Lost_Hope

Thanks very much for the advice mouse_potato, really does mean alot that you took time to reply to my post. We've both sat down and talked about how long ill be away for during training, when ill be able to come back home, and the possibility of being on Tour. We both came to the conclusion that what we have in our relationship, even if has been for 3 months, is way too special to just give up on even if i am away. But we both agree on the fact that we will play things by ear when i leave, so as not to get our hopes up to high on when i can take my leave. Thanks again to everyone that posted, really does mean alot.

Same thing happned to a friend of mine. I used to be a Sergeant in the Army Cadets for a time, became really good friends with this girl. After a few months of her joining she started going out with this guy. If memory serves me correctly he was a Lance Corporal. Anyway what happened was she turned this guy down bacuase she wasnt ready to have sex, thats when things started getting nasty. He started pulling Rank, spreading nasty rumours about her, and getting her to do things that she should be doing e.g cleaning the Bathrooms. She didnt quit, she took it straight to the CO, and had it sorted out, they bust him back down to private where he belonged... I guess what im saying is, dont quit just cos of of your Ex. If you feel the Army is the way you want to go, then dont let anything get in your way. You just need to focus on getting through things. If he starts pulling Rank, then you need to talk to your CO, another member of your Troop, or tell him that he needs to grow up and stop being quite so immature. Good Luck Sorry if i sounded a bit harsh >_

I just wanted to say thanks to you both, it means a lot to me that you took time to pass on some of your wisdom. Shadows Light - You're right about trying to make things more romantic and not breaking down. I'm aiming to cook a nice romantic dinner in the next few days, to show her that i really do love her and no matter where I am I'll still feel the same. We agree'd to sit down and talk about the whole Army life at some point. DN - I have to agree that beening posted in Whitehall and on mounted duty will make things so much easier on both of us. It's good to know that I'll be able to jump on the train and be able to see her on weekends. I definatly know it will take some of the strain off. Thanks again, Lost_Hope

I'll keep this quick and simple, i would like this post to be delete. Sadly the person who compossed this, a very close friend of mine, died several weeks after submitting this post. It would mean alot to me if this post would either be left to die, as i thought had been the case, or delete from the forum. Thanks very much. Lost_Hope

Hey everyone, not sure really where to start, so I guess I'll take it from the top. Several months ago I broke up from an 8 month relationship, prolly the worst I've ever been in.. She spoke to and treated me like I was something she just scraped off the bottom of her shoe. Anyhow, in september she went away to college. At the end of September/beggining of October we broke up after I found out she was sleeping with some other guy. I can't say I ever loved her but I was hurt and prolly made the most "mature?" decision I have and am likely to ever make in my life. I enroled into the British Armed Forces (Household Cavalry - Blues and Royals). Several weeks down the line I was at a late b.day party/get together, when I met the most amazing girl. She was funny, smart, beautiful, and great to be around. I told myself that I wasn't ready to be with someone else just yet, but things that night led to the most amazing relationship I've ever had. We've been going strong for 3 months, but had our ups and downs. Most of the time its because of the army. She's scared that I'm going to stop loving her, meet someone else, or worse get shipped out to War/Peace keeping in 6 months time. It almost always ends up with us breaking down into tears. The worst part of it is that I'm having serious mood swings because I let it get to me... Few days ago I walked out of the house leaving her crying on our bed. I know it wasn't the right thing to do, but I'm so scared. I dont think she realises how scared I am, I try not to let it show and just put on a brave face so as not to worry her and get her thinking about it. What scares me the most is the fact that she will stop loving me, find someone else because I can't be around all the time, or well I dunno... I guess I just need some advice, I've not been in a long distance relationship before. Is there anyone here in the British Armed Forces or American Army that is in the same position, in the army and in a relationship, or just a long-distance relationship in general that could help me out. It's just she means ever so much to me and I couldnt bare losing her. I know we both want a future together and I want nothing else but to give her and us that future together... Really sorry if its long winded but I thought it would be best... sorry

There's this girl ive know for about 2 years now, on and off. And recently we've started talking again. It started 4 years ago when i moved out to Rome, Italy. I was 14 at the time and couldnt speak a word of italian, which is ironic really, considering im Anglo-Italian. Anyhow i was thrown straight into the italian system, no matter how much i tried i didnt fit in. But there was this girl who would everyday talk to me in a mix of italian/english, and help me out when i needed it. We became good friends even with the language barrier. Then I changed school without leaving a phone number, address or any infomation on where i was. In 2002 i was out with friends, and out of the blue i saw her at the pub i went to often and impressed her at how well i spoke Italian. We made a thing to meet every weekend and have a drink together. The summer holidays came, and we lost contact. Then about 2 months ago she somehow got my msn address. We now speak every other day due to our programms for the week. Ive grown more and more fond of her, then on Saturday we meet for the first time since 2002 and it was like old times. Any way the thing is, i really like her, but im moving back to England in 2weeks, and im not sure how to tell her that ive liked her from the age of 14, and would lke to try and see if things worked between the both of us. soz for the rant but im dead confused right now, and any help and advice would be brill

ummm this is kinda my first post and feels weird asking for advice but here goes... I was more or less wondering if masturbation can or eventually lead to impudence. This unfourtunatly sprange to mind when i was chatting with mates, and i started wondering if it would lead to any erectile disfunction when in bed with my gf... any feed back to put at rest or worry me even more ( ) would be of great help.. thanks