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Bah, you should stop the friends with privledges thing if anything. Just because you guys are making out only makes things more complicated. It means that he is having his cake and eating it too, while you are driving yourself mad by thinking/wondering about what he really feels. When you make out or have sex with someone, females produce a chemical called oxytocin. This is the same chemical that one produces while pregnant, and then again after giving birth. It is the chemical/hormone produced that helps females "bond" easier. Guys produce this chemical too, just not as much as females. That is how a guy can do the friendship with "privledges" thing and control his feelings where it will be much harder for a female to do the same thing without producing some type of feeling towards bonding and attachment(even if there is no real commitment she will feel that there is, even if she denies it). I was in a relationship like this for 4 years and it didnt get me anywhere! Finally I got tired of it, and over his ass, and found someone that is willing to commit to me. He is my best friend, my lover, my soulmate. You should wrap up a big bottle of lotion, put a big pretty bow on it and hand it to him for a late birthday pressent, then tell him to privledge himself. Then go find yourself someone that is willing to treat you like you should be treated. Oh here is a link about oxytocin: link removed

Yeah this is definitely something that I would want to be dealing with. I would be very angry and frustrated, and probably would end up leaving the relationship if things got too bad, and there weren't some type of changes. If you really care for this guy then I would try having a one on one serious conversation with him about how this is affecting your health and well being. Try to compromise with him. If he isnt willing to compromise then he isnt fulfilling YOUR needs and if hes not fulfilling your needs then he isnt worth your time in my opinion.

Sticky situation you are in. You want to be able to trust your boyfriend and his decisions, while on the other hand you dont trust his friend who seems to want to be in your place. I wouldnt feel comfy with this type situation either. If you 2 are in a commited relationship then this should not even be an issue. If he knows that this is a problem with you, then he needs to back off from this girl. She has no right to be jealous of you...he is not commited to HER..hes commited to YOU. He should be off limits to her. From what youve said, it sounds to me like she is asking him out on dates *shrugs*. If he cant bring you along, then he doesnt need to be going, as long as you 2 are in a commited relationship. Hope this helps some...