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Thanks for the replies, they've all been really helpful! I have less than a year left in college, then i'll be off to university which is good as i would no longer have to see her everyday. However, I just can't imagine me walking away from the person i love most not knowing whether i'd ever see her again. To the other question, yes I try and avoid her at all costs but sometimes i do bump into her which creates an akward tension - It feels awkward because she smiles a little when she walks past and if there is eye contact. Before going out with her I thought i was happy with my life even if i had been full of angst, which is ofcourse typical as i was quite young. So, everything was normal and i'd always felt complete until i met my ex. I discovered she was pretty much the opposite of me despite the fact that we got along incredibly well and shared a lot in common. I just found she lead a better, more interesting life than i did, she had a better family relationship and as a person she was a lot better than I was. I started to realise that everything she had was what i lacked which is why being with her made me really happy. It all sounds really exaggerated and pathetic but I don't know how else to explain it in words. Breaking up with her was losing everything and i haven't been as happy as i used to be. I am back again in the boring life i'd always lead.

Thanks but how?? There are a bunch of factors which help me realise i haven't got much to be happy about. The fact that until this day I still haven't found anyone like my ex and it's really hard to forget someone who's shared the happiest moments u've ever had in your life. i don't think i could get anyone near as good as my ex anyway and i blame it mostly on my appearance - Afterall being single for 2 years and not finding anyone kinda says something. Anyway, i could go on but i'll leave it at that and sorry for having to be so negative.

i've been doing NC since New Years. I'm on day 38 but count me in!

My ex and I had been going out for 6 months. In a few weeks, It would be exactly two years since we've broken up and I still think about her and i still really want her back. Two years. Do I need professional help or is this normal considering the fact that i see her nearly every other day at school? I don't know what to do with myself anymore

A therapist would do I'm still not over my ex and it's been a year! I don't think i will ever get her back though i really want to. Is it possible to ruin your chances forever?

It's been over a year and i'm still not over my ex! She goes to my college and i see her everyday. I miss her loads, what do i do?!

jesus dude, that's really depressing! haha never wanted to look at it that way but hey, helps a bit i guess..

Hey thanks for helping out mate, but i dont remember the police being involved and my ex is a girl =] im the boy. Thanks to everyone else aswell though most of you came up with different answers i guess there isnt an exact right answer. As a result im still rather confused but hey

hey thanks guys!! you've really helped anyway, me and my ex have literally just started talking again on msn a few nights ago. We have also spoken to eachother in person today as we met on the way to class. However, when she talks to me i don't how friendly to be - whether i should give away the fact that i'm happy to see and talk to her or try and keep myself rather blunt and not too enthusiastic to see her but at the same time friendly? Also, when she is online is it a bad idea to start conversations incase she gets the wrong message and stops wondering if i'm still interested and starts to back away again?

Ok so, as briefly as possible, my ex and I had the worst ever breakup last year. With all the pleading, crying, pathetic emails, arguments etc. I dont think it could've been any worse. I would've been on No Contact straight after we split if I knew about it but I didn't and i just kept on being an idiot for months. Throughout this year I did a few months of LC and recently 2 months of NC at all. However, I still really love her and i'm not really sure where to go from here. I'm planning to break NC and send her an email and tell her that i want a fresh start, i've changed and i've realised i had been awful to her and it's ok if she ever wanted to get to know me again in the future? Maybe this is a bad idea i don't know but i'm willing to take all my chances and if i were to send this email what should I include or exclude? Please help me out guys

is your father a scorpio by any chance?

i've been going out with my ex for 6 months, we were deeply in love with eachother. After breaking up we didn't speak to eachother for 8 months. Recently we've gone back to speaking terms and she tends to leave many x's and she seems rather interested when we speak to eachother. Though im still not quite sure if she still likes me. Is there a way to find out.. how can i get her back?

thanks for the relpy

Thanks a lot for your reply! Anyway, we've had one or two good conversations on messenger afterwards. So whether she has or hasnt heard of the rumours, they havnt affected her that much if not at all. However, it seems that she's starting to back off slightly. Maybe she isnt, perhaps it's just me. but judging by the last two days i've noticed that she hasnt started any convos. When i start conversations over messenger, she still talks to me normally (friendly) but it seems as if she hasnt been trying to keep the conversations up as much. BUT she still is very friendly, asks about my weekends and leaves 'xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx' that many x's when one of us has to go offline. With other people like my friends (boys), she only leaves one 'x'. So the x's must mean something especially coming from an ex. She's either: -Playing hard to get (which isnt much like her but god knows) -Backing off for the moment because our 'Gcses' are literally starting next week - Gcses are our major nationwide exams before college. yea they're crutial =P -Backing off because i've shown a bit more affection?.. I'm really confused.. maybe i'm over analyzing and should shut the hell up and play it cool =P.. but.. i really dont want to get lead on.. Any opinions on this would be great, thanks!!

My ex broke up nearly a year ago and we were together for 6 months. We had the worst breakup ever. I was crying, pleading etc. pushing her further away until eventually, gone. She completely cut off all string and didnt want anything to do with me. She Blocked me on messenger, never replied to my emails etc. After a few months of No Contact however, things started to get A LOT better. She eventually gave really short replies to my emails. I then talked her into unblocking me etc. - we agreed that we didnt know eachother anymore and we cant just be friends over night after 8 months of avoiding eachother. I still maintained NC for a month or two and things still improved. We both went to a party and got drunk and apparently we were both flirting with eachother. Skipping a few weeks forward, We start talking on msn a lot more and she says hi at school with a smile whenever i walk past. Now, she starts convo's on messenger and whenever she has to go she adds 'xxxxxxxxxxxxx' before signing out. To be honest, I thought tables were turning but after a weeks of thinking..i've decided today that i do want her back. I don't really know how to get her back though. I'm worried that if i do start to give signs that i like her again she might start to back off?.. This is what i'm really confused about. Can someone help me decide on my next step please? =] The trouble is that.. i was really drunk at a gathering last saturday and hitted on a girl two years younger - though she hitted on me first. This is spreading and i'm pretty sure my ex has heard of it. It isn't so bad, but i'm worried she might think bad of me? Today we havn't really seen eachother - only once. She was wearing a black dress and long converses up to her knees and i was like .. woah.. she was walking and talking on the phone and probably too busy to say hi to me i'm not sure. But it's getting me pretty paranoid that it could be about the rumour. Anyway, it was really unusual for her to dress up at school so i asked 'what are you dressed up for?' while she was walking, which sounded really rude! she exclaimed, 'Nothing!' turning back whilst on the phone. I felt really bad - it wasnt meant to be a rude remark, i was just curious like 'what's the occasion' kinda thing. I'm sure she'll forgive me and i will explain it wasnt meant to be rude but, i'm just worried that i've like ruined my chances by that one night. Any suggestions to what could make my situation better? and.. how i could her back perhaps?.. Thanks loads!! =]

Hey, i'm sorry this might be quite long - not really sure where to start.. and how to shrink everything into a single thread but here goes.. I've been out with my ex for 6 months.. it was great we both loved eachother very much. However, despite the fact that we had great times together, we started having more and more arguments which lead to me being dumped. She wanted to stay friends and she was quite nice when dumping me. She told my friend there were aspects of the relationship she would definitely miss. She was there to listen when i had to beg and plead and cry etc. For months and months I begged and pleaded for her to come back as one would (not knowing about NC). This obviously drove her further away when she finally realised i was obsessed.. until the point where she completely stopped talkin to me. Cut all ties, didnt want to have absolutely nothing to do with me. She then started to act quite harsh.. So i found out about the whole No Contact idea.. i started it in order to get her back but my hopes werent up at all. To be honest, I havnt had a full month of complete NC - i'd always email her every now and then when i got a bit too low. Anyhow, I did LC for months.. and things gradually got better. Though it took a bit of effort, she finally accepted to go back onto speaking terms. This was a few weeks ago. We decided to take the whole 'friendship' idea very slow as we don't really know eachother anymore. This, to me, was hard but at the end of the day it does make sense. We didn't talk much at all on messenger a few weeks ago.. but it's getting better and i can tell she's feeling a bit more confident as i'm still giving her space by not contacting her much. Yesterday, i was at a party with her and we got extremely drunk. Nothing happened but we did talk for the first time in person for months and months and it was great!.. and we hugged - i'm rather happy about that which shows how much i love her. We spent quite a while talking about quite random stuff just like friends and it wasnt really awkward at all.. we still click =) I know I shouldn't allow this to get my hopes up.. and yes, maybe she doesnt want me back? but i feel that i have a slight chance.. and im prepared to take up any plan there is that would lead me there even if it'd take months. I still really love her and really want her back more than anything. What should i do?..

Hey thanx guys! Yes i do understand that NC is for me. However, i was just wondering if that was a better way to get her back.. and looking at ur 3rd reason for NC, it looks like it is?.. It has been 7 months since the break up..quite a while yeah!

Hey, i'm sorry this might be quite long - not really sure where to start.. and how to shrink everything into a single thread but here goes.. I've been out with my ex for 6 months.. it was great we both loved eachother very much. However, despite the fact that we had great times together, we started having more and more arguments which lead to me being dumped. She wanted to stay friends and she was quite nice when dumping me. She told my friend there were aspects of the relationship she would definitely miss. She was there to listen when i had to beg and plead and cry etc. For months and months I begged and pleaded for her to come back as one would (not knowing about NC). This obviously drove her further away when she finally realised i was obsessed.. until the point where she completely stopped talkin to me. Cut all ties, didnt want to have absolutely nothing to do with me. She then started to act quite harsh.. So i found out about the whole No Contact idea.. i started it in order to get her back but my hopes werent up at all. To be honest, I havnt had a full month of complete NC - i'd always email her every now and then when i got a bit too low. Anyhow, I did LC for months.. and things gradually got better. Though it took a bit of effort, she finally accepted to go back onto speaking terms. This was a few weeks ago. We decided to take the whole 'friendship' idea very slow as we don't really know eachother anymore. This, to me, was hard but at the end of the day it does make sense. We didn't talk much at all on messenger a few weeks ago.. but it's getting better and i can tell she's feeling a bit more confident as i'm still giving her space by not contacting her much. Yesterday, i was at a party with her and we got extremely drunk. Nothing happened but we did talk for the first time in person for months and months and it was great!.. and we hugged - i'm rather happy about that which shows how much i love her. We spent quite a while talking about quite random stuff just like friends and it wasnt really awkward at all.. we still click =) I know I shouldn't allow this to get my hopes up.. and yes, maybe she doesnt want me back? but i feel that i have a slight chance.. and im prepared to take up any plan there is that would lead me there even if it'd take months. I still really love her and really want her back more than anything. What should i do?..

1) 7 months of a lot of nagging to get back together.. and then at the end just to be friends..but i was never really contacting her it was very LC..but i havnt had a month of complete NC 2) BAD.. but i left her alone after tellin her i've moved on and eventually we got back on to speaking terms.. 3) i dont think shes quite herself.. when she speaks.. im not sure why.. she doesnt talk much at all.. it's very limited as if she feels shy.. but at the same time she tries to be friendly.. 4) i havnt really had nc .. but i was glad i was able to be her friend again.. but i still really love her and i really want to get her back.. do you think i should have a complete month or two with NC at all? maybe that would make things even better?..

gd luck to u too =D

ok, thanx

i havnt asked, i'd prefer to just drop frm the face of the earth. i was the one begging her to be on speaking terms in the first place. i guess shes completely over me but i dont know if theres still something there.. i mean we did love eachother for 6 months and had a really close relationship.. and after we broke up she wanted to be friends.. but i was being all clingy and beggin her to stay etc. which pushed her away until she stopped all contact with me.. but now everythings gd but im not sure if i've ruined all my chances or is there still hope?

would a month of no contact or so allow her time to miss me now that we're not on bad terms anymore?.. because ive never really given her a complete month of no contact..

thanx for your reply.. we talk on messenger we dont phone eachother nor do we speak at school.. we only smile and say hi when we walk past eachother.. i dont want to just be friends..thats the thing.. and maybe all she is expecting is to be friends and nothing more im not sure.. and i'm really confused and i dont no what to do.. yes friendship is what comes first before a relationship.. but whats the chance she'd want me back when i do work really hard goin through all the emotions and trying to keep them under control?..

ok, so we went out for 6 months and after the break up we werent on very gd terms for a few months. and so i started to do NC... but i havnt done it properly. there hasnt been a few weeks where i completely had NC - i would always break it every 3 weeks or something by email... anyways, just recently we've gone back to speaking terms and everythings gone better.. she's being friendly and we're taking things realllyyy slow because 'we dont know each eachother anymore'.. everythings getting better but i still really love her and i dont know if i have a chance in the future.. we did love eachother for 6 months but im still not sure wheter she'd ever take me back and its what i really want. What's the best thing to do apart from move on.. I'm willing to take every chance i have.. should i remain in contact with her but only contact her when she contacts me or is NC more effective??