Hiya
I am 33 year old female and my 32 husband of 13 years dumped me for a 19 year old blonde. I now look at myself. I haven't put on weight or dressed differently for years. What I would say is that I have become a nag at home because of money. Obviously a 19 years blonde with no money worries, no mortgage, and no baggages is much more attractive that some who says no you can't have this or you can't go there. Which would you choose.
I realise now that I turned myself into that nagging person. Instead of letting him be who he wants to be. He used to fishing and ask me to come along. I always said no that I wasn't interested or he used to say lets go to the pub and watch the football. I said no because I wasn't interested in football. So I would sit at home while he did the fun things he wanted to do. I did surprise myself once by going to see a football match with him and ended up having a really brilliant time. The key is to do things together even if you are not interested in them. Being together is the key. The football was the trigger to us having a good time together.
He has left me now and is with someone who probably does these thing with him as she wants to please him but there will come a time when she lets him know she is not interested in them and will realise that he does not like the things she does.
Going forward if I meet someone else I know now that it doesn't matter what you do together just being together is very important in a relationship.
Sorry to go on a bit but he only left me on Tuesday so I am trying to come to terms with it but putting in words.
Thanks for listening.
Regards
Janet