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I received an email from my BF telling me to goof around tonight just to make up on things he have done to me last weekend, he blew off our date. I am pissed off about the "blew off" but i get more pissed when he emailed me about having just sex tonight. So I emailed him telling him my period is delay. NOw he haven't replied anything. I'd asked him to talk to me tonight about this but still no reply. Actually, im on my second day of my period, I just want to test him and see his reaction if he would care or not. Am i insane? Do you girls sometimes do some test like this to your BF? Is this already a bad sign in our relationship like he already chickened out? I dont know if he will show up tonight, i'll keep u updated. Thanks girls and guys!

I just dont understand what my Bf mean about this. , we are on our 10 mo., we broke up and back again, I know we are both crazy and both inlove but we never talked about getting married cause i know we are not yet both ready --financially. One night he told me what he wants me to do.. he said that I should hooked up with someone better than him cause he knows he will just break my heart cause he is unstable guy. And he is telling this to his friends! he blew off our weekend plans and he jsut stayed with his friends drinking. he said he is pushing me away. I know there is no third party involve cause he would call me at his friends house and would give me info where to reach him. He doesn't want me to stay at my room, he wanted me to go out and meet guys. This is crazy! He always tells me that he is sooo crazy about me but he cannot do anything to be with me- marriage is the only option. I do not ask for anything else..I just lay my cards and let destiny act upon us. We will both leaving the base in 4 mo. and we will be separated for 2 years. I dont want to waste my time without him, I want to make the best of it before we leave the base. What should I do? I love him very much. I cant buy his reasons..am i too blind to see that our relationship will not worked out because of money and timing? Please i need your advice we are both confuse right now.

It's been more than a month that we broke up after a 6 months of on/off relationship. We have a bitter breakup. I did put closure to it and decided we will be just friends, I already moved on, he did also, he started dating after 2 weeks since we broke up. I did my best not to contact him but I admit I always included him in my "fwd" email messages, just to let him know that I can be his friend and I'm cool about it.I received an email from him, about the rumors he heard that I was injured, he even thought I have a new boyfriend who beat me up, he wants me to email him about my situation. In a friendly way, I responded that it is not all true, I did ask him how is he doing, but he did not reply anymore. I still moved on…. I received an email from his family, asking to tell my ex to reply to their email cause they are worried about him, he has not been responding at all. His family asked me to email them as often to keep in touch. It seems they don't have any idea that we broke up.I saw my ex in the galley after 2 weeks, oh my god he loss so many weight but he still look healthy. he never took a glance on me so initiate to talk to him about the email I received from his family. He just said ok and then ignore me. I felt that he still have bitterness on me. (by the way, he is the one who dumped me, he is not happy hanging out with me he confess).I thought we are playing it cool, he should be happy cause he got already someone in his life and I'm happy for him. Why is he not responding to his family, they already got worried! why is that he is not telling them that we are over? Why is he ignoring me once I respond to his email? Why is he still bitter about this situation while I should be the one? I still care for him a lot but I'm not going to do anything to win him back, I still love myself! I just want him to be happy, I don't know if he is doing ok or what? And I still want to initiate NC, I hope no circumstances would break this again. Why do I feel like this? I should not care anymore, like he is doing to me and to his family. Does he have a problem? He is not like this before.Help!

Hi i'm back again. Here is the summary of my story boyfriend and I had been together of 6 months. for the last 2 mo. our relationship was in a rough road. He doesn't spend to much time together. He does alot of his time to his friends. It's an on and off relationship. He compromise and try to get things back. But he failed. We have separate friends cause we have different culture. Drinking and partying with his friends becomes habitual to him and have no time with me anymore. He even stood me up whenever I asked for a date. Whenever I asked for a talk, he would run. I know he likes to breakup with me. I cornered him in school to talk and he said he is not ready and he miss me. So we are back together again. July 3rd i went to his house to have a talk again cause he stood me up again. I pushed him to breakup with me. I know he wanted to. I asked him whats wrong, if there is a third party -none. His bestfriend who is married had an affair. And this girl introduce a girl for him. He said he is not interested and she is soo goofy, and he said he would not cheat on me. I believe in him. He said everything had change since he got an order to go to middle east and he feel so helpless. He is in the military by the way, and I'm just civilian. Still there is a question mark left in my mind.Why cant we work this out? I am doing a lot of effort but he is not? why he suddenly changed? that is my question. But i trust on his words he said because I loved him so much...i let him go. Every night I cried and picturing him that he is having good times with his friends and drinking. I know he is happy doing that. After a week of break we everything is very fine. He would call and email me, we talked in class like friends, no physical affection attached. So I said to myself, the answer to my question that i'm seeking for is that he just really just need some space from me. he emailed me mostly and telling that he is tied with work and would ask for a copy of our assignment. 2 weeks had past he called me up and would ask for help again for his uniforms. I was happy cause he is still treating me as a good friend, i was willing to help him but my friends stopped me. They said he already saw him with a girl in the store. Kissing and snuggling infront of them. The cashier who've i known told me they are seen everyday like this. I was shocked! he emailed me for an assignment and even telling me he is tied up with work while goofing around? and even called to help him with his uniforms while he has already a girlfriend? and that girl is the one that he said that is goofy. I freaked out. I emailed him and tell him bad words/bad things that I don't want to see his face or help him or anything. Eventhough I know we broke up, I feel betrayed and cheated. Is this a natural feeling? I was seeking for an answer why he suddenly changed and I trust him to believed to what he reason out to but why he didn't tell me that he doesn't love me anymore? it means he pretend and just waited for me to breakup with him so that he can date this girl. He replied back to my email and said, he did not cheat and we already broke up before that incident. He said im immature and he said bad things to me too. he did not went to class after our last email. He doesnt want to do anything with me, he said. And its my misery and he will not be drag down with my misery, it hurts me a lot how could he do that to me?? I trusted him!!! Is it immature telling him stuff like he cheated and betrayed me even we already broke up? I know im his exgirlfriend now. I did just express myself because I have full of anger that he lied long way before. I felt i was so used up. need your opinion. I thought he is an angel but he is not...

I really don't know his intentions, if he still want me or he just being friendly. Do we need to talk about this or I will let it go. We did not talked very serious when we broke up. For sure I really want him back, but its not a good idea, and it will hurt me a lot if he has no feelings for me anymore. He is so undecisive. I think I did pushed him to break up with me....do we need to talk again? or this over?

Is it ok to be friends again with your Ex? Its been a week now since we broke up, It seems that he is not affected about the situation. I still love him but he seems to take this breakup so easily but I'm not. im struggling and keeping the NC! what should i do, I will see him in class...and surely lateron we will act as if nothing happened, like we are best friends but infact we had a very messy breakup. Why guys are like this? Should i ignore him? (he is even my seatmate in class!!) and pretend that I moved on? Help

Thanks for all the advice, I just called him awhile ago and I told him that i want to return all his stuff but he is busy and he cannot make it to pick it up, so i suggested to drop it off at his room tomorrow. One that i fear most is that whenever I set a meeting with him, he will not show up, he did this so many times and I don't want to feel like chasing him. I want to move on. I can feel that we are both cold to each other. Is this right to do to give back his stuff or should i just let him pick it up? Our mutual friend is not here neither he has no roommates. I don't want to call him back to assure if he will be in his room tomorrow...help.

Hi annie, I only knew one friend of him, and met only once. She is the girlfriend of our mutual friend who is on vacation right now. And he is watching this girl for him, hanging out together with the rest of his friends. If i will initiate to return all his stuff back, don't you think that my Ex will think that iam chasing him?

Thanks darkblue, but our mutual friend is on vacation right now he will be back next 2 weeks from now. Iam struggling right now and trying to be strong, i even done so many nasty things on him and i feel so guilty that I have done it. I hide his car keys and stole his diskette he used for the assignments in school, broke his oakley, bleached his favorite expensive blue shirt (that he used in parties all the time) and the worst, i used his toothbrush to clean his toilet (oh my god!). I know he knew about the shirt but still he did say anything bad at me. Its a very long story why I did this. I was pissed off thats why...

Hi im back, My boyfriend and I had just broke up. No third party involve. We realized we both have some culture differences that we cannot work it out. My friends asked him if we broke up, he did not say a thing. It's been 4 days that we didn't talk or email and Its really a bitter breakup but thou I'm going to see him in school next week. I want to know should I return all his stuff (video cam, digital cam, laptop) or should he get it from me and when or where? I'm thinkin' he is not asking for his stuff anyway and I dont want to break the NC but i want to get rid all of his stuff. Also my friends printed a special photo of us and they still didn't know that we already broke up. I don't have the guts also to tell them. Should i still gave the photo to him? I hate to trash it and hate to keep it. Thanks a lot!

i'm in a very confuse relationship right now. Im here in a US base where I met my american boyfriend who is 4 years younger than me. I'm 29, from thailand, single mom and its been six mo. thats we've been dating. he is in the military and im just working a contrator co. We have a very nice time together but when he started to have friends, he started to spend more time with them than me. He invited me to go out with his buddies to hang out but there are many times that i let him do his things with them without me. Reason that i refuse to go out with them is that, I cannot relate to their topics. I can understand what they are saying but can't socialize with them and they are not talking to me either. Im still in the stage of adjusting to his culture and lifestyle. He is not inviting me out anymore, nor spend time with him. I invited him to go out but he cannot make it, cause he is hanging out with his friends. I have talked to him conflicts happening to our relationship and we compromise but still he fails. School class came,we just see each other only at school 2 times a week for 2 hours. After that no more calls or emails. Now i'm sick and tired of whats happening to our relationship and he knows it. I used to be the one dumping him, now i know he wants to dumped me cause he emailed me and wants to talk to me in person, it is obviously he wants to breakup with me. I'am waiting for him to do that but he chickened out and doesn't pursue on talking about the email he wrote. He doesn't go to class once i asked about the email or about talking. He doesn't call or email me. But when he sees me as if nothing is wrong. When I asked him about to talk it will took him a week to see me or email me. The reason I'm waiting for him to end it up, is to ask him why he wants to end it up? Is it he has no more feeling for me? I want to know his reasons and tell it directly to my face. I even hunt him to have a talk but he is not always in his room. I cannot catch him. WHY IS HE AFRAID TO TALK? It's hard for me to move on seeing him in school and not ending this up officially. Please I need ur advise.