her loads.. and basically she doesnt mind bein my friend but she isnt exactly trying and doesnt show much interest =( .. and i really dont understand why because we had such a gd friendship before she was like a best friend and im really hurt that shes forgotten all about it i really want her back but i dont no what to do.. please help someone
  3. hopelessxnow
    by doing this would i have a chance to get back together in the future?
  4. hopelessxnow
    yeah, thats true.. its gonna be hard to walk away from the best thing thats ever happened to me.. and she goes to my school.. what do i do??.. i want to just disappear from her life but its gonna be hard hence we see eachother every day. and i dont want to see her everday i want her to be curious.. just so i get some control of the situation.. i dont no.. im really pissed off at her because she has been quite horrible coming to think about it. I want to just leave.
  5. hopelessxnow
    but we've agreed to be on speaking-terms and she isnt being harsh anymore?
  6. hopelessxnow
    hey guys, i really need help basically.. me and my ex broke up over 5 months ago or so. For the first 3 months we havnt really been in contact much apart from emails and texts from me pleading to get back and her being really harsh to me back. The rest of the months it was me finally realising the closure and that she needed space. So i did strict LC for about 2 months.. and recently she had been telling me she doesnt want anything to do with me but doesnt hate me and wants me to be happy. Basically, it was easier for her to just blank me. Which is what she had been doing for months while i've been doing LC. I wrote lots of emails explainin im over her and i just wanted to be friends. I didnt get many replies until last week when she explained the whole 'i dont hate you.. i dont think ur a **** or anything i just think its easier for me to just blank you and cut you out of my life'. I asked my friend to tell her to unblock me on msn to talk about it and then she could block me again. She unblocked me and i was quite shocked and grateful. We had a talk about our situation and terms. And had a little debate about what would happen if we didnt or did go on speaking-terms. She then decided, 'okokok we're on speaking terms'. So i thought yay =D .. but she explained how at the moment i'm out of her life and we cant just be friends overnight but she will start to treat me like a normal person. So we've had pretty lame conversations on msn for the past few days and they dont go very far although she has been quite friendly. And i asked her whats the point.. you hardly talk. And she was like i didnt say we wre goin to be friends.. you're out of my life i said i was gonna treat you like a normal person. she asked me wouldnt i find it weird if someone you dont hardly know anymore and spoken to for so long just suddenly asks about ur mothers ex bf?.. and so i asked so when are we gonna be friends, in a year??.. and she was like i dont no. note: she sounds quite blunt and harsh but this isnt exactly how she explained/said things. but ya.. i still REALLY love her and i dont know what is the best approach to getting back with her in the future .. in like a few months ??.. i dont know i really do want to become friends like we were before... before trying to get back with her but where do i start? whats the best thing to do? NC? or LC? Please someone guide me through.. thank you!! sorry if i sounded very dull, boring and factual in explainin the sitatuion.. im just a tad too tired to make it sound expressive lol
  7. hopelessxnow
    hey thanx for your reply It really helped! I guess I will start to focus on myself more, do Limited Contact and allow her to contact me if she wants to. She wants me to take the whole friendship idea really slow so i guess ill just leave her alone altogether.. maybe then she'd want to make the effort to start being friends because at the moment its only me making the effort and she doesnt sound too bothered
  8. hopelessxnow
    hmm.. but how would leaving her alone remind her of you and how would it let yourself get back into her life again? im confused ..
  9. hopelessxnow
    that is quite a good poem.. i'm sure you could get that published =D
  10. hopelessxnow
    hey guys, i really need help basically.. me and my ex broke up over 5 months ago or so. For the first 3 months we havnt really been in contact much apart from emails and texts from me pleading to get back and her being really harsh to me back. The rest of the months it was me finally realising the closure and that she needed space. So i did strict LC for about 2 months.. and recently she had been telling me she doesnt want anything to do with me but doesnt hate me and wants me to be happy. Basically, it was easier for her to just blank me. Which is what she had been doing for months while i've been doing LC. I wrote lots of emails explainin im over her and i just wanted to be friends. I didnt get many replies until last week when she explained the whole 'i dont hate you.. i dont think ur a * * * * or anything i just think its easier for me to just blank you and cut you out of my life'. I asked my friend to tell her to unblock me on msn to talk about it and then she could block me again. She unblocked me and i was quite shocked and grateful. We had a talk about our situation and terms. And had a little debate about what would happen if we didnt or did go on speaking-terms. She then decided, 'okokok we're on speaking terms'. So i thought yay =D .. but she explained how at the moment i'm out of her life and we cant just be friends overnight but she will start to treat me like a normal person. So we've had pretty lame conversations on msn for the past few days and they dont go very far although she has been quite friendly. And i asked her whats the point.. you hardly talk. And she was like i didnt say we wre goin to be friends.. you're out of my life i said i was gonna treat you like a normal person. she asked me wouldnt i find it weird if someone you dont hardly know anymore and spoken to for so long just suddenly asks about ur mothers ex bf?.. and so i asked so when are we gonna be friends, in a year??.. and she was like i dont no. note: she sounds quite blunt and harsh but this isnt exactly how she explained/said things. but ya.. i still REALLY love her and i dont know what is the best approach to getting back with her in the future .. in like a few months ??.. i dont know i really do want to become friends like we were before... before trying to get back with her but where do i start? whats the best thing to do? NC? or LC? Please someone guide me through.. thank you!! sorry if i sounded very dull, boring and factual in explainin the sitatuion.. im just a tad too tired to make it sound expressive lol
  11. hopelessxnow
    thanx for ur replies guys but i really wanna talk to her as a friend too as i used to love her loads and we used to be really close to eachother and she is actually being quite friendly when talkin to me when she does talk to me on msn.. i also want to talk to her so she's reminded why she liked me in the first place?.. im reallynot willing to try and get back with her right now but gain my friendship back to how it was before.. and see wher it goes from there?
  12. hopelessxnow
    ok so basically me and my ex of 6 months had a realllyy bad break up 6 months ago.. and havnt been on speaking terms since.. and for the first few months i've been pressuring her and she needed space and it took me a few months and for her to be reallyy harsh to me to realise she really needed me to back off. so i did very Limited Contact for about 2 months now.. Eventhuogh I've really gone through a lot just to be friends and have emailed her several times throughout the few months and told her i'm completely over her and she should just forgive and forget.. until it got to the point where she explained everything. How she doesnt hate me she doesnt think im a * * * * or anything and wants me to have a nice life but doesnt wanna be in it for the moment.. basically she doesnt think oh god there he is the little idiot.. its more like *grooannn* like im some really hard science coursework.. lool and she admitted shes being stupid and selfish and shes sure im a nice normal person again but she just didnt want anything to do with me.. i then told my friend to tell her to unblock me on msn to discuss the emails and she can block me again afterwards. She unblocked me and we discussed the problems of trying to be friends etc. and i obviously won the argument.. so she was like okokok we're on speaking terms.. but we talked den i started sayin i was a bit busy and didnt talk very much.. and den i stopped talkin and after 5 -10 minutes she was like 'before u can decide im blankin you or not you should try talking to me!' and she was being quite friendly when she did talk to me.. but i dont no what to do coz i still like her and i'm wanting her back. not now but in the future maybe like months from now.. should i start by talkin to her a lot and ask everything i've always wanted to ask like hows her family and stuff?.. or would she just think im not over her yet.. and that we're goin to fast in this friendship thing?.. because we havnt talked in ages... and we're not really talkin in school just smilin at eachother when we walk past.. i think because she doesnt want to grab too much attention from her friends like omg shes talkin to him again.. and stuff because soo many bad things have happened between us after the break up.. but i really wanna talk to her normally as a friend coz i doo really miss her.. im not sure what to do?.. plz help thanx!! btw sorry im not very articulate right now im just really tired lol
  13. hopelessxnow
    referring to the original thread of 'How to reconnect with an ex as friends' i am in the same situation as iwantherback.. and have bookmarked that thread for when i have the urge to email her for the 1000th time asking to be friends.. and i've read that you have to completely back away from her life completely to have any romance with her again in the future if anything.. i really want to cut her out of my life completely and do NC for months.. for myself but also incase anything does happen.. but how can i do this if i go to the same school as her and hang out out with the same group of friends and area??.. I can't just randomly disappear or she'd just think im avoiding her or hiding lol. Also, it has been months now since i have reallyy cut down NC. I've never spoken to her at all apart from a few emails.. and texts.. but nothing compared to before that. Before, i was over the top, which lead to her to stop talking to me completely. But, i have really left her alone for a couple of months and things have only slightly gone better. She doesnt hate me but she still doesnt want anything to do with me?.. why is she not forgivin and forgetin?.. im wondering if she's doing NC to get rid of any feelings she still has for me if any?
  14. hopelessxnow
    i am in the same situation as iwantherback.. and have bookmarked this for when i have the urge to email her for the 1000th time asking to be friends.. and i've read that you have to completely back away from her life completely to have any romance with her again in the future if anything.. i really want to cut her out of my life completely and do NC for months.. for myself but also incase anything does happen.. but how can i do this if i go to the same school as her and hang out out with the same group of friends and area??.. I can't just randomly disappear or she'd just think im avoiding her or hiding lol. Also, it has been months now since i have reallyy cut down NC. I've never spoken to her at all apart from a few emails.. and texts.. but nothing compared to before that. Before, i was over the top, which lead to her to stop talking to me completely. But, i have really left her alone for a couple of months and things have only slightly gone better. She doesnt hate me but she still doesnt want anything to do with me?.. why is she not forgivin and forgetin?.. im wondering if she's doing NC to get rid of any feelings she still has for me if any?
  15. hopelessxnow
    i really love her though.. and i do think she has good reasons to not want to have anything to do with me.. but i think it could get better and im really willing to try and atleast get our friendship back because we were great together..
  16. hopelessxnow
    omg i phoned her just now and she actually let me talk for once. i was sayin sorry and stuff and she was like im sure ur a nice person and ur bein nice now but im really sorry but i dont really care.. and im sorry ive been evil or sumthin i cant remember exactly what she said but i was like yeh i just want u to no that im really sory and like when ur ready to forgive me just ya.. and she was like its not that i dont forgive you its just that i dont really care.. and im really sorry.. something like that.. and i was like okay well ya.. ill see u when we get back.. and we said bye. it wasnt as awkward as i make it sound but it was quite.. but ya.. im guessin i should give her more space.. its the second time i've called her after weeekss and this time she's actually letting herself listen to me =D yay.. well.. if i carry on with NC will that help us to be friends again in the future..?? then maybe much further down the road we could perhaps try a new relationship??.. but what do i do right now??..
  17. hopelessxnow
    How do i tell my ex im really sorry and let her know i really mean it. She doesnt want anything to do with me she keeps being harsh to me even after weeks of NC and i really dont want to continue NC until i get the message accross to her that im really sorry for everything. I feel really bad and she wont speak to me at all. She would blank me and walk away if i tried talkin to her in person and she'd hang up when if i called etc. I'm really confused please someone tell me what to do? An email isnt meaningful enough.. i really need help =(
  18. hopelessxnow
    thanx, i've been doing NC for a few weeks now. I think I am doing pretty well and I can say i'm pretty much over her but not quite. I had thought that weeks maybe months of NC is enough so last night i called her. She was like "what the * * * * are you calling me for!?" I'm surprised she didnt hang up straight after. She let me reply.. I asked her if she was having a party because i heard people saying she was. And she was like "no! * * * * off!" and hung up. i'm not sure if she was drunk or not but she was with her friends. 5 minutes later i get a call back from her friend. She said that my ex said to stop calling her. * * * is that about =S it was ONE phone call in WEEKS or even a MONTH maybe two but i probably had broken the NC a few times. How can she bother to ask a friend to call back with a different mobile to tell me to stop calling!! it was one fone call grrrr! but yeah anyways.. i can understand why shes being harsh and all because i havnt been very good after the break up.. i really want to apologise and let her know i actually mean it without her thinking its an attempt to get her back.. well it is kinda but i dont want her to think that.. lol.. im really confused i really want to tell her how sorry i am about everything.. what do i do?? hope someone out there is able to help =) thanx!
  19. hopelessxnow
    would i have a chance after months of NC?.. it's been over 3 weeks now and it's really getting to me.. but ya i will continue NC for as long as it takes till she's ok with me.. she would be my friend afterwards right?.. but im really scared she mite never consider going back out again because of everything that has happened.. how can i like.. tell her im really sorry and that i've learnt from my mistakes?
  20. hopelessxnow
    i've given her that much space since christmas though.. and why did she have to react when i was ignoring her.. and if she really didnt want anything to do with me then just delete the newletter and ignore it?.. why email me.. AND.. weeks before she actually said 'F off you scare me'.. we had a short conversation on mesenger.. she was online for a while but it was quite awkward.. so she decided to not be friends at all or sumthin. i duno.. but i didnt contact her much since.. well maybe i did but not enuff to annoy her that much.. i mean we used to smile at eachother and i was able to atleast say hi to her at school.. but she just cut off completely.. since i dont no when.
  21. hopelessxnow
    thanx, that helped alot and yeah.. i do think that is the reason why she's being horrible.
  22. hopelessxnow
    really, is that why she's being so nasty?.. im confused but yeh it does make sense actually ..
  23. hopelessxnow
    But she seems over me i dont understand how she can be hurt doesn't it mean that she still has feelings for me if she's hurt? otherwise she wouldn't care? thanx for your advice though i will continue no contact for as long as it takes.. it's goin to be hard though coz i really still love her and how do i let her know im really sorry?.. i'm worried that if she doesnt know that i am, she wouldnt ever even consider getting back together again if we do become friends
  24. hopelessxnow
    yes indeed i think that question would help loads!..
  25. hopelessxnow
    i've posted a thread before but just to recap.. me and my ex were together for 6 months and we both loved eachother loads. Four months into the relationship we broke up for a day and i begged her to come back and so she came back. I promised i would stop being jealous and complaining loads over small things but i didnt which is why we broke up again after 2 months. I admit i was a * * * * for not changing.. but the relationship overall was great. After we broke up for the second time i constantly kept on calling her and crying over the phone, begging her to come back. I did this for weeks.. then months. At the beginning she admitted to my friend there were aspects of the relationship she missed.. and she still cared about me. But i pushed her too far by being so pathetic and obsessive. This lead her to stop answering my phone calls.. talking to me.. she blocked me on messenger.. and is really harsh now .. she doesnt want to have anything to do with me. she even told me to F off.. and dat i scare her.. and so i started NC a few weeks ago.. and a few days ago i got an email from her. the subject was 'why the * * * * do i keep getting these?' please cancel your * * * *ing subscription - it was a paypal subscription. i had used her email address because i couldnt use mine (when we were goin out).. but i just dont get why she has to be rude.. and why she couldnt just delete and ignore it.. i didnt reply.. but i still dont understand why she had to be rude.. im giving her so much space compared to before!.. im just wondering if i continue doing NC until summer if i would have a chance to be friends again and build up from there?.. because we're stayin at the same college for TWO more years .. oohh and one other thing.. i was invited to her friends birthday party a few weeks ago.. apparently to her friend she sed was ok with it.. and so i was just trying enjoy myself talking to my friends.. trying to avoid eye contact with my ex. She was drinking at the time.. I was enjoying myself at a table and she was on another table and she kept on stretching her neck to look at me and i was like * * *!?.. so i was like whatever.. she was a tad drunk.. and she said like 'why is he here, why cant he just go home?!..' i was soo shocked she said this!.. why did she have to react!!!.. i was drinking too and we all went to a park after eating out.. and there were different groups standing around. Each time i went to a group where it so happened to be where my ex was.. she would walk away making it really obvious!.. grrrrrr.. whats goin on in her head??!.. i still really love her.. but its just ya.. i just wanna be her friend atleast!!
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