daisybaby

Yeah I still care about him. He has been there for me when it counted before when I did need him. I wish I could just get past it and move on but for some reason I just can't. My relationship with my boyfriend is newand so far not working very well, I keep thinking that if I just date someone else who is wonderful I can put this guy behind me and not give him a second thought. But it is like this guy won't let me, he demands my attention and cuz I do care about him, I get sucked into this game. I don't know what to do about it?

Hey Girl, As a girl who has been in the office romance dance before DON'T DO IT!!!!!!! but If you do decided to persue it chances are cover your butt every step of the way, cuz if it doesn work out one or bothe of you are looking for a new job. I got burned badly by the boss in more ways than one, if I learned anything it was Don't get your honey where you get your money.

I have a problem I am hoping someone can help me with, cuz it is driving me crazy. I have been friends with this guy for a long time we were close, but a few months ago I admitted to him I had feelings for him. We talked it out and he told me he can't allow him self to think of me that way, so we said would stay friends. It did put a bit of a strain on our friendship we were constantly fighting, finally we had a big blow up a few weeks ago and I said enough is enough he agreed that that he would stop with his constant guilt trips and arguing with me. He also told me after our "Big fight " that I push him away and have been doing it for a long time now". I admitted to him after that I was seeing someone and he was like Really? and I said yeah then like 20 mins after that he started talking about how his gf was hinting on getting married and that some of my girl friends need to help him find a ring. So mean while he has been dating this girl for about almost 7 months he got into this relationship a month after he ended a five year relationship. So needless to say he now refers to my bf as "my friend (who is male and has no name)" cuz I won't tell him anything and asks my friends about my bf but they won't tell him anything either. He got all weird when someone said my boyfriend was coming on this trip with me he kept saying how I am getting married and kept asking me who was going on this trip and kept hounding me and I wouldn't say anything then he just said just tell me if it isn't true then just say it so I said it and he said I don't believe you. He also said to me one day that my one of my best friends who doesn't like him that it is important for her to like him. Lately he has been talking about himself being naked and making alot of sexual comments and how he will miss me when I leave this week for a vaction out of the country. So I said I would see by and I would see him in a week. so today he was supposed to go to his gf grad today (which I found out from someone else, because he rarley talks about her in front of me) and on his way there he called my cell and left a message about how he saw what the weather was like there and to have a great trip. He also took a pic of me with his cell phone on my b-day when he thought I didn't notice. Ok so my question after this is if he doesn't feel the same and he is dating this chick then why is he so preoccupied wanting to know everything about me and constantly flirting. IS it just like an ego boosting thing, a head game or does he really have feelings? It is driving me mad wht is this guy doing?

I need a little help. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't sleep,I'm irratic , and emotional. I fell in love with my boss at work. I wasn't expecting to frankly i wasn't interested. But over time we became really good friends. and would spend most of our time constantly joking and talking. Slowly i noticed something was different he was asking the others at work about who was i seeing, if the were my "special friends", he would rub my back, he would go out of his way to make me happy and buy gifts to cheer me up. We would argue and i would get mad at him and wouldn't talk to him for days unless it was about work. then he turns and gets grumpy at everyone else and constantly tells me how much he hates it. It got to the point everyone at work was like OMG he is so inlove with you and i believed it too. But he was my boss and had a girlfriend of 5 yrs at the time then one day i found out they broke up(which I knew he didn't need to tell me) Needless to say he told everyone one day he was bringing a friend to the christmas party and something in me snapped i freeked out and he noticed and was harping on me to talk to him. I finally sat down and wrote him an email to his home email and told him. I also told him that i didn't want anything to change with us and i needed to back away for a while so i could move over it. Later that night we talked for a while on Messenger (we are on home msn) and talked it thru. i asked the what if question just for curisoty sake but he gave the diplomatic answers that he wouldn't allow himself to consider such a thing as he has made tht mistake in the past, and that someday i will man a man very happy and not to think about it he doesn't. Slowly we have gotten back to the whole routine but just down a notch, not as obvious. But I get mad at him a lot more lately and the fun side of me is periodic now, I am so emotional all the time. But it is like we are back to the same old tricks again. I can't cut him out of my life beacuse we work together very closely and even if i did leave i don't think i could cut him out of my life, he has become important to me and is there when i need him. there are times when i think that maybe he is jerking my chain and leading me on. then there are time which i think he is genuine (most often than not). It is funny as close as I think we are, we are both very guarded and won't confide about certian things. He also seems to always know what is best for me and always states i should do this and that, which drives me up a wall, but he always states tht we push each other to be better people and that i am so very intelligetn and blah blah blah. I am so confused i know what i want and it is standing in front of me, I have laid out my card face up, and still seem to be stuck in the same routine as before. How do I do let it end i can't handle the emotions anymore, it has gotten to the point that i think, did i make this up in my head?, am i looking for more than what is there? How do i get past it? and still keep my job and a great friend? just when i think i have had enough and i am over, some how i get dragged back into the game. Help !

Hi. Ok I am going try not to drone on but I am a little confused about a guy. Sorry if the story drags on but this guy did like a 360 on me. Here it goes So i knew this guy from work we work for the same company but in completely different departments and different offices i rarely get the chance to see him but have hung out with him twice before with a group at an outing and got along pretty good. So at the Christmas party he asked me to come sit with him at his table after dinner and told me how much he liked my perfume stared at my boobs and then would speak to everyone else at the table only briefly talking to me, then later in the evening i saw him coming back from going for a smoke with some others and i stopped him in the lobby and chatted breifly and really turned on the flirty charm but we are friends so i was frank but not overbearing and asked him why he was ignoring me(in a cutey voice) to which he replied to me that he wasn't that it was all business and would never do that. then i told him that i was thinking with a grin on my face and he said yeah and i told him that i was thinking that he should take me out he then said what now? i said no another day and then he stammered a little not knowing what to say got shy alittle and then leaned over to me and said he was glad we were on the same page, but were then interrupted and he had to talk with another group and some of my friends came to get me. So later as i left the party i said goodbye to him and put my hand on his back and told him goodbye and he said well give me a hug and he wrapped his arms around me for what appeared to be a long time then asked how i was getting home and i told him a cab and he said good i just wanted to make sure, and then i said i would talk to him soon and he said yeah see you soon. About a week later after discussing it with my girls as to weither i should call him or not i did. I called him shortly before Christmas and we talked on the phone about 15 mins and he kept talking and then finally in the conversation i said to him oh the reason i called and he said yeah i said so i was wondering if you would like to go see a movie tomorrow and he said man who has the time i have been so busy with Christmas, work and planning for his vacation in January, so i said oh ok then he said what about next week and on the day after boxing day and i couldn't because i would not be back from vacation until that night so i told him that and he said oh ok why don't you give me a call when your back and we can make plans to go out another time i said well your probably going to be busier than i am why don't you give me a call after that day and i wasn't sure he heard me say that cuz the next thing he said was have merry christmas and good bye. So i thought he would call me so i waited for his call but nothing so about 4 days later i gave him a call and no answer so i left a message that i hope he had a good Christmas and a happy new year and that we should do something this week and it has been about 4 days and no call back. I thought from everything that he was in to me like i was in to him. am i wrong? or was he just being polite? I am not going to call him back cuz i gave it my 3 chances but maybe i misinterpreted that. and how long would a guy take to call you back? what is the deal there? it just doesn't make sense to me.