Rubypaul

it sounds from your post like the guy you broke up with is a respectable character, and it also sounds like, if you haven't talked in three weeks, you have a remarkable amount of courage and self restraint. Good job! I have been tempted to play games like the cell phone trick before. (Once I had a friend call an ex from my phone and say she'd found the phone and did he know who it belonged to? Could he please return it to its owner for her...) The thing is, though somewhat mischevious, these tricks never quite work out in the end for me. Usually, even if I don't want the space, I really need it in order to mourn the relationship and get on with it. If you really want to be friends with him, like you say, then give yourself enough time to heal so that you are not testing him when you contact him. Hold back, and if you're losing your willpower, post here.

Deat Lucy in the Sky, I totally hear you on the hope and prayer for a religion, or for anything that will make the grief process better, easier, and something that is sensible. I lost my five-year-old goddaughter two and a half years ago. The process of learning to live again was long and arduous. I spent a long time wanting to scream at everyone, ignore everyone, wish harm upon all young healthy children. For a long time, it felt like I was in a fog. Then, little by little, things got better. I can't even describe it exactly, I can only say that you should trust the world to bring you the same path of healing that you say your brother had found. And in the process, whenever you can and it doesn't feel too painful, express yourself.

Ok, call me a sucker. No, wait, please don't call me that. I'm already hurt. I was quite close to my best friend, and we started dating last August. Several times, my friend, whom I'll call T, wasn't honest with me about things. Mostly, T was seeing someone else, and because T knew it would hurt me, kept it a secret and told me after the fact. We just had a lovely New Year's together and I thought we had really worked through the conversations we needed to have about honesty and communication. I thought we were casually dating and that we both had leeway to see other people. Now T tells me the other girl is coming home to meet the parents later this month - for a two-week visit. I'm feeling more like the other woman than the best friend. I had no idea they were that serious and feel like I should have protected myself, and I also feel like I never want to talk to T again and maybe I've just lost my best friend...advice?