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Thanks everyone

lol, my thoughts exactly.

Well, I guess that makes sense. I haven't had the chance to do anything similar anymore, and I guess that's why she hasn't looked at me with that face again. Well I guess I'll try to do what you said. Thank you both. Wish me good luck

Just a question that may seem simple to all you dating/love/"whatever you want to call it" veterans out there: Ok I'll start by giving some info: There's a girl I like a lot, and I don't think she even knows I exist... I don't stare at her (I can't do that... somehow I feel very awkward when looking at someone too much, no matter who they are... it could be the teacher, but I still can't stare. It can be someone talking to me, and I just gotta turn my face constantly even as I speak, or I start like shaking... pretty messed up, huh?). But a couple of times I saw her, and she looked at me with an angry face... And I can't help but wonder what I have done... I mean, there was this time the teacher didn't give us enough of this handouts, and I gave her mine and went to look for another one, and when I came back, there she was looking at me with the angry face... Is being a gentleman a crime? she sits in a place with friends of her in like the last row, and I can't even see her very often... I mean, I do think she's cute, but why would she be angry? Anyway, I haven't noticed how she looks at me recently... But I think she doesn't look angry anymore. But the thing is that everytime I see her, she never looks at me like I don't exist. Now, I think that is probably normal. But why did she look at me angrily before? Was she so disgusted at my appearance that she was angry at the fact that I might have found her attractive? So, I'm having second thoughts about being friendly to her, and just backing off or something, because I did think about trying to get to know her better once but long ago when the school year was young... This is a pretty complicated explanation, and maybe I've noticed far too many details (and some of them maybe are all in my head) on a sitaution of minor importance... But I still wanna know if I should even try, or find a more "normal" girl I could start something with... So, my questions are: What should I do? What does she think? I know the only way of knowing is talking to her, but I mean, Isn't it kinda obvious already?

That's what I meant. So, for example, should I ask like Hey, I think it'd be cool for us to go see ____ in the movies sometime, or something more like Would you go see ____ with me? Im just not sure how I shoud word it. Please help

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this. But I have a question. I have a friend from a school I used to go to. And well, we really never saw each other back then. So, this may count as a cyber-relationship. Anyway, I was wondering what could I say if I wanted to see her. You know, like paying her a small visit and just hanging out as friends. It doesn't matter if I have to sound "romantic" in the process, but I don't want it to sound too "romantic". Also, should I tell her to bring friends, what? What would be the better idea. Thanks y'all.

I really am not sure of what's going on... Sometimes I wish I stood up for myself and others way more often... could that have anything to do with this?

well, actually my problem is more of expressing anger healthily than anything else... I mean, sometimes I don't express my anger at all, but it builds up like computer guy said. Also, about the accident with the car, he was supposed to yield, but instead he decided to go on while I was already in front of him, as if I wasn't even there and they even pushed me, but nothing happened... it was very weird, but I just know that something bad could have happened and that it was his fault because he was supposed to yield. And I seriously felt like throwing a big stone or something and I even stood there considering like opening his door and pulling him out... I mean, it's stuff like that that get on my nerves. I dunno, maybe what happens is that I should express my anger more often, or that I need anger management, but I do wish I could do more in reprisal to that sort of thing... and I think about doing it and when I'm like "prepared" to do something and think "alright, seriously, this time, no more mr. nice guy", it's like people know and don't do anything even when I expected them to and I was prepared for them to do it... I also used to be very destructive towards objects when I was little. And I expressed my anger less rarely and I never felt like I wanted to do more in reprisal, or that I maybe need anger management... So, what was so different back then? I dunno... I guess I'll try those things, like hitting the bag and stuff. And about wanting to prove something to someone, I don't think that would be the case, because I really don't have anything to prove to anyone, except, perhaps, myself? I dunno, all I know is that I'm starting already to give up on living up to my parent's expectations, because it's simply impossible to be who they want me and expect me to be. So, should I look for professional help?

hello everyone. Ok, here's my situation: I usually try to stay as cool as I can all the time, and it takes something really big to really piss me off. But sometimes, like today, I was walking out of school and some dipstick (I meant something else, but you know you can't write cuss words here...) almost ran me over with his car because those little retards always get out in such a hurry from the student parking lot. I swear that if I had had something to throw at him, I would have done it... I mean, he didn't even stop to say sorry, but it was all so fast that all I could do was say "what the hell (actually, this last word was the 4-lettered word, and I screamed it)?", and when I was turning around, I wished I had something in my hands, but I didn't, and he took off. Anyway, that's another issue... Well, it was just an example. I mean, sometimes I feel like I want to beat people up, and sometimes I just don't. And mysteriously enough, it's only when I'm experiencing the latter that some people want to mess with me (nothing serious, but they do get on my nerves sometimes). It's just too weird, that when I'm really pissed because I had a rough day, nobody messes with me, but when I'm happy, they do. Anyway, sometimes I wish I could do more to get my anger out faster, because usually, when I don't, I always plan for the next time, and since this "plan" is usually worse than what I'd do if I acted instantaneously and sometimes I get into trouble. It's just weird, because sometimes I'm in a "you're not going to make me angry" mode, and I do almost nothing against people who get on my nerves or do bad stuff, but sometimes I'm in a "I'll beat the living hell out of him if he touches me-mode" and that's when nobody messes with me even when I'm expecting them to, and I end up wondering "what happened? wasn't he supposed to come and get on my nerves?"... it's almost as if they knew there could be consequences, so they just leave me alone. It's like, when I want to do I just sometimes feel like a coward, but I know I'm not one (not at least 100%). I dunno... I wish I could do more things mainly because sometimes I see people being treated unfairly, and I'd like to help them. You know, like a vigilante of some sort that could help others and himself. But I just can't bring myself up to that... So, my question is, if those things are what I want, should I try to do them, or do I need something like anger management? PS: I won't do anything crazy or bad.

I'm not that jealous really... but the fact that she might feel lonely makes me sad, because I'm used to being lonely, and I can bet all my money that she isn't... I consider myself a mature guy, and I'd be really serious about this kind of things... I think I'll go with the friendship thing, then. I just would like to have some base for next year, then... You know, so she has an idea about who I am, and that I'm not that bad... Does that make sense? Well, please give me more tips...

I think you should do exactly what Francis said... I'm in a situation with an LDR too, but I'm the one who moved 3 hours away and it will be just for a year. For more information, here's the link: link removed Do you think I should put my jealousy aside and go for it? Please, I need help too...

I detest high school... I'm just sure my parents would understand. My brother was in a similar situation but he didn't even have a car, and my parents helped him big time back then... Ok, but what should I do, then? I once told her that maybe there was no need for me to visit her because we were just friends, but she kept saying that I would never see her... I know that's not true. If she did want me to see her, then I would. What is more of my concern is, well you, I'm kind of jealous like an above poster said... What should I do, then? Should I try to develop this friendship with her until the year's over? And then what? How do I keep this friendship alive?

By the way, that just meant that I would understand, not that I wouldn't get insanely angry if she did cheat on me (it's the last thing I'd want to happen to me...). So, do you think I should somehow find out if she would? Just what should I do? I've never been in real relationship, and LDRs are no exception... So, advice would be very greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Hi everyone. I'm new to this forums. I've hung around for a while and I like the good advice given by everyone... Ok, here's my problem: I'm a tenth grader (will start 10th grade in a couple of weeks...). I've never been in a real relationship (the only other girl I've been "involved" with was more like a brother/sister relationship...) I met this gorgeous girl in 9th grade... I've never seen any other girl as beautiful as her... Ok, I moved to a place 3 hours away, and decided to ask her email. We've spoken a couple of times and everything seemed to be going great. Until when she stated that I should forget her because she thinks I'll never see her. I've never met anyone who is as nice (I think...) and beautiful as her... Well, the question is: Should I start an LDR with her? I mean, I'd try to see her at least 2-3 times a month (except when there's holidays, when I'd go see her immediately...). Besides, it'd just be for a year... but you see, that's the good side... the bad side is that I don't want her to feel lonely... I don't think she would cheat on me, but if she did, I think I would understand (I wouldn't cheat on her, but it's because I'm used to being lonely, but I don't think she is...). So, does anyone think it's worth it? I'd like to promise her I will see her at least 2-3 times each month, but if there are any significant setbacks, then I think I can't promise such a thing... I've fallen for her, and no other girl I've met has made me feel like her... So, do you think it's worth it? If so, could you give me any tips on keeping the LDR alive for 1 year? If she really thinks I would never see her, she's very very wrong... Just, what are my options?