collegekitten

One month later and we're back together... We went through a lot of the month and we've both grown and matured....He realized that I'm not worth losing or he wouldn have wanted me back. We're trying to take everything slow and work everything out...I know that we can even though it's really hard because I want everything to go back to the way it was between us before everything happened..... I love him and I want to be with him and it was his decision to choose me over the ex and even though she's still in the picture I'm setting some boundaries....

There is just so much drama in the relationship world and I've been through what you're going through basically. Here's a little background: We're both 20 now and we had been together 4 times since 7th grade. The 4th time began the summer before our senior year. In our 10th grade year his gf at the time cheated on him and he was hurt pretty bad. When we got back together before senior year we were inseparable. We did everything together and it was perfect. We were so in love and we had told each other that we were soulmates back in 9th grade. Well we had been together for over 2 1/2 years when the ex came back into the picture. He didn't know what he wanted anymore...me or her...I was devastated because we were talking about marriage and a future together....This all happened in March and in April I told him that we needed a break and it was mutual. Well over the course of a month I spoke to him a little bit and saw him once (we ended up making love) and he told me that he had 'messed around' with the other girl. Well I was like whatever and was finally starting to get better and heal a little. A friend of mine, also an ex from HS, and I were hanging out and we ended up mesing around....it went too far, but not all the way....I felt guilty even though my bf and I weren't together. Later that week on Friday I get a call from my 'bf' and I tell him what happened and he's upset, but then he tells me that he wants me back, that he wants to be with me. We've been talking everynight since then and I actually saw him yesterday....We're taking it slow and trying to work everything out between us. We both want it to, but it's like we're both holding back right now. He thinks I'm going to cheat and I told him that I wouldn't because I wanted him and only him. I told him that he wasn't worth losing, but I know that I'm not worth losing either.....He wouldn't have wanted me back if I was....It only took a month for us to get back together and now it's going to take longer to get back to where we were before the break.....but I know it's worth it.... I love my bf more than anything in this world...He is 100% the love of my life....and I know that like you I could never let anyone else in my heart. I would hate to have to go through life being his friend while he's with her...but I was the one he chose....She's still there as a friend and I'll put up with it, but he has a lot to prove to me. We both matured and went through a lot of changes just in a month and it was all for the better.....I just wish I could see into the future for once....everyone thinks I'm setting myself up to get hurt again, but the way I see it is that if you really love the person like you say you do then the risk is worth it!

Guys like you are a rarity....You can care you obviously do....She's moved on....You need to as well.... My situation at the moment itn't really the same, but I understand what you're going through....I can't stop thinking about my ex....it probably doesn't help that I wear the promise ring he gave me around my neck, but with me he's telling me that it isn't completely over between us...We're taking a break so that he can figure out what he wants for sure..... Believe me there are plenty of girls that act like what most people expect guys to act...the sex was great and that's all they care about.... I'm jealous of his ex that I'm 'competing' with in order to be with him...If you want to see what I'm going through check out my post for Too much to handle.... Keep your head up and I know you'll find the perfect girl for you...Sure you'll think about your ex, but if she see's you with another girl don't you think she'd be just a little jealous??

Okay...There could be some misunderstanding between you and your bf right now....If he wants to see her and you trust him make sure that he doesn't want to get back with her...If he does have him end it then and there.... I made the mistake of jumping to conclusions and even though my "ex" that I'm taking a break from told me that he wanted to make sure that his mind was made up and he told me that he'd regret losing me....I want something long-lasting, but the other girl can't tell him that it would be permanent..... There's just so much to consider....During our break I'm leaving him alone, he can call me if he really wants to talk to me and I told him to take his itme making up his mind..... Keep your head up and things will work themselves...If you think you and he are meant to be than don't give up on him completely....guys need space....I'm learning that the hard way!

Okay....update....on the whole situation... We're still taking a break, but we both know that it's not permanently over between us....This ex of his just kinda showed up and just hit him pretty hard and she wants him back, but he says he loves me so much and that its better for use to be apart while he gets everything worked on in his own mind just in case something were to happen between them. We talked for 3 hours lastnight and I know that he's going to keep in touch while we're not together.... I'm not backing down from what I said, but I'm not ready to let go when there's still something there....He didn't lie....but my 'friend' that has been sneaking around for me has been.....

Thanks for replying and I know I did the right thing, but it's so hard... I mean I truly love him...He's the first guy I had ever slept with and I mean there was so much there....He's 20 now and I'll be 20 in about 11 days and our anniversary would have been in 7 days exactly....I mean we had spoken about the future and he had given me a promise ring and everything..... I told him that I wanted to be in his life so we'll be friends, but I know that in sept. he'll be going down to Florida for 9 months for his career and maybe after the 9 months he'll grow up a bit and he'll see that both of us might have been childish.....

If you've caught him in lies before you should be weary about things he says....My ex lied a little too easy for me....I had caught him in plenty of lies before and it was like they're stupid little things so no big deal....If I hadn't mentioned riding by his house one night he never would have told me that his ex was there.... My ex called me insecure and childish about this whole thing about him seeing the other girl and it's like he can get mad, but I can't.....I'm more suspicious if they had a physical past....like my ex and his ex did....I just knew that something was going on....He said it wasn't but he wasn't exactly trying to make me believe it for good.... I'm going to try NC for the rest of the month get some things in order in my life and see what he's up to....In the mean time my friend will be hanging out with him and trying to figure out how he really feels about me.... My head hurts...too much thinking...

Okay here's the story me and my now ex-boyfriend had gotten back together for the 4th time since 7th grade this time we were together for over 2 1/2 years. The girlfriend before me cheated on him and its taken me just about 3 years to undo all the damage she has caused. He thinks I'm gonna cheat on him which I'm not...I could never do that to him. Well everything was going great until he quit hs job. He had been seeing his ex as a friend and I was fine with it because I trusted him, but then he told me that they still had feelings for each other and that he didn't know what he wanted... About a few days later he said that he wanted to be with me because he didn't want to lose me and that he wanted to marry me one day. But he said he needed his space and that he didn't want me calling him everyday...So I didn't and after not hearing from him for 2 days it was a Friday night and I called my friend, one of my ex's that I've been hanging out with forever, and we went out and had a good time. We rode by my bf's house around 11 that night and the ex-gf's truck was in the driveway. He had told me that he wasn't going to see her because it was bad for our relationship and that she was going to Kentucky...that obviously didn't happen. I got mad and he thought I was being childish for getting upset. The main reason I got upset was the fact that he was going behind my back without telling me.....He knew when I hung out with other guys and from what my one friend says he get's raging mad when I'm with a guy.....But it's like I wasn't allowed to get mad....Well I don't know how long he's been seeing her without me knowing so on Monday I broke up with him saying that I felt that I needed space and that we needed to take a break....I've got other issues going on in my life and I wasn't going to talk to or see him this month and next month go back to being friends..... I felt betrayed by him....Was I in the wrong??

I know what you're going through believe me... Unfortunately he's now my ex because he was going behind my back and seeing his ex. He told me he wasn't going to see her again because it was hurting our relationship and he decides to see her anyway. There's a possibility that he has been seeing other girls without me knowing. He wasn't honest and I snooped too and found an empty box of condoms and he said they were from us...I highly doubt that....I couldn't stand it anymore and told him that we needed a break because I needed time to myself....