Oddness
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I don't like tomboys or bratty girls. #2/6 are probably the best. I hate loud girls... like the Girls Gone Wild girls always screaming "Wooooo" i'm like shut up please.
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Is she 16 too? If she's 16 and talking about suicide on her "25th" birthday then it honestly sounds like more of a move for attention than anything. I really don't think many people plan suicides 9 years in advance and actualy follow through. That said, I wouldn't go discounting her or telling her to her face she's looking for attention. You certainly don't want to "dare" her to do it, if anything that would make her more likely to follow through.
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everyone always says coffee... i don't even know any "coffee places" nor do i like coffee!
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Heh, now I got a third option?!?! So let's see: 1) Ask her for date because anything else is indirect and gives wrong impression. 2) Ask her for number to avoid scaring her with "date." 3) Ask her to "hang out" to avoid "date." Considering every human on earth is the product of a man and woman getting together(well ok, test tube babies no) you'd think this stuff would be easier
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I'm really confused ... some people say you shouldn't ask someone out on a date right away, that you get the number, call them, and ask that way. But, some people say you only ask for a number if you're already in a social setting, like a club or party. I never really understood the difference, and I don't know "how" to ask for a number. I mean I can't just blurt out "HEY WHATS YOUR NUMBER?" I'm 21 ... the girl is in one of my college classes so we talk after class usualy on the way to the parking lot, so it's not a social setting. Since we have no mutual friends i'm just going to have to throw something out there, can anyone explain the semantics of this? Date or number?! Possible lines would help too
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Well I have kissed before... one time i was at work and with my friend, his girlfriend's best friend stopped by and saw me, and i guess thought I looked nice, she asked my friend if i was single (lol yea) and then she walked up to me and we basically rambled at eachother for a few min until my friend was like "omg just trade numbers already." The date went horribly 2 nights later, but at the end we ended up kissing (??) so the next day she told my friend that it was an absolutly horrible date, and i did agree. I still can't figure out why she initiated the kiss, women are weird. I've decided, mainly in the past 2 days, my shyness is just really my fear of what others think of me, you know afraid of being a fool. I don't even care anymore if this girl says yes, I'm asking her the next time i see her(could be awhile ... spring break...) no scripted lines, no rehearsals in my head. Conquering this fear has proven more important to me than what anyone else could possibly think of me. I don't think your shyness has to be permanent, you know the problem, and identifying a problem is always the first step to a solution. I've realized 21 isn't old, neither is 23... the only time it's too late is when you're dead and that will probably be some time away. Sooo yea, i'm asking this damned girl out i don't care if she pulls out a can of mace and sprays me in the eye and then gets on a loudspeaker and mocks me, i'll live. Big talk i know, hopefully i can follow through.
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Well my 2 best friends are both 22... and are going to get married right after college(to girls aged 20 and 19.) I don't think 22 is that young to get married... i mean after college I think it might be a lot harder to meet people. Although I am a hardscience major so there's not many girls floating around the physics building. The history building thinks everyone in the math and science area are lepers or something. I miss the freshman classes with 500 of the womens.
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> I've tried to let it happen naturaly, that doesn't seem to get me anywhere. Guys are supposed to be the aggressors, I don't want to sit back and wait for someone to come to me. I know the problem is me ](*,)
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Remember, no matter how low your life is, there is someone who is lower. Behold.>> What exactly is holding you back? I've personaly been out with 4 girls in my life... 3 of them asked me out, and i was setup with the other by a friend. I found them all attractive... physicaly, but had zero in common with them. I don't think 1-2 dates counts as a girlfriend, but atleast it covers my butt when my friends start prying into my personal life heh. Have you tried online dating? I've never tried it, but if you're 32 you should be really throwing it out there i think. You're still young, so it's not hopeless, but by 32 I would be going after every possible method, personals, online listings, etc.
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This is something I never understood... what's the difference between asking for a phone number and a date, and how do you ask for a #... then it seems like you'd have the problem of when to call and still have to ask. Ick I've gotten over it today heh, i was really mad at myself for not asking. I guess i'll have another chance to try... if i didn't have to drive i'd drink some alcohol beforehand to loosen up heh. One advantage to being gay is not always having to be the guy ... to bad guys are ugly
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Are you sure your real issue isn't with people your own age? That one line you said seemed to generalize all people your age, maybe you think a relationship with him would elevate you above them?? 17 and 30+ is really huge, and it could get him in a lot of trouble with his job. Atleast make sure you keep your mind open to people your age!
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I'm not that concerned about sex ... If I wanted sex I know an area of town with some street hookers lol. I mean when it happens i'll definitly be all over that, but I'm more scared of being alone, sounds gay i know.
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well the problem is the only time i really see her is after our advanced calc class on the way to the parking lot.... that's it. I'm just afraid after school i'll never have anymore opprotunities, gives me kind of a sense of urgency to find someone or atleast get better. If "every single" one of my friends wasn't engaged or in a relationship i might not feel like such a loser. Oh what sucks to is my 2 best friends are, in my honest opinion, less physicaly attractive then i think most girls would find me, yet because they don't suck they are both engaged to 2 incredible women. I wonder how many guys actualy make it to 21 without ever having a girlfriend? It seems like the entire world is hooked up, because that's all i ever see.
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What happened yesterday? Welllllll, yesterday was last day before spring break in one of my class. So i had it all rehearsed on how i was gonna ask someone out who i've had a crush on. You know how conversations never go how you rehearse? Well this one did, right up until the point i was supposed to ask her out lol. So we got to our cars and all I could say was "See ya later!" I dunno what happened, it just wouldn't come out. I'm 99 percent sure she likes me... she hasn't tried to hide it. Not much in this world scares me like the opposite sex!!!
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21 years old and never had a girlfriend. What the hell is wrong with me? I perform well in only one type of situation: familiar environments. I'm confident and can talk good at school and work, because I know those places. But when i'm around someone i don't know, or worse yet i'm with someone i don't know in a strange place... i just shut down. I think my friends would be surprised if they found out i've never had a girlfriend... i've been approached, even asked out, by numerous girls, but i always manage to screw it up. Yesterday was the kicker, i've never been more mad at myself. Just needed to vent